How socially awkward are you?

No, I don't like it that way. I just have no social abilities so I can't start a conversation with anyone if I were to do "small talk".

CHOASXIII

It's like anything: The more experience you have, the better you'll be at it. But if you don't start doing it, you're going to have no experience doing it the rest of your life, and nothing will ever change.

I'm not kidding when I say you can't develop social skills without learning to small talk. Everything else comes after learning to strike up a conversation with someone, whether you know them or not.

I was socially awkward myself, and rather shy to boot, until I got tired of not having a girl and just got on with it. Yeah, I was uncomfortable at first and made a few blunders, but then I knew what not to do and just kept at it.

I don't have trouble talking to anyone now, male or female, and my life is richer for it. I know so many people with so many different interests that I'm only bored when I want to be.

I have had girlfriends, I've been married, I have a girlfriend now, and all those relationships started with small talk. Every one.

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

No, I don't like it that way. I just have no social abilities so I can't start a conversation with anyone if I were to do "small talk".

br0kenrabbit

It's like anything: The more experience you have, the better you'll be at it. But if you don't start doing it, you're going to have no experience doing it the rest of your life, and nothing will ever change.

I'm not kidding when I say you can't develop social skills without learning to small talk. Everything else comes after learning to strike up a conversation with someone, whether you know them or not.

I was socially awkward myself, and rather shy to boot, until I got tired of not having a girl and just got on with it. Yeah, I was uncomfortable at first and made a few blunders, but then I knew what not to do and just kept at it.

I don't have trouble talking to anyone now, male or female, and my life is richer for it. I know so many people with so many different interests that I'm only bored when I want to be.

I have had girlfriends, I've been married, I have a girlfriend now, and all those relationships started with small talk. Every one.

I just think your lucky.

No, I don't like it that way. I just have no social abilities so I can't start a conversation with anyone if I were to do "small talk".

CHOASXIII

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways? People suck.

They will hurt you if they get an opportunity.

Not at all. I love situations where I don't know anybody, and have to meet new people. I like being among groups, and talking. I am not uncomfortable at all.

Not surprised the majority of people on the forum are saying yes.

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

No, I don't like it that way. I just have no social abilities so I can't start a conversation with anyone if I were to do "small talk".

TehFuneral

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways? People suck.

They will hurt you if they get an opportunity.

You do have a somewhat good point but I doubt everyone is out to hurt people.

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

No, I don't like it that way. I just have no social abilities so I can't start a conversation with anyone if I were to do "small talk".

br0kenrabbit

It's like anything: The more experience you have, the better you'll be at it. But if you don't start doing it, you're going to have no experience doing it the rest of your life, and nothing will ever change.

I'm not kidding when I say you can't develop social skills without learning to small talk. Everything else comes after learning to strike up a conversation with someone, whether you know them or not.

I was socially awkward myself, and rather shy to boot, until I got tired of not having a girl and just got on with it. Yeah, I was uncomfortable at first and made a few blunders, but then I knew what not to do and just kept at it.

I don't have trouble talking to anyone now, male or female, and my life is richer for it. I know so many people with so many different interests that I'm only bored when I want to be.

I have had girlfriends, I've been married, I have a girlfriend now, and all those relationships started with small talk. Every one.

good advice

Extremely. Though less extremely than I used to be.

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

No, I don't like it that way. I just have no social abilities so I can't start a conversation with anyone if I were to do "small talk".

CHOASXIII

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways? People suck.

They will hurt you if they get an opportunity.

You do have a somewhat good point but I doubt everyone is out to hurt people.

You should only talk to people to use them.

hmph!

I just think your lucky.

CHOASXIII

How am I lucky?

I was at one time in your position and the only difference is I made an effort to get out of it.

Your confidence will build over time only if you decide you're going to make the attempt. It's awkward and frieghtening at first but you'll get over it quicker than you think. The more practiced you get, the more interesting you can make small talk and leave all that weather **** for people you just don't want to be rude to but aren't really interested in deep personal conversations, either.

Hell, I picked up my current girlfriend at the park when she was sitting with her mom and some other people, a few of whom I knew. I just went up to the ones I knew and said 'hi, what's up,' and all that, then looked at her and her mother and realized she looked just like a younger version of her mom (who was hot for her age). So I was just like:

Me: Damn, there's two of them.

Everyone: *laughs*

Me (to Mom): How many kids do you have?

Mom: Just two.

Me: Is she the oldest?

Mom: No, her brother is two years older.

Me (to the daughter): At least you know you'll still be hot after a couple of kids.

Me (to everyone): And that's how you hit on a mother and daughter at the same damn time. At the same damn time.

Small talk doesn't have to be boring, it's just talking about the weather is a fine place to start if you're still where you are socially simply because everyone has something to say about the weather. It's all about practice and just making an effort. Luck has nothing to do with it.

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways?

TehFuneral

Some people have vaginas.

:P

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways? People suck.

They will hurt you if they get an opportunity.

TehFuneral

You do have a somewhat good point but I doubt everyone is out to hurt people.

You should only talk to people to use them.

hmph!

Those are terrible points... I personally think being thrown in a social situation where you know nobody- is awesome. Now tons of new people get to know who you are. You get to meet new people; learn new stories. All of my relationships have started this way, and if you can't hold a conversation, I lose interest in you real quick. That goes for friendships, and romantic relationships.

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways?

br0kenrabbit

Some people have vaginas.

:P

These things might look nice, but trust me, they're disgusting!

Ughk!

Medicine is a big proof!

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

Why the hell do you wanna talk to people anyways?

br0kenrabbit

Some people have vaginas.

:P

These things might look nice, but trust me, they're disgusting!

TehFuneral

Uhhhhhhhh....

ummm,...

hmmm...

I simply cannot construct a productive response to that other than: I vehemently disagree.

I'm very socially awkward. I don't like meeting new people, because I suck at small talk and usually end up slowly drifting away from the person.

Last week I went to the dentist and the person at the front desk tried making some small talk as I scheduled my next appointment. I couldn't tell when I should walk away and there was an awkward silence... I just drifted away with a dumb smile on my face...

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

You do have a somewhat good point but I doubt everyone is out to hurt people.

Shmiity

You should only talk to people to use them.

hmph!

Those are terrible points... I personally think being thrown in a social situation where you know nobody- is awesome. Now tons of new people get to know who you are. You get to meet new people; learn new stories. All of my relationships have started this way, and if you can't hold a conversation, I lose interest in you real quick. That goes for friendships, and romantic relationships.

True... I used to be like that, but somewhere across the line I lost it and kinds stopped giving a crap. I do interact socially and in a friendly manner, thats what I usually do in everyday life. But I stopped giving a damn about people unless I truly believe they really have good intentions... which is usually very rare. I maintain good relationship with everyone so that I can use them in the future for my own sake, in matter of fact thats how i met my best friend. I used him in highschool to do all my crap and then eventually noticed that we clicked together.

Yes I know im weak and pathetic, but it works...

[QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

I just think your lucky.

br0kenrabbit

How am I lucky?

I was at one time in your position and the only difference is I made an effort to get out of it.

Your confidence will build over time only if you decide you're going to make the attempt. It's awkward and frieghtening at first but you'll get over it quicker than you think. The more practiced you get, the more interesting you can make small talk and leave all that weather **** for people you just don't want to be rude to but aren't really interested in deep personal conversations, either.

Hell, I picked up my current girlfriend at the park when she was sitting with her mom and some other people, a few of whom I knew. I just went up to the ones I knew and said 'hi, what's up,' and all that, then looked at her and her mother and realized she looked just like a younger version of her mom (who was hot for her age). So I was just like:

Me: Damn, there's two of them.

Everyone: *laughs*

Me (to Mom): How many kids do you have?

Mom: Just two.

Me: Is she the oldest?

Mom: No, her brother is two years older.

Me (to the daughter): At least you know you'll still be hot after a couple of kids.

Me (to everyone): And that's how you hit on a mother and daughter at the same damn time. At the same damn time.

Small talk doesn't have to be boring, it's just talking about the weather is a fine place to start if you're still where you are socially simply because everyone has something to say about the weather. It's all about practice and just making an effort. Luck has nothing to do with it.

I guess I just don't see it right now, maybe one of these days I will actually be able to talk to people.

I'm very socially awkward. I don't like meeting new people, because I suck at small talk and usually end up slowly drifting away from the person.

Last week I went to the dentist and the person at the front desk tried making some small talk as I scheduled my next appointment. I couldn't tell when I should walk away and there was an awkward silence... I just drifted away with a dumb smile on my face...

Shadow4020

I know these feels.

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

These things might look nice, but trust me, they're disgusting!

br0kenrabbit

Uhhhhhhhh....

ummm,...

hmmm...

I simply cannot construct a productive response to that other than: I vehemently disagree.

kinda reminds me of the time I stumbled across a medical book with a bunch of infected vag... or the time I had to read a neonatal book describing the process of child birth...

Oh God, why are you making me remember those pictures?

I love medicine, but I have to find people disgusting as a drawback...

I can be awkward at times, but only in a mild sense.

GreySeal9

I'm fairly standoffishish and tend to keep to myself these days. There was a time when I had improved my interaction somewhat, but I've since retreated and especially in the last few years I keep myself fairly cut off.

[QUOTE="Sedin44"][QUOTE="CHOASXIII"]

I hate public speaking with a passion, that's why I hated college.

CHOASXIII

Oh you are really showing your maturity today.

[QUOTE="GreySeal9"]

I can be awkward at times, but only in a mild sense.

Suzy_Q_Kazoo

I love your new sig Sushi :3

Only as akward as the person I'm talking to is.:cool:

Not really. I used to be much worse but after workin at a bar/night club you eventually learn how to deal with people and talk to attractive girls

I'm not, it's kind of disappointing how many people on OT are, I know it's an online forum, but still... I think a lot of you are just shy and say you're socially awkward because it makes you unique and special, I have a hard time believing such a huge majority of OTers are socially awkward.

Pretty awkward. But I'm apparently very lucky and meet girls who are attracted to shy awkward guys. Serious, no joke.

Pretty awkward. But I'm apparently very lucky and meet girls who are attracted to shy awkward guys. Serious, no joke.

ToastRider11

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Pretty awkward. But I'm apparently very lucky and meet girls who are attracted to shy awkward guys. Serious, no joke.

ToastRider11

Extremely people don't like to talk to me because of it its ok though I sure as hell don't want to talke to them either.

People love garrus too much. dkdk999

There's no such thing as loving Garrus too much.

People love garrus too much. dkdk999

Edit: Thank you, Choas :)

Not entirely. My main difficulties are my shyness and approaching people, but other than that, I'm not the worst in social situations. A lot of people get that impression though, because I don't really talk unless spoken to.

Somewhat, I guess.

Somewhat, I guess.

soulless4now

i am to the point where even the most socially awkward person you know will think "wow this kid is so socially awkward" when looking/talking to me.

i am to the point where even the most socially awkward person you know will think "wow this kid is so socially awkward" when looking/talking to me.

gameboy343

That sounds pretty socially awkward.

However your sig makes you cool:cool: