[QUOTE="dhyce"][QUOTE="n_kors"] They don't have to do anything to find guys. All they have to do is exist and the guys who approach first get the girls. n_kors
In highschool land, that generalization sort of works. But your perspective is so from the outside of what's going on. You're using examples you see at school? Remember, things are actually going on in these peopes lives you're not seeing, these two become friends, then consensually decide to date. Your description of the situation is pretty naive. Yes, the occasional young woman will immediately 'fall in lust' with a guy and the guy will do the same for her, so they'll decide to date quickly. And vice versa, of course. Outside of the land of puppy love, it's a very deep search for both sexes.
That's why most attractive girils are taken.n_kors
Attractive is subjective. I know the attractive cliche you're talking about, but remember, there are people looking for things that look nothing like the cliche. I could give a very long speech as to why the stereotypically 'attractive' young ladies are often taken, but I'll save it unless you or someone else would like me to. It's actually pretty simple.
Girls don't hold out for the guy who best fist their needs, they just go with the first guy who makes them laugh.n_kors
Laughter = a good time. Young people are mostly looking for a good time. The logic is, "If I date so and so, the reltionship will be a fun time filled with laughter." Are you really expecting bubbly people to pick the deep thinking loner? It's not that they go for the first person that comes along and makes them laugh either, again you're forgetting the fact that these people have lives, it seems to me anyway. They become friends and consensually decide to date. It's not that it isn't difficult for young girls to find a date, it's just that happy bubbly young people attract happy bubbly young people and have a good time together. Keeping in mind that most of the time these relationships end of failing.
I'm mostly referring to younger, teen to early 20s girls.n_kors
I noticed. :P
I do not believe that it is the men who are the pigs, in this day and age I think it is the women who are the pigs.n_kors
How so? Women have become, in this society, (especially a certain promoted stereotype) the in demand partner. It use to be men, as they provided for and generally were needed by women as soon as possible. But now, society has women on a throne high in the sky, because we no longer need a husband to survive, we're independant and practically treated like gods by the media, so things have switched around. Does that make us "pigs"? No, we can't help how the media portrays us. So women can be more choosy then we use to be for men, (or women) I fail to see how that is a bad thing.
Women get to choose, and they choose whoever comes along first.n_kors
No, not really. And again, it's consensual.
Guys don't have the luxury of choosing which girl comes along first because girls make a habbit of ignoring guys unless they are approached by guys.n_kors
Highschool politics much? People of both sexes generally don't pay much attention to those they do not know. People meet in school, work, through interaction become friends, and consensually decide to date. Your descriptions seem very secluded. Both sexes have difficulty finding the right person, we're both awkward sometimes, and some of us rush in thinking it will be a good time, or because being in a relationship is the thing to do. Bottom line is you're totally off base, look outside of the young crowd and at the real world.
As far as which sex approaches who, it is predominately the male who has to approach, and initiate. Trust me, I've tried to be "picked up" by girls before, and it is false, non-existent practice. Girls do not talk to guys. They sit around and wait for guys to talk to them. This is science I'm talking here. It's just the way we function.
No, it's a meme, not science, and a Highschool meme at that. The real issue is casual sex, the lack thereof.
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