Girlfriend Is Leaving. Sex Is Wanted. Advice Please.

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#1 atm0073
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Hey guys; I haven't been on the forums at all lately on the count of recent exams, and the end of school, et cetera.

Anyways, here's my predicament:

My girlfriend of two weeks (also good friend of about a month, and friend of about 5 months) is moving from where I live. She is leaving in two weeks, while I am leaving much sooner... only one week from yesterday :( . She is a really amazing person, and I had no idea until I actually started dating her (which was a big mistake on my part, because I had the whole year to meet this girl, and crappy fate led me to only meeting her so soon before her leaving). We claim to love each other, which is big for both of us, and we really mean it.

And, because this girl is really special to me, I have decided that I want to have sex with her. She has given me mixed views about the subject, sometimes giving the impression that she wouldn't want to have sex with me, and others making it seem as if she eventually wants to, and is open to it. She and I are both non-virgins, so there is no issue there.

So, what I am curious about is how I should go about approaching the situation. Should I ask her beforehand, or surprise her with it? I had originally planned to woo her with alcohol and gifts on a night soon before I leave, but if I ask of her approval beforehand, some of those things may not be needed. Plus, I do not know where she stands with the subject matter, so that could factor into how she would react to me surprising her or telling her beforehand.

So, any advice?

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#2 StaticPenguin
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Just get a hooker.

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#3 Teenaged
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No dont use alcohol, cause she may regret it when she sobers up and then you will be in a much more difficult situation and regret it yourself.

I always think those things are spontaneous. Neither rushed nor analysed to death beforehand.

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#4 Teenaged
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Just get a hooker.

Raikoh_

I bet you didnt read the TC's post... >_>

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#5 uberbra
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get some crayola markers, nail clippers, and some cranberry sauce to scare away the dwarves

you do the math, and your problem shall be solved

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#6 StaticPenguin
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[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

Just get a hooker.

Teenaged

I bet you didnt read the TC's post... >_>

Not at all.

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#7 Teenaged
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[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

Just get a hooker.

Raikoh_

I bet you didnt read the TC's post... >_>

Not at all.

You should.

The topic's title is indeed misleading compared to what the issue really is.

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#8 FFCYAN
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Be straight up with it. No use beating around the bush so to speak.:P

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#9 StaticPenguin
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[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]I bet you didnt read the TC's post... >_>

Teenaged

Not at all.

You should.

The topic's title is indeed misleading compared to what the issue really is.

All I know is the TC girlfriend is leaving and he wants to do it with her.

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#10 Teenaged
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[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

Not at all.

Raikoh_

You should.

The topic's title is indeed misleading compared to what the issue really is.

All I know is the TC girlfriend is leaving and he wants to do it with her.

Fine! :evil:

But you should know you are degrading the quality of the advice being handed in these girl-help threads!

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#11 Aquat1cF1sh
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[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]You should.

The topic's title is indeed misleading compared to what the issue really is.

Teenaged

All I know is the TC girlfriend is leaving and he wants to do it with her.

Fine! :evil:

But you should know you are degrading the quality of the advice being handed in these girl-help threads!

:lol: :lol: For some reason that made me laugh really hard. :P
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#12 MuddVader
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I dont think you should at all, dont be a sex fiend. Relationships should be for the love you feel, not what your **** wants to feel.
If it happens or the opporotunity opens up to where that happens, than great, you got what you wanted. But otherwise if she isnt ready its never cool to push a girl to have sex with you. Doesnt sound like thats what she wants. Its probably best just to enjoy what little time you guys have together and have fun. Show her you truely love her and that you'll miss her, if you get sex by chance, again, great, whatever, but atleast otherwise you know you have her heart.

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#13 StaticPenguin
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[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]You should.

The topic's title is indeed misleading compared to what the issue really is.

Teenaged

All I know is the TC girlfriend is leaving and he wants to do it with her.

Fine! :evil:

But you should know you are degrading the quality of the advice being handed in these girl-help threads!

But OT doesnt ever really seem to like girl help threads.

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#14 effena
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If she's going to be leaving, I would take the safe route and flatter her with gifts. If you just ask her before hand, she may not really be all for it, then you've totally missed the boat.

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#15 Jackboot343
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Do you intend on keeping in contact with her after she leaves?

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#16 Teenaged
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[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

All I know is the TC girlfriend is leaving and he wants to do it with her.

Raikoh_

Fine! :evil:

But you should know you are degrading the quality of the advice being handed in these girl-help threads!

But OT doesnt ever really seem to like girl help threads.

Tsk tsk, thats completely irrelevant!

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#17 StaticPenguin
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[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]Fine! :evil:

But you should know you are degrading the quality of the advice being handed in these girl-help threads!

Teenaged

But OT doesnt ever really seem to like girl help threads.

Tsk tsk, thats completely irrelevant!

Fine! Then here's my advise. Just use some Chloroform and a washcloth. Place it over her mouth until she passes out then dip your stick. Just make sure you're out before she wakes up.

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#18 Kenny789
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"Hey baybeh, I'm leaving in a week. Don't you wanna...see me off with a BANG?! Booyah!"
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#19 Teenaged
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[QUOTE="Teenaged"]

[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

But OT doesnt ever really seem to like girl help threads.

Raikoh_

Tsk tsk, thats completely irrelevant!

Fine! Then here's my advise. Just use some Chloroform and a washcloth. Place it over her mouth until she passes out then dip your stick. Just make sure you're out before she wakes up.

Detailing does not make for quality advice! :evil:

Now you ruined it! :x

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#20 StaticPenguin
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[QUOTE="Raikoh_"]

[QUOTE="Teenaged"]Tsk tsk, thats completely irrelevant!

Teenaged

Fine! Then here's my advise. Just use some Chloroform and a washcloth. Place it over her mouth until she passes out then dip your stick. Just make sure you're out before she wakes up.

Detailing does not make for quality advice! :evil:

Now you ruined it! :x

I like to think it was ruined when the hooker idea was dropped.

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#21 Bioshockraptor
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And, because this girl is really special to me, I have decided that I want to have sex with her. atm0073
That's not the way to go man. I say give up on the idea, and I don't want to comment any further :|.
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#22 MuddVader
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Its funny how when i feel i gave actual good advice, no one notices lol. :?

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#23 StaticPenguin
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Its funny how when i feel i gave actual good advice, no one notices lol. :?

MuddVader

I'm sorry. We are not here for your shenanigans. Good advice is frowned upon! :(

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#24 effena
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Its funny how when i feel i gave actual good advice, no one notices lol. :?

MuddVader

Welcome to OT.

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#25 Teenaged
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Its funny how when i feel i gave actual good advice, no one notices lol. :?

MuddVader

Mine too. :?

And all we get is those immature people who cant feel for their fellow OTers! :evil: :cry:

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#26 horgen  Moderator
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Home alone date. Make it romantic.
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#27 StaticPenguin
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I dont think it's that no one noticed honestly, the TC just hasn't come back after posting his cry for help. He's the only one looking for this advice.

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#28 lonewolf604
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hit it then quit it?
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#29 atm0073
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Thanks guys. I just felt that having sex (or "making love" since we're supposedly in love) with this girl would be a good way to end our amazing relationship, though some of you say that I shouldn't take that approach. I still don't know, but again, thank you all for your words of advice.
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#30 mr__gameboy
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or telling her beforehand.

atm0073
as opposed to afterward
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#31 MuddVader
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[QUOTE="atm0073"]

or telling her beforehand.

mr__gameboy

as opposed to afterward


lol, damn you. That made me laugh pretty hard and i had to hold it in because its so late ._.

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#32 XilePrincess
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surprise sex can very easily = rape charges, so be careful. ask her how she feels, if she says she wants to, go ahead, if she says no, respect it and move along.
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#33 Phenom316
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In highschool ay, alright. Invite her over, you know, for a movie and take-out. Dont keep your mind on it (i know its hard, HA), just have a good time. Ask her for a drink, if she asks what youve got mension alcohol, if shes for it then shes for it. Worst comes to worst, you have a relaxing night with the woman you love. Girls think bout these things more than us, she knows you wanna ****, so just set the mood. Stoned while writing this, but hope it helps. Also had a good laugh at some of Raikoh_'s comments, happy some of you guys are just taking it easy. I mean, were all here to have a good time ay
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#34 Dogswithguns
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Ask her to stay, if she's wont stay, then you shouldnt be asking for sex....
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#35 ReaversRevenge
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Rope,drugs and a shovel case sh*t hits the fan....oh and dont tell anyone your going to meet her! (press X to combine shovel with dont tell anyone your going to meet her ) or you could jst ask her......
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#36 Shadowhawk000
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Well..... Go To Amsterdam and go to ...If you want that kinda thing :P :lol:
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#37 -Pred-Alien-
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You rush it and youre going to regret it, give her space.
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#38 clembo1990
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Be real and talk about it. Ask her at a good time like when you're both sitting down or getting along really well. You can be as reasonable as possible but she'll blow you off if you ask her at the wrong time.
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#39 Bumzur
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You guys love eachother and haven't had sex yet? Unusual these days.
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#40 anDy-PeNGuiN
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You guys love eachother and haven't had sex yet? Unusual these days.Bumzur

Yeah things work in opposites these days. No love = constant sex.

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#41 Wings_008
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Hey guys; I haven't been on the forums at all lately on the count of recent exams, and the end of school, et cetera.

Anyways, here's my predicament:

My girlfriend of two weeks (also good friend of about a month, and friend of about 5 months) is moving from where I live. She is leaving in two weeks, while I am leaving much sooner... only one week from yesterday :( . She is a really amazing person, and I had no idea until I actually started dating her (which was a big mistake on my part, because I had the whole year to meet this girl, and crappy fate led me to only meeting her so soon before her leaving). We claim to love each other, which is big for both of us, and we really mean it.

And, because this girl is really special to me, I have decided that I want to have sex with her. She has given me mixed views about the subject, sometimes giving the impression that she wouldn't want to have sex with me, and others making it seem as if she eventually wants to, and is open to it. She and I are both non-virgins, so there is no issue there.

So, what I am curious about is how I should go about approaching the situation. Should I ask her beforehand, or surprise her with it? I had originally planned to woo her with alcohol and gifts on a night soon before I leave, but if I ask of her approval beforehand, some of those things may not be needed. Plus, I do not know where she stands with the subject matter, so that could factor into how she would react to me surprising her or telling her beforehand.

So, any advice?

atm0073

tell her a romantic story trust me sometimes, just sometimes it works perfectly, also if you know her for a wholr year then its that awkward

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#42 CyberAltair5
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If she's special to you then you'd find better things to do before she leaves then sex.

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#43 effena
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If she's special to you then you'd find better things to do before she leaves then sex.

CyberAltair5

Too late. He already said he's gonna bang her :lol:

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#44 Maqda7
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Ask for good-bye sex.
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#45 bigblunt537
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just be smooth about it. Kiss her up rub up her body boom her **** is now wet. Go for it.

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#46 KHfanboy2
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When in doubt, whip it out. ;)

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#47 Funky_Llama
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Should I ask her beforehand, or surprise her with it?

atm0073

Lolwaffles >_>

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#48 Neon-Tiger
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Definitely surprise her with it. The outcome can only be good.
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#49 harry_james_pot  Moderator
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I don't think that having sex is a good way to end a relationship. Are you gonna stay in contact with her after she leaves?
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Step 1. Cut hole in the box Step 2. ......well you know the rest.