How the hell do you ask a girl out?

Here's my situation:

My friend comes in with his friends at my restaurant, when I was working. He introduces me to them, I chat, blah blah.

They're pretty nice, but I had to leave and get back to work. Then my damn boss and coworker decide to give my number on a napkin to one of the girls, and my friend initially said she was going to text me. Apparently she was too shy so I had to take initiative to get her number and text her myself. I'm really really shy and I was really nervous doing so, lol...

Anyway, my objective isn't so much to get her to be my girlfriend...but to maybe...ask her to hang out? get to know her? I don't know, I wasn't very good at this in the first place, so this could be good experience for me. But hey, if it happens it happens I guess...

I have her number, and also have her on MSN. Instead of just IMing or texting I want to ask her out maybe...mind you I only met her prior to the weekend, and texted her yestarday. How would I ask her out?

heyyyyyy i hear you like movies wanna see one together sometime.

(who doesent like movies)

before you know you will be reproducing.

/thread.

"Wanna go out sometime?"

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]You: hey, i m the guy from the restaurant, remember me? :p well you seen like a nice interesting girl, would you like to go out some day and do something? well hit me up bye :) dont sound desperate and dont txt her again if she doesnt answer the first time, let her know u are interested but dont be desperate ;) hope it helpslonewolf604

heyyyyyy i hear you like movies wanna see one together sometime.

(who doesent like movies)

before you know you will be reproducing.

/thread.

tim22000

Tell her that you were wondering if she would want to hang out or go to the movies some time. (I usually go straight for the secks part) :P

Tell her who you are, and ask her if she'd like to hang out to get to know each other better. Don't beat around the bush, don't try and be sly, don't be subtle. Just ask her straight out what you want, and that's all. No girl enjoys standing in front of the mirror looking back and forth from herself to her text message wondering "what he meant by that" and if she's dressed right for it. Be very clear as to whether it's a date or a friends thing.XilePrincess

Just flat out ask her if she wants to go out with you. Even if she doesn't even like you she'll be too flattered to turn you down. Trust me, I know.

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Tell her who you are, and ask her if she'd like to hang out to get to know each other better. Don't beat around the bush, don't try and be sly, don't be subtle. Just ask her straight out what you want, and that's all. No girl enjoys standing in front of the mirror looking back and forth from herself to her text message wondering "what he meant by that" and if she's dressed right for it. Be very clear as to whether it's a date or a friends thing.lonewolf604

"Wanna go out sometime?"

CrystalFox

This is going to sound like the most obvious advice you have heard a million times but there are only two paths you can take being a shy person.

1. Find your voice socially, be confident in who you are, and not think thoughts that are made up in regards to social interactions.

2. Be yourself and if the person doesn't like it then move on to someone else. If you don't like the fact that she doesn't like you then you must be looking for a casual relationship which would revert you back to achieving #1. You can infact continue to be a shy person and find a girl that is meant for you and won't care about your social interactive problems.

Grow a nut sack, it ain't that complicated. If she doesn't like you move on, we all go through it.

"Oh Hai, You can haz to be mai Girlfriend Pliz..kthnxbai"..:P

"Wanna go out sometime?"

CrystalFox

"Hey, how would you like to do _____ with me sometime?" Fill in the blank yourself, with basically anything except the word 'intercourse'.kamikaze_pigmy

[QUOTE="kamikaze_pigmy"]"Hey, how would you like to do _____ with me sometime?" Fill in the blank yourself, with basically anything except the word 'intercourse'.Engrish_Major

Nice shoes...

If I re-read the OP correctly he states that the girl is already interested?

Why is there an issue? :/

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Tell her who you are, and ask her if she'd like to hang out to get to know each other better. Don't beat around the bush, don't try and be sly, don't be subtle. Just ask her straight out what you want, and that's all. No girl enjoys standing in front of the mirror looking back and forth from herself to her text message wondering "what he meant by that" and if she's dressed right for it. Be very clear as to whether it's a date or a friends thing.lonewolf604

EMERGENCY WARNING. STOP READING THREAD NOW. IT IS FULL OF FAIL.

Seriously, this might as well be ending up in friends zone 101

First we need to know what did you talk about with her when you met her?

Call, don't text her, and ask her to the movies, or ask if she wants to go out for supper, or for a walk, or go bowling, or anything really. The activity isn't as important as it is showing confidence and asing her out, as well as the conversation during whatever you guys decided on doing.

Last time I asked a girl out it was a cashier. She asked me if I had any plans for New Years (it was like Dec 29th or something) and I said no and asked her and she said no plans just staying home watching a movie. So I took this as a sign and asked if her if she wanted company and then she pulled the boyfriend card. I 100% believe I was tricked.:x

k fine, since you won't tell me here is a canned line a lot of others have used but it can work well.

Hi it was lovely to meet you. Shame we didn't get longer to talk/I hope you got back safe. p.s. do you like roasted marshmallows!

So we both like marshmallows! Cool, you have some sweet tooth, hu! :-) p.s. you like red or white wine?

Red/white wine girl eh? And champagne goes well with anything! :-) p.s. what's your favourite movie genre – romance, comedy or horror?

Excellent! We shall have to have a DVD, wine and marshmallows evening! :-) p.s. I hope you are good at picking one of them, would you rather pick the wine or the DVD?

Cool! :-) I shall trust your excellent taste! Lets meet @ (name of bar or whatever), 7 or 8 o'clock?

Her:What about the marshmallow evening?

you again: I don't like (whatever colour of wine she chose) with winking smiley or something

Marshmallow NOTES

-This is good because she has a mental image of the two of you in a more intimate setting without you actually having to go through with it while there is not enough comfort/connection between you

-She already envisions herself with you on a future date before you even get to the first one which will no doubt spure up some romantic feelings for you

-This does have a small risk of coming off to strong in which case she will probably flake you or give you short one or two word answers. What you then do is reply with something funny "don't play hard to get with a guy who is hard to get ;)" or "you didn't reply are you okay? did something happen to you or a family member? I'm so sorry." I think this second option is great because it makes it look like you have never been flaked before. Never been flaked before = high value

-p.s. Everything has an easy question to answer "p.s." with options. Options give an illusion of choice but actually constrains her and keeps her on the 'yes' ladder.

-Using her name is good at the start. It she's got a nickname or can construct a good one could use that instead e.g. "such and such girl" or "Ms such and such"… but only if it's really good.

"Wanna go out sometime?"

CrystalFox

You: hey, i m the guy from the restaurant, remember me? :p well you seen like a nice interesting girl, would you like to go out some day and do something? well hit me up bye :) dont sound desperate and dont txt her again if she doesnt answer the first time, let her know u are interested but dont be desperate ;) hope it helpsSolid_Tango

this would work. the fact is, if you're confident, you can carry off any retarded line. act confident!

1. Call, dont text, dont instant message. Simply be like "Hi, this is _____, we met a couple days ago. What are you doing tomarow?" or something like that.

Well, I was going to go into a whole multistep process but, honestly, there is only one step. And if she says she cant, dont get all flustered, just ask when a good time works for her. Be flexible and make clear you want to hang out with her, but not needy

Here's my situation:

My friend comes in with his friends at my restaurant, when I was working. He introduces me to them, I chat, blah blah.

They're pretty nice, but I had to leave and get back to work. Then my damn boss and coworker decide to give my number on a napkin to one of the girls, and my friend initially said she was going to text me. Apparently she was too shy so I had to take initiative to get her number and text her myself. I'm really really shy and I was really nervous doing so, lol...

Anyway, my objective isn't so much to get her to be my girlfriend...but to maybe...ask her to hang out? get to know her? I don't know, I wasn't very good at this in the first place, so this could be good experience for me. But hey, if it happens it happens I guess...

I have her number, and also have her on MSN. Instead of just IMing or texting I want to ask her out maybe...mind you I only met her prior to the weekend, and texted her yestarday. How would I ask her out?

lonewolf604

It doesn't need to be movies, that was just the first that came to mind(I actually don't like the idea of seeing a movie with a single other person as it's not very social). Could be for food, or just some exercize that you're wondering if she'd like to tag along, or whatever. There's a plethora of options. Just let it be casual, and don't apply pressure either. If she accepts, be casual about it. if she declines, apply the same logic.

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]You: hey, i m the guy from the restaurant, remember me? :p well you seen like a nice interesting girl, would you like to go out some day and do something? well hit me up bye :) dont sound desperate and dont txt her again if she doesnt answer the first time, let her know u are interested but dont be desperate ;) hope it helpsjpph

this would work. the fact is, if you're confident, you can carry off any retarded line. act confident!

Jees it's very easy. Treat her like You want to, she is a nice person right?
Don't be all obsessive about it. Don't worry so much. Hey You should think twice what kind of girl You want to settle down with and if You know, then it is much easier to do those things.
Like i would be looking for a nice and understanding person, so if i am really nervous and afraid that i might give the special someone the wrong impression then i can simply say that. Some will accept it, and that's a bingo.
You are exploring her too, keep that in mind.

My friend called up a girl he met one night at a concert asking if she'd like to meet up for some mid-afternoon schnitzel. It worked. Lockedge

[QUOTE="Lockedge"]My friend called up a girl he met one night at a concert asking if she'd like to meet up for some mid-afternoon schnitzel. It worked. Jandurin