Got any problems you don't mind sharing?

[QUOTE="blackldragon"]

6) I feel like there is no reason for me to help anyone because majority of the people don't show kindness to strangers. And people give me evil glances or if a girl is smiling and sees me they tend to change to a (attutide type) face.

7) I prefer to be alone, but I still yearn to be apart of something.

9) I think that I only have a few years left before I may finally lose my grip on reality.

camreeno360

It kind of depends on the aura you give out. If you slouch and dont carry yourself well, people will think you dont respect yourself. Same with if your not in good shape, clothes or hygiene. You have to respect yourself before others respect you.

I have no real problems.. that's my problem.

Edit: What I mean by that.. is theres no challenge thus far in my life. It's easier than eating cake.

Agriath

That's a bit of a comfortable problem. I hate to sound like I'm complaining, but I'd rather have that than my family problems.

[QUOTE="blackldragon"]

6) I feel like there is no reason for me to help anyone because majority of the people don't show kindness to strangers. And people give me evil glances or if a girl is smiling and sees me they tend to change to a (attutide type) face.

7) I prefer to be alone, but I still yearn to be apart of something.

9) I think that I only have a few years left before I may finally lose my grip on reality.

camreeno360

Yeah I remember some girls was looking back at me while they were walking and my mom was like oh look theres some girls are looking at you I just shrugged and said meh, because 1) they seemed like they might have been young and I can't afford jail bait due to family and being 18 is a b****. 2) I think or felt that they were actually making fun of me because they kept on laughing when they looked back ( I was glancing them out of the corner of my eye while playing my DS.)

[QUOTE="Agriath"]

I have no real problems.. that's my problem.

Edit: What I mean by that.. is theres no challenge thus far in my life. It's easier than eating cake.

Blood-Scribe

That's a bit of a comfortable problem. I hate to sound like I'm complaining, but I'd rather have that than my family problems.

True, I must say it isn't something I'd like change but some adversity would do me good as when I leave my parents house into the real world I'm sure there will be plenty of it.

[QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="Agriath"]

I have no real problems.. that's my problem.

Edit: What I mean by that.. is theres no challenge thus far in my life. It's easier than eating cake.

Agriath

That's a bit of a comfortable problem. I hate to sound like I'm complaining, but I'd rather have that than my family problems.

True, I must say it isn't something I'd like change but some adversity would do me good as when I leave my parents house into the real world I'm sure there will be plenty of it.

Well then if no one is challenging you, you're just going to have to challenge yourself.

[QUOTE="Agriath"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="Agriath"]

I have no real problems.. that's my problem.

Edit: What I mean by that.. is theres no challenge thus far in my life. It's easier than eating cake.

Blood-Scribe

That's a bit of a comfortable problem. I hate to sound like I'm complaining, but I'd rather have that than my family problems.

True, I must say it isn't something I'd like change but some adversity would do me good as when I leave my parents house into the real world I'm sure there will be plenty of it.

Well then if no one is challenging you, you're just going to have to challenge yourself.

Yeah, seems like that's what I'll need to do. Just need to motivate myself and decide what to challenge myself with.

[QUOTE="camreeno360"][QUOTE="blackldragon"]

6) I feel like there is no reason for me to help anyone because majority of the people don't show kindness to strangers. And people give me evil glances or if a girl is smiling and sees me they tend to change to a (attutide type) face.

7) I prefer to be alone, but I still yearn to be apart of something.

9) I think that I only have a few years left before I may finally lose my grip on reality.

Uzumaki_Naruto5

It kind of depends on the aura you give out. If you slouch and dont carry yourself well, people will think you dont respect yourself. Same with if your not in good shape, clothes or hygiene. You have to respect yourself before others respect you.

Hmm since you seem to be on the same page with aura, how would you suppose that I change this evil aura thats been looming over me a good while now. Most people think I'm either depressed or pissed off because of it, yet when I see too many people I tend to revert back to that aura.

[QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="Agriath"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="Agriath"]

I have no real problems.. that's my problem.

Edit: What I mean by that.. is theres no challenge thus far in my life. It's easier than eating cake.

Agriath

That's a bit of a comfortable problem. I hate to sound like I'm complaining, but I'd rather have that than my family problems.

True, I must say it isn't something I'd like change but some adversity would do me good as when I leave my parents house into the real world I'm sure there will be plenty of it.

Well then if no one is challenging you, you're just going to have to challenge yourself.

Yeah, seems like that's what I'll need to do. Just need to motivate myself and decide what to challenge myself with.

Hey if your an artist then try to make something that you may consider a master piece.

Just remebered one more problem that I have NOTE ANY RELIGOUS PERSON DO NOT READ YOUVE BEEN WARNED

I harber a slight hatred towards god sometimeseven more then satan. In all honesty, I catch myself thinking about killing both god and the devil.

Damn, this threads kinda depressing. Well i dont really have any major problems at the moment, just small things that annoy me. I guess ill let it out here, even though no one can help.

-So for the past 3 weeks or so ive been getting very close to this girl, and this is the closest ive ever really gotten to a girl. Shes really attractive, and i told her i like her and vice versa. We kiss, we cuddle, all that stuff and shes been over everyday for the past week. I really like her but i feel like shes too popular and were not going out yet. I dont know when to ask her cause she told me shes not ready, but it feels like were going out. Its weird and i dont like it.

-Because of this girl, ive been spending less and less time with my family and friends and been having less "me" time too. I hate this. I feel like im being such a **** to my friends and family and i hate that. I mean, its not like im getting into fights with them, its just i miss them. And this girl is becoming more and more and more attatched EVERY day and i do not like that at all. I just miss spending time withother people, and i feel bad for my family and friends cause im not there.

-It feels like ive changed around my friends. I dont know how, or even why, but i hate that too.We just dont hang out like we used to, and it feelsdifferent.

-I havent been able to just sit the hell down and relax atall. Ive been wanting to finish watching these Trigun DVDs for the past monthand its so annoying.

I guess thats it now.

[QUOTE="camreeno360"][QUOTE="blackldragon"]

6) I feel like there is no reason for me to help anyone because majority of the people don't show kindness to strangers. And people give me evil glances or if a girl is smiling and sees me they tend to change to a (attutide type) face.

7) I prefer to be alone, but I still yearn to be apart of something.

9) I think that I only have a few years left before I may finally lose my grip on reality.

blackldragon

Yeah I remember some girls was looking back at me while they were walking and my mom was like oh look theres some girls are looking at you I just shrugged and said meh, because 1) they seemed like they might have been young and I can't afford jail bait due to family and being 18 is a b****. 2) I think or felt that they were actually making fun of me because they kept on laughing when they looked back ( I was glancing them out of the corner of my eye while playing my DS.)

[QUOTE="Uzumaki_Naruto5"][QUOTE="camreeno360"][QUOTE="blackldragon"]

6) I feel like there is no reason for me to help anyone because majority of the people don't show kindness to strangers. And people give me evil glances or if a girl is smiling and sees me they tend to change to a (attutide type) face.

7) I prefer to be alone, but I still yearn to be apart of something.

9) I think that I only have a few years left before I may finally lose my grip on reality.

blackldragon

It kind of depends on the aura you give out. If you slouch and dont carry yourself well, people will think you dont respect yourself. Same with if your not in good shape, clothes or hygiene. You have to respect yourself before others respect you.

Hmm since you seem to be on the same page with aura, how would you suppose that I change this evil aura thats been looming over me a good while now. Most people think I'm either depressed or pissed off because of it, yet when I see too many people I tend to revert back to that aura.

[QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="Agriath"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="Agriath"]

I have no real problems.. that's my problem.

Edit: What I mean by that.. is theres no challenge thus far in my life. It's easier than eating cake.

Agriath

That's a bit of a comfortable problem. I hate to sound like I'm complaining, but I'd rather have that than my family problems.

True, I must say it isn't something I'd like change but some adversity would do me good as when I leave my parents house into the real world I'm sure there will be plenty of it.

Well then if no one is challenging you, you're just going to have to challenge yourself.

Yeah, seems like that's what I'll need to do. Just need to motivate myself and decide what to challenge myself with.

Hey if your an artist then try to make something that you may consider a master piece.

Just remebered one more problem that I have NOTE ANY RELIGOUS PERSON DO NOT READ YOUVE BEEN WARNED

I harber a slight hatred towards god sometimeseven more then satan. In all honesty, I catch myself thinking about killing both god and the devil.

Umm, now I hate to say this but physical appearance has a lot do with the aura or vibe you give out. Ive seen people completely go out of their way to help hot chicks and then completely ignore the ugly ones. Society is kind of screwed up like that and even though I hate myself for it, I tend to do that too. So, basically just get a good haircut, stay clean, acne treatment if you need any, contacts against glasses.

Also, if its possible start working out. I dont know if your skinny or fat but just start. I recommend you to join forum.bodybuilding.com . People there are very helpful and if you want to take up weightlifting, its all you need for advice. PM me if you decide to join. Since I started lifting, people(both guys and girls) respect me a whole lot more.

Also, be nice to everyone. Dont believe the stupid movies that the media throws out that all the popular kids are jerks or something in school. From my experience, there usually really nice. Be nice to everyone, no matter how low you think they are.

And you have to get rid of depression. Look into whats causing you to be depressed, and eliminate it. Weightlifting helps with that too.

And dont be creepy.

Well I'm tempted to just get a bunch of people to help me change the way society values people....But I keep saying "Hell with it....How far will I possibly go with that?". I keep thinking that some day there will be this big societal revolution where people start to realise we're all just genetic outcomes and that the better looking people are just a winning lottery ticket on the current trend of what facial features are good looking....Seriously, just think how much better everyone would be? Yeah I'll start dreaming...camreeno360

Damn, thats some deep stuff man. I kind of agree with you though. I yearn for a societal revolution, because i think overall our whole society is not in a goodstate now. Its so goddam messedup sometimes, i cant help but wonder how everything got this way.But even though this is going against your reasoning, i think that everything happens for a reason, and were all here to do something. Ill be the first one to help you out on the revolutionthough, man.

Umm, now I hate to say this but physical appearance has a lot do with the aura or vibe you give out. Ive seen people completely go out of their way to help hot chicks and then completely ignore the ugly ones. Society is kind of screwed up like that and even though I hate myself for it, I tend to do that too. So, basically just get a good haircut, stay clean, acne treatment if you need any, contacts against glasses.

Also, if its possible start working out. I dont know if your skinny or fat but just start. I recommend you to join forum.bodybuilding.com . People there are very helpful and if you want to take up weightlifting, its all you need for advice. PM me if you decide to join. Since I started lifting, people(both guys and girls) respect me a whole lot more.

Also, be nice to everyone. Dont believe the stupid movies that the media throws out that all the popular kids are jerks or something in school. From my experience, there usually really nice. Be nice to everyone, no matter how low you think they are.

And you have to get rid of depression. Look into whats causing you to be depressed, and eliminate it. Weightlifting helps with that too.

And dont be creepy.

Uzumaki_Naruto5

Well I'm not fat but not skinny either more like average with a light pudgy stomech but I have a huge shoulder width. Really I have the perfect body for body building, and I used to lift weights, but I stoped. I've heard alot of girls call me cute or not bad looking before, yet I still think they might be lieing. And I'm nice to everyone hell I filled up this person who I don't really know alot gas up full even though they said they only need about 10 dollers worth. I'm 100% against discrimination so I will help out anyone once they ask or I feel like doing something nice unoticed.

And I do have this one girl who likes me however she's slightly retarded and has 2 girlfriends and a boyfriend. I swear I always get the strange ones. Except for two one of which I really wish I went for and the other I thought that she would be better off with someone else.

I know why I'm depressed I've always knew its because I don't feel like I belong anywhere at all.

It's not that I'm creepy its more like they think I might kill them. I've heard several remarks with people saying they think I'm about to kill somebody.

[QUOTE="Uzumaki_Naruto5"]

Umm, now I hate to say this but physical appearance has a lot do with the aura or vibe you give out. Ive seen people completely go out of their way to help hot chicks and then completely ignore the ugly ones. Society is kind of screwed up like that and even though I hate myself for it, I tend to do that too. So, basically just get a good haircut, stay clean, acne treatment if you need any, contacts against glasses.

Also, if its possible start working out. I dont know if your skinny or fat but just start. I recommend you to join forum.bodybuilding.com . People there are very helpful and if you want to take up weightlifting, its all you need for advice. PM me if you decide to join. Since I started lifting, people(both guys and girls) respect me a whole lot more.

Also, be nice to everyone. Dont believe the stupid movies that the media throws out that all the popular kids are jerks or something in school. From my experience, there usually really nice. Be nice to everyone, no matter how low you think they are.

And you have to get rid of depression. Look into whats causing you to be depressed, and eliminate it. Weightlifting helps with that too.

And dont be creepy.

blackldragon

Well I'm not fat but not skinny either more like average with a light pudgy stomech but I have a huge shoulder width. Really I have the perfect body for body building, and I used to lift weights, but I stoped. I've heard alot of girls call me cute or not bad looking before, yet I still think they might be lieing. And I'm nice to everyone hell I filled up this person who I don't really know alot gas up full even though they said they only need about 10 dollers worth. I'm 100% against discrimination so I will help out anyone once they ask or I feel like doing something nice unoticed.

And I do have this one girl who likes me however she's slightly retarded and has 2 girlfriends and a boyfriend. I swear I always get the strange ones. Except for two one of which I really wish I went for and the other I thought that she would be better off with someone else.

I know why I'm depressed I've always knew its because I don't feel like I belong anywhere at all.

It's not that I'm creepy its more like they think I might kill them. I've heard several remarks with people saying they think I'm about to kill somebody.

If they think your about to kill someone, they think your creepy. Do you wear dark gothic clothing or something cause that gives everyone a really bad vibe. Start wearing something along the lines of AE, A n F or something. Also smile a lot. And if people mess with you, dont take anything. Thats very important, if you dont do anything react to insults or physical abuse, they will keep going on. And about how old are you? And dont be too nice, theres a line between being a good guy and being a tool. Also, if you feel you dont belong, find people that are similar to you and if you cant, just try to fit in but not to some extent you become completely fake. I still highly recommend weightlifting, gets you looking better, people respect you more, you can make weightlifting buddies, and it relieves stress and depression to some extent. It also disciplines you if you do it right.

You know what you should do? Starting tomorrow, go up to random people and just talk to them. See their reaction and how they see you, if they want to talk to you or not. Just keep doing this, you can only get better and since these people are random and youll never see them again, it doesnt matter at all does it?

[QUOTE="camreeno360"]Well I'm tempted to just get a bunch of people to help me change the way society values people....But I keep saying "Hell with it....How far will I possibly go with that?". I keep thinking that some day there will be this big societal revolution where people start to realise we're all just genetic outcomes and that the better looking people are just a winning lottery ticket on the current trend of what facial features are good looking....Seriously, just think how much better everyone would be? Yeah I'll start dreaming...metal_snake33

Damn, thats some deep stuff man. I kind of agree with you though. I yearn for a societal revolution, because i think overall our whole society is not in a goodstate now. Its so goddam messedup sometimes, i cant help but wonder how everything got this way.But even though this is going against your reasoning, i think that everything happens for a reason, and were all here to do something. Ill be the first one to help you out on the revolutionthough, man.

Now here's Europe's (from my trips to Germany, I was pleasantly surprised)....Everyone is a part of a persuit of happiness and everyone helps each other out. Being happy with you life is put above how much money you make. Be friends with everyone so everyone gets each other's benefits. We're all people, so racial devide is pointless.

Compare the two.

[QUOTE="sexy-hippo"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="sexy-hippo"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="sexy-hippo"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="sexy-hippo"][QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"][QUOTE="sexy-hippo"]

[QUOTE="Blood-Scribe"]My father's alcohol problems have been getting worse, and my mom won't step up and do something about it. My sister is causing a lot of trouble for my father by essentially acting as a financial drain because she won't spend her money on anything other than new clothes, and my dad still has to put up with paying for everything that my older brother does even though he's 23, and he still lives with us, though mostly because college is very close to us. So this essentially means my father is going to push me to leave him the **** alone once I get out of school and support myself, and he's still pushing me to make eagle scout, so it's starting to annoy the **** out of me. But then again, I guess I should at least be thankful that I'm fortunate enough to be able to whine about it over the internet. So I feel a little guilty about posting this kind of stuff, but then again, this is what you were asking for.Blood-Scribe

Don't worry, things will work out they way they need to, but maybe not the way you want to. If you want to fix these problems, you will probably get in a few arguements. Talk to your parents. Just try to find away to get the hell away after high school. It might help if you go to college. If you need to go into the Marines (after Bush is out of office) and you can get college credits while your there. Sorry, I was talking to a Marine the other night and it sounds promising.

Yeah, I definitely want to get the hell out of here once I'm done, but I feel as though I'm going to be unprepared for it. It just feels like my dad is a timebomb now, he keeps on getting all of this stress from his job (he's a patent attorney, very boring and tedious job). I keep on getting told that I'm the easiest to deal with, that I'm the most well-behaved of the three, even though I'm also seen as the weirdest. My dad keeps on putting this pressure on me do to well on my own and not have to fall back on anything, and that's what drives him to expect more and more out of me, so it starts to build up. It's like we're both feeding off of each other's pressure. I see it every day, one small mistake, and he'll go nuts. I remember when I was cleaning the kitchen after dinner today, he ranted for a few minutes about how I set a regular knife for his place when I was supposed to give him a steak knife instead. Little things like that drive him mad.

I really don't know if he's going to realize that his heavy drinking is just going to get worse for him, but either way, I'm afraid he's just going to break. My only hope is that when that happens, I will be out of here.

I thought I had it bad. Atleast your his favorite. Yeah, just do something with your life and talk to your sister and brother.

Believe me, my sister isn't the most convivial member of the family, I'd rather not discuss this stuff with her. And my brother, well, he's a little preachy. Long story short, he used to do some drugs here and there and as my parents put it, "hung out with the wrong crowd." So now he's a little different, and because he's been taking a bunch of philosophical books to heart, it's like he knows nothing else. I'll admit, he's a pretty smart guy, but sometimes he's a little too presumptuous and pretentious. To be honest, it's actually hard to find someone to talk to about this stuff, so it tends to get bottled up. Then again, I don't see why I would want to bother my friends with my troubles.

Dude, I know how you feel. I can't talk to my friends about things that get me pissed off about my parents, my brother, school, and other stuff like that. You wouldn't happen to be the middle child would you? You should find a hobby and do something that takes your mind off of your problems. See if you can get into something with school.Like I said earlier, it won't hurt to talk to your parents. I know it can be hard if your dad's a bit intemidating, but maybe he'll listen to what you have to say instead of yelling and making you not want to talk to him in a civil manner.

Actually, I'm the youngest, hence I am essentially what my father sees as the last hope for a more successful child. He just wants me to do well, I know that, but I can't stand all the pressure from it. Anyway, I've been sticking to the same hobbies as usual, gaming, listening to Metal, watching anime, stuff like that. But because of stuff that has happened in the past, both with my brother and sister, as well as with myself, it's harder for me to hang out with friends, so that's a problem. Again, long story short, my parents think my friends are a little sketchy, but mostly because of the area that most of them are from. It's really annoying how they tell me to go and do something outside, even though I only have a couple friends that they actually trust, because other than that, they don't really want me hanging out with my other friends, so I have to sneak out or lie to them in one way or another. And I've tried reasoning to my dad before. In fact, I had to do get him to calm down at a motel that we were staying at when we were hunting. He drank half a dozen cups of wine and started to ramble on about random stuff, and he acted upset at one point, and mad at another. So I spent 45 minutes telling him over and over to get some sleep and leave me alone.

There's no way my dad would go hunting without a couple six packs first, that's just how it's done in his eyes. He'd just get pissed off if I said anything about that. For the most part, his drinking problems tend to go through the same stages as the cycle of abuse, it just keeps going and going until at some point he stops for awhile and things seem great, and then a couple months later it starts all over again. So I can't really ask for help until the time is right. At this point, his problems are lower than usual, but I know that as soon as school starts again, they'll be back. But I know that if no one else does it, I'm probably going to have to be the one that brings this up to him, my mom doesn't have the will to stop him, and my brother just thinks it'll solve itself. I'm getting tired of this bull****, so when I get the chance, I'll make sure he gets help.

Well I'm used to improvising, so hopefully it shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Hmm...This is a nice quote you guys got goin here.

[QUOTE="blackldragon"][QUOTE="Uzumaki_Naruto5"]

Umm, now I hate to say this but physical appearance has a lot do with the aura or vibe you give out. Ive seen people completely go out of their way to help hot chicks and then completely ignore the ugly ones. Society is kind of screwed up like that and even though I hate myself for it, I tend to do that too. So, basically just get a good haircut, stay clean, acne treatment if you need any, contacts against glasses.

Also, if its possible start working out. I dont know if your skinny or fat but just start. I recommend you to join forum.bodybuilding.com . People there are very helpful and if you want to take up weightlifting, its all you need for advice. PM me if you decide to join. Since I started lifting, people(both guys and girls) respect me a whole lot more.

Also, be nice to everyone. Dont believe the stupid movies that the media throws out that all the popular kids are jerks or something in school. From my experience, there usually really nice. Be nice to everyone, no matter how low you think they are.

And you have to get rid of depression. Look into whats causing you to be depressed, and eliminate it. Weightlifting helps with that too.

And dont be creepy.

Uzumaki_Naruto5

Well I'm not fat but not skinny either more like average with a light pudgy stomech but I have a huge shoulder width. Really I have the perfect body for body building, and I used to lift weights, but I stoped. I've heard alot of girls call me cute or not bad looking before, yet I still think they might be lieing. And I'm nice to everyone hell I filled up this person who I don't really know alot gas up full even though they said they only need about 10 dollers worth. I'm 100% against discrimination so I will help out anyone once they ask or I feel like doing something nice unoticed.

And I do have this one girl who likes me however she's slightly retarded and has 2 girlfriends and a boyfriend. I swear I always get the strange ones. Except for two one of which I really wish I went for and the other I thought that she would be better off with someone else.

I know why I'm depressed I've always knew its because I don't feel like I belong anywhere at all.

It's not that I'm creepy its more like they think I might kill them. I've heard several remarks with people saying they think I'm about to kill somebody.

If they think your about to kill someone, they think your creepy. Do you wear dark gothic clothing or something cause that gives everyone a really bad vibe. Start wearing something along the lines of AE, A n F or something. Also smile a lot. And if people mess with you, dont take anything. Thats very important, if you dont do anything react to insults or physical abuse, they will keep going on. And about how old are you? And dont be too nice, theres a line between being a good guy and being a tool. Also, if you feel you dont belong, find people that are similar to you and if you cant, just try to fit in but not to some extent you become completely fake. I still highly recommend weightlifting, gets you looking better, people respect you more, you can make weightlifting buddies, and it relieves stress and depression to some extent. It also disciplines you if you do it right.

You know what you should do? Starting tomorrow, go up to random people and just talk to them. See their reaction and how they see you, if they want to talk to you or not. Just keep doing this, you can only get better and since these people are random and youll never see them again, it doesnt matter at all does it?

Well my favorite colors are red and black (which ironically is considered evil) But do wear light clothes expecially when I'm in a good mood. Trust me I don't take crap from anyone unless they apologize--unless they are not being sincere. I'll see if I can work on that smile thing, but when I'm comferteble people say I'm too happy. Like I'll even smile when I'm pissed off or if I hear bad news. I'm 18.

How about starting off at just random hi's to people I may walk by?

I have tummy aches...I hope you get my drift...ChicaQueenWarGa

[QUOTE="ChicaQueenWarGa"]I have tummy aches...I hope you get my drift...Gamespoot_LOL

I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.freek666

I know what you mean I may like a girl, but then she ends up having a boyfriend who I know might be a douche or they might actually be good I may be a tad jelious, but in the end I hope they have a long-lasting relationship till death do them part. What seems to be holding you back from still being close friends with her is the fact that you want more out of ya'll relationship. Unfortunetly for you she has a new BF not much you can do, but continue supporting her and help her out even if it's with her BF. You can also just tell her your feelings, but that has several different outcomes: 1) She might feel akward, because she might have feelings for you and not want to compromise her current relationship leading to you possibly losing friendship.

2) She might decide to go out with you instead of the other guy if she for whatever reason.

3) If you say at a right time she might just laugh not in an offensive way towards you (or maybe so), and may still remain your friend.

Telling her your feelings now is like playing russian roulette it will all depend on the time you told her, what she feels about you, and what she feels about the other guy, and can lead to your friendship taking a huge blow. But hey whats life without some risk eh.

If it comes down to it you can do what I do and learn to control or kill off your emotions. Though it may make you more like a robot and is really difficult to learn how to control your emotions.

[QUOTE="freek666"]I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.blackldragon

I know what you mean I may like a girl, but then she ends up having a boyfriend who I know might be a douche or they might actually be good I may be a tad jelious, but in the end I hope they have a long-lasting relationship till death do them part. What seems to be holding you back from still being close friends with her is the fact that you want more out of ya'll relationship. Unfortunetly for you she has a new BF not much you can do, but continue supporting her and help her out even if it's with her BF. You can also just tell her your feelings, but that has several different outcomes: 1) She might feel akward, because she might have feelings for you and not want to compromise her current relationship leading to you possibly losing friendship.

2) She might decide to go out with you instead of the other guy if she for whatever reason.

3) If you say at a right time she might just laugh not in an offensive way towards you (or maybe so), and may still remain your friend.

Telling her your feelings now is like playing russian roulette it will all depend on the time you told her, what she feels about you, and what she feels about the other guy, and can lead to your friendship taking a huge blow. But hey whats life without some risk eh.

If it comes down to it you can do what I do and learn to control or kill off your emotions. Though it may make you more like a robot and is really difficult to learn how to control your emotions.

dude...

A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

sounds like freek's situation, no?

if i make sexual innuendos toward my girl..she's like wtf...if i don't she's like u don't love me... lose-lose :(-D3MO-

Females are too confusing to understand. Half the times I don't think they understand themselves.

[QUOTE="-D3MO-"]if i make sexual innuendos toward my girl..she's like wtf...if i don't she's like u don't love me... lose-lose :(blackldragon

Females are too confusing to understand. Half the times I don't think they understand themselves.

haha true bro.

but she's alright though.

[QUOTE="blackldragon"]

[QUOTE="freek666"]I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.-D3MO-

I know what you mean I may like a girl, but then she ends up having a boyfriend who I know might be a douche or they might actually be good I may be a tad jelious, but in the end I hope they have a long-lasting relationship till death do them part. What seems to be holding you back from still being close friends with her is the fact that you want more out of ya'll relationship. Unfortunetly for you she has a new BF not much you can do, but continue supporting her and help her out even if it's with her BF. You can also just tell her your feelings, but that has several different outcomes: 1) She might feel akward, because she might have feelings for you and not want to compromise her current relationship leading to you possibly losing friendship.

2) She might decide to go out with you instead of the other guy if she for whatever reason.

3) If you say at a right time she might just laugh not in an offensive way towards you (or maybe so), and may still remain your friend.

Telling her your feelings now is like playing russian roulette it will all depend on the time you told her, what she feels about you, and what she feels about the other guy, and can lead to your friendship taking a huge blow. But hey whats life without some risk eh.

If it comes down to it you can do what I do and learn to control or kill off your emotions. Though it may make you more like a robot and is really difficult to learn how to control your emotions.

dude...

A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

sounds like freek's situation, no?

Funny is that I was talking to a girl about that problem. Theres this guy who likes her and she tells me that he's so sweet and nice and has everything but she doesn't want a relationship. Then there is this other guy she likes and he likes her too however she says he's not as great, but since they've knew eachother longer she wants to go with him, but that guy does not want a relationship. And I was like WTF is your problem why not just go for the guy who is better she said I dunno. I swear they are so confused its not funny.

[QUOTE="freek666"]I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.blackldragon

I know what you mean I may like a girl, but then she ends up having a boyfriend who I know might be a douche or they might actually be good I may be a tad jelious, but in the end I hope they have a long-lasting relationship till death do them part. What seems to be holding you back from still being close friends with her is the fact that you want more out of ya'll relationship. Unfortunetly for you she has a new BF not much you can do, but continue supporting her and help her out even if it's with her BF. You can also just tell her your feelings, but that has several different outcomes: 1) She might feel akward, because she might have feelings for you and not want to compromise her current relationship leading to you possibly losing friendship.

2) She might decide to go out with you instead of the other guy if she for whatever reason.

3) If you say at a right time she might just laugh not in an offensive way towards you (or maybe so), and may still remain your friend.

Telling her your feelings now is like playing russian roulette it will all depend on the time you told her, what she feels about you, and what she feels about the other guy, and can lead to your friendship taking a huge blow. But hey whats life without some risk eh.

If it comes down to it you can do what I do and learn to control or kill off your emotions. Though it may make you more like a robot and is really difficult to learn how to control your emotions.

You hit the nail right on the head there. With teh 1st thing u said was what i think was happening, with her not wanting to ruin the friendship. I was the same, and i think she was also. Coz all the times people were saying that we were gonna end up together, coz i have to admit we were really good together. Same interests and line of thought right down to the people whom we hated in our class. Eventually she asked me what i thought of her ( she was with the ex at the time) and i tol ehr that i thought of her as a friend, and she said she felt the same way. But after it she said "but who know what can happen in the future." that sorta got to me coz i realised that she might feel teh same way. However acting like a full i didnt capitalise on anything and im left in this little downward spiral im in now. I forget about her, but then here she comes out of no where and i remember all the mistakes i took. It wasnt a physical attraction, even though she was damn good looking, but just the connection we had, mentally i guess. I knew other people whom i had a physical attraction to and i got on really well with them, and i could be with them now, but they just didnt make me feel the same way as she did. She wasone of those reallyspecial people. Its kinda hard to describe, but if uve known someone like it before u will know wat im getting at.However i cannot change the past and i do wish the best for her and the rest of her life.

I dont like sharing information about myself, most of my workmates only know my name and that I go to uni. I have worked there 2 years.Whicker89

why don't u like sharing?

[QUOTE="blackldragon"]

[QUOTE="freek666"]I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.freek666

I know what you mean I may like a girl, but then she ends up having a boyfriend who I know might be a douche or they might actually be good I may be a tad jelious, but in the end I hope they have a long-lasting relationship till death do them part. What seems to be holding you back from still being close friends with her is the fact that you want more out of ya'll relationship. Unfortunetly for you she has a new BF not much you can do, but continue supporting her and help her out even if it's with her BF. You can also just tell her your feelings, but that has several different outcomes: 1) She might feel akward, because she might have feelings for you and not want to compromise her current relationship leading to you possibly losing friendship.

2) She might decide to go out with you instead of the other guy if she for whatever reason.

3) If you say at a right time she might just laugh not in an offensive way towards you (or maybe so), and may still remain your friend.

Telling her your feelings now is like playing russian roulette it will all depend on the time you told her, what she feels about you, and what she feels about the other guy, and can lead to your friendship taking a huge blow. But hey whats life without some risk eh.

If it comes down to it you can do what I do and learn to control or kill off your emotions. Though it may make you more like a robot and is really difficult to learn how to control your emotions.

You hit the nail right on the head there. With teh 1st thing u said was what i think was happening, with her not wanting to ruin the friendship. I was the same, and i think she was also. Coz all the times people were saying that we were gonna end up together, coz i have to admit we were really good together. Same interests and line of thought right down to the people whom we hated in our class. Eventually she asked me what i thought of her ( she was with the ex at the time) and i tol ehr that i thought of her as a friend, and she said she felt the same way. But after it she said "but who know what can happen in the future." that sorta got to me coz i realised that she might feel teh same way. However acting like a full i didnt capitalise on anything and im left in this little downward spiral im in now. I forget about her, but then here she comes out of no where and i remember all the mistakes i took. It wasnt a physical attraction, even though she was damn good looking, but just the connection we had, mentally i guess. I knew other people whom i had a physical attraction to and i got on really well with them, and i could be with them now, but they just didnt make me feel the same way as she did. She wasone of those reallyspecial people. Its kinda hard to describe, but if uve known someone like it before u will know wat im getting at.However i cannot change the past and i do wish the best for her and the rest of her life.

Well I'll just say what she said "who knows what can happen in the future" maybe one day she might just bump into out of nowhere and be single and ya can hook up then. Though that is totally like a movie moment right there, but then again you never know.

I dont like sharing information about myself, most of my workmates only know my name and that I go to uni. I have worked there 2 years.Whicker89

I was like that, but since I feel comferteble with them and they understand that I'm a different kind of person (one of them says I'm not a human :lol: ) I open up about myself not everything, but somethings like some of my morals or why I may laugh or smile at anything (including death). In all honesty posting stuff about myself on the forums and talking to other people on an onlinge mmorpg has helped my social skills about in real life. So I'm like on of those cases where games have helped my real life. Eat that Jack Thompson. :P

[QUOTE="freek666"][QUOTE="blackldragon"]

[QUOTE="freek666"]I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.blackldragon

I know what you mean I may like a girl, but then she ends up having a boyfriend who I know might be a douche or they might actually be good I may be a tad jelious, but in the end I hope they have a long-lasting relationship till death do them part. What seems to be holding you back from still being close friends with her is the fact that you want more out of ya'll relationship. Unfortunetly for you she has a new BF not much you can do, but continue supporting her and help her out even if it's with her BF. You can also just tell her your feelings, but that has several different outcomes: 1) She might feel akward, because she might have feelings for you and not want to compromise her current relationship leading to you possibly losing friendship.

2) She might decide to go out with you instead of the other guy if she for whatever reason.

3) If you say at a right time she might just laugh not in an offensive way towards you (or maybe so), and may still remain your friend.

Telling her your feelings now is like playing russian roulette it will all depend on the time you told her, what she feels about you, and what she feels about the other guy, and can lead to your friendship taking a huge blow. But hey whats life without some risk eh.

If it comes down to it you can do what I do and learn to control or kill off your emotions. Though it may make you more like a robot and is really difficult to learn how to control your emotions.

You hit the nail right on the head there. With teh 1st thing u said was what i think was happening, with her not wanting to ruin the friendship. I was the same, and i think she was also. Coz all the times people were saying that we were gonna end up together, coz i have to admit we were really good together. Same interests and line of thought right down to the people whom we hated in our class. Eventually she asked me what i thought of her ( she was with the ex at the time) and i tol ehr that i thought of her as a friend, and she said she felt the same way. But after it she said "but who know what can happen in the future." that sorta got to me coz i realised that she might feel teh same way. However acting like a full i didnt capitalise on anything and im left in this little downward spiral im in now. I forget about her, but then here she comes out of no where and i remember all the mistakes i took. It wasnt a physical attraction, even though she was damn good looking, but just the connection we had, mentally i guess. I knew other people whom i had a physical attraction to and i got on really well with them, and i could be with them now, but they just didnt make me feel the same way as she did. She wasone of those reallyspecial people. Its kinda hard to describe, but if uve known someone like it before u will know wat im getting at.However i cannot change the past and i do wish the best for her and the rest of her life.

Well I'll just say what she said "who knows what can happen in the future" maybe one day she might just bump into out of nowhere and be single and ya can hook up then. Though that is totally like a movie moment right there, but then again you never know.

lol ur not kidding about the movie moment part. But yeh it will probably happen. We go to the same school and we live 5 minutes from each other, and we also hang around the same areas, so yeh u never know wat can happen.

[QUOTE="Thechaninator"][QUOTE="sexy-hippo"][QUOTE="Thechaninator"]

[QUOTE="moptopskate"]I feel like there is something wrong with my brain. I have been acting weird psychologically. for example: memory loss, paranoia,loss of common sense.sexy-hippo

I'll steal this problem.

Go get a psychological evaluation, seriously. That sounds like it could be the beginning of schizophrenia. Are you around the age of 18 by any chance?

As for a problem of my own, I am in love with a girl who I have known since elementary school (I am in my 2nd year of college right now) and have had a crush on her as long as I have known her. I feel I have a chance with her now but I am deathly afraid of screwing it up. On top of that, both me and a friend of mine who has loads of mental issues including eating disorders both think she has an eating disorder and I got to find a way for her to get open about it so I can try to help. Thing is I feel that if I come out and just mention it to her it could ruin the relationship.....

I might be hanging out with her on New Years Eve and if we do hang out I know it will be crucial and possibly life changing for me as I plan to tell her how I feel about her then. I have to get this stuff figured out by New Years Eve....

Don't worry about the disorder for now. Are you good friends? If you are, chances are it won't mess things up. If she knows you like her, and she's still friends with you then there is a chance, maybe not a really big chance that she'll feel the same. Why do you think she has an eating disorder anyway?

Well the problem is I haven't seen her in years because I moved. We only got back in touch through myspace and haven't talked outside of myspace as of late. I have anxiety issues so I am always incredibly uncertain as to where I stand with people, especially girls I like.

As for the disorder, I can't stand by and watch it wreak havoc on her. Eating disorders are the most deadly disorders and they can destroy a persons body quite quickly.

I think she has a disorder based on certain things she has said to me compared with pictures of her. She is skinny yet claims that she is fat and she is working hard to lose weight. She mentioned stress eating and says she put on 40 pounds because of it yet I can't see the extra pounds. I have quite a bit of experience with eating disorders thanks to the friend I mentioned so certain things are red alarms to me that other people might not notice. Honestly if we do hang out I am going to be paying CLOSE attention to her eating. If she plays with her food and doesn't eat I am going to have to point it out as that is a sign of annorexia. If she eats kinda weird and then goes to the bathroom right after I might suspect bulimia.

I know there is a chance it can work which makes me even more worried because I don't want to ruin that chance. I have to make sure she doesn't destroy herself with an eating disorder more than anything though....

Well my friend is going to try and talk to her about it first. We figure that it would be easier for her to open up to another girl who has had the same problem than me bringing it up. I hope to be able to be there for her and be her support. I am pretty good at talking people through this stuff after all and I think I care for her more that anyone else even if she doesn't know it yet....

I would put the full story down, except its 3 paragraphs long, 11, 12 and 16 lines each. InWord it takesup a page in size 11 font and Times New Roman.Its practically a short story so i will make a summary. Became friends with a girl, we grew close, her bf was an arse, she was unhappy with him, i helped her in troubling times, people began to speculate there was something between us, we denied even though i wished something was happening. School ended, still very close, she dumps bf, i go on vacation to other end of the country, dont bother telling her my feelings when i should have, she gets new boyfriend, we lose touch a month after i return. We talk now and then but it doesnt lead anywhere unlike before. She still wants to have talks like that, but it just cant happen for some reason, were not as close as we once were and its like we hardly know each other, even though i know nearly everything about her. I hate that shes with him, but happy because she is happy and hes is a big improvement from the last. In a nutshell i regret never telling my true feelings and trying tomake somethign more of our friendship. I dont know if it was for better or worse. Its like when u keep having the same bad nightmare over and over and as much as you want it to go away, it wont and u just have to live with it and make the most of it.freek666

Just try to get back with her. If you feel strongly about her then don't give up. She has to dump him some time doesn't she? When she does be there for her. Just be happy that she she didn't lie to you. You should tell her how you feel now. It might not make her dump her boyfriend but atleast you will feel relieved that you told her.