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#101 Lockedge
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[QUOTE="blackacidevil96"]

[QUOTE="Radiatedrich91"]

Therapy does nothing unique that a person can't do on their own.

EDIT: Unless you're talking medication.

Radiatedrich91

therapy is more of the middle man between love, hate and regret. and you can only ever chose two. medications are a bit more finicky. some help. some make things worse. some put you places others wouldnt dare. and such is the beast of the human mind

No. Therapy is some dumb lady who just sits there and nods her head.

As I said before, there are some people who don't need therapists. Some could really benefit from them though. I had a friend go through therapy fighting tooth and nail. He was abused as a child, suffers from panic attacks and resorts to creating personas in order to feel comfortable in social situations with new people. He lied to the therapist and pretty much refused to believe he had a problem, even though for the past 14 months my friends and I have been working as hard as we can to keep him from drinking himself to death. He needs help to fix his problems, he cannot(from my standpoint, having known him almost all of my 24 years) manage to overcome it on his own, and it's been the primary factor that's been crippling his present and future life. He talks about his experiences in an offhand joking way to me occasionally, but always deflects whenever that topic is maintained for more than a minute or two, and he has (a few times) acknowledged he should tell the truth to the therapist work with them on the issue. Instead, he goes and seeks out self-destructive activities to hide away within. I don't know how to lead my friend though issues like that. None of my friends do. Unless something changes, my friend is going to find himself not living past 30, and if I can help him actually live, and have some happiness in this world, by overcoming the trauma that happened in his childhood, then it's worth it. If a therapist can help, and some are more capable than others, then it's worth pursuing. But my friend doesn't want help right now. So he won't pursue it. So therapists, right now, are of no use to him. But when he does want help, whatever therapist he does get isn't going to just sit and nod their head. The ones that do that are just waiting for the lying, prideful ones to pass their session and leave. They won't say no to money, and if someone doesn't want help, they're not going to push too hard.
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#102 blackacidevil96
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[QUOTE="blackacidevil96"]

[QUOTE="Radiatedrich91"]

Therapy does nothing unique that a person can't do on their own.

EDIT: Unless you're talking medication.

Radiatedrich91

therapy is more of the middle man between love, hate and regret. and you can only ever chose two. medications are a bit more finicky. some help. some make things worse. some put you places others wouldnt dare. and such is the beast of the human mind

No. Therapy is some dumb lady who just sits there and nods her head.

or not. or its the person youd go to for help in important personal matters. not figgure out what you can do on your own. but what youve tried on your own. things that have resulted in therapy

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#103 Rekunta
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[QUOTE="Lockedge"][QUOTE="Radiatedrich91"]

Stay away from psychiatrists. All you do is pay to listen to some idiot give you obvious, cliched advice for an hour and a half. It's a waste of money. Most people know what they need to do; they're just either unwilling or unable to do it. I would suggest distracting yourself with exercise or some other productive interest. That probably sounds cliched too, but I know nothing about you so that's all I can tell you. I don't like giving advice. :/

Radiatedrich91

Well, to be honest, unless you're willing to help yourself, therapy isn't a good solution. Too many go there at the behest of others, and just sit there and say nothing. You have to want to receive help for therapy to be helpful. You have to be open to asking and answering questions about your experiences, but mostly answering and asking questions about yourself.

Therapy does nothing unique that a person can't do on their own.

That's not true. A good therapist helps provide an objective viewpoint that is difficult or impossible for the patient to see, and gives advice without bias (or at least tries to). Many people don't know or can't understand what is causing them hurt, a therapist helps guide those to realization and hopefully at some point closure.

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#104 CreasianDevaili
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Well, first thing is to actually take responsbility for bad situations you are in now, from your actions in the past. Least if you can accept that you had a hand in doing this to yourself, then you might put in the effort to make changes instead of hoping someone elses does it for you. It can also, always, be worse. You cannot ignore the people out there who have without a doubt had it much worse, and did not nor try in the present to mask it with drugs or alchohol. First part of finding out the cause is accepting that you yourself might have screwed up major somewhere along the road. Parents abused you? Did you abuse someone else to take out or to share the pain? Yeah, you screwed up and that was you, not the parents, who did it to that other person. Stuff like that is important if you want to actually fix what you broke in yourself. Otherwise, the whole finding something to mask the issue and whatnot, is just good enough until you are confronted with a choice later that you are not strong enough to make the right one, rather than just the easiest.
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#107 merv_wasted
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I'd like to get on some benzos because I have anxiety too. But that probably won't happen given my history.

Dont ever take themTHEY ARE MORE ADDICTIVE THAN any substance in this world.,they are something U'd never like..You would probably get addicted to them in a weeks time..I took benzo's when I had some anxiety about my graduation results.. and I used to worry every day what are the results gonna be.I was prescribedRivotril" clonazepam"(1 mg daily)and librax(10 mg)for 2 months and had horrific withdrawal..sleepless nights and anxiety attacks even worse than before..its like shaking a champagne bottlepoping the cock and putting it back as soon as its gonna blow...and it took me 2 months to tapper.. I was so much pissed on these medications that when I got a pet.. I named him benzo.

Benzo.s just mask the situation ..it is not a solution..when u stop ur benzo's it has a rebound anxiety with vengence...Keeping ur self busy not only with games... but doing some part time work,reading,praying and just diverting ur mind but not going into depression.whats gonna happen will happen u can't change it..but u can change the way u live and make the most out of ur situation.

Do some deep breathing,yoga,workout,jogging,running and main thing "diversion from ur depression" is the key.

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#108 merv_wasted
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[QUOTE="Radiatedrich91"]

[QUOTE="blackacidevil96"]

therapy is more of the middle man between love, hate and regret. and you can only ever chose two. medications are a bit more finicky. some help. some make things worse. some put you places others wouldnt dare. and such is the beast of the human mind

Lockedge

No. Therapy is some dumb lady who just sits there and nods her head.

As I said before, there are some people who don't need therapists. Some could really benefit from them though. I had a friend go through therapy fighting tooth and nail. He was abused as a child, suffers from panic attacks and resorts to creating personas in order to feel comfortable in social situations with new people. He lied to the therapist and pretty much refused to believe he had a problem, even though for the past 14 months my friends and I have been working as hard as we can to keep him from drinking himself to death. He needs help to fix his problems, he cannot(from my standpoint, having known him almost all of my 24 years) manage to overcome it on his own, and it's been the primary factor that's been crippling his present and future life. He talks about his experiences in an offhand joking way to me occasionally, but always deflects whenever that topic is maintained for more than a minute or two, and he has (a few times) acknowledged he should tell the truth to the therapist work with them on the issue. Instead, he goes and seeks out self-destructive activities to hide away within. I don't know how to lead my friend though issues like that. None of my friends do. Unless something changes, my friend is going to find himself not living past 30, and if I can help him actually live, and have some happiness in this world, by overcoming the trauma that happened in his childhood, then it's worth it. If a therapist can help, and some are more capable than others, then it's worth pursuing. But my friend doesn't want help right now. So he won't pursue it. So therapists, right now, are of no use to him. But when he does want help, whatever therapist he does get isn't going to just sit and nod their head. The ones that do that are just waiting for the lying, prideful ones to pass their session and leave. They won't say no to money, and if someone doesn't want help, they're not going to push too hard.

Tell your friend to do the LINDEN Method.. it worked on my friend and millions of people.

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#109 EORealistic
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Easy one "GET A LIFE, GO TO A CLUB, TALK TO PEOPLE" so stop the bi*%hin about your depressed because you just lazy to make a friend. =/
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#110 CptJSparrow
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If you can't do it without therapy, then you can't do it with therapy. All therapists do is tell their patients what they already know. Maybe therapy does work for some people, but I don't know any of these people.

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You're projecting your own experiences with therapist(s) onto others. Most people refuse to acknowledge the things that bother them, especially the 'obvious'. Mood disorders then persist and they have no conscious idea why. Depression is thought to be a state of Catch-22, that you've learned that no matter what you do the end result is negative. That's obviously false to someone who isn't experiencing the condition, but such human experience is subjective. Medicine will help but cognitive-behavior modification is the only thing that will actually change what's stressing you, otherwise you'll just rely on medicine for a quick-fix again and again. It's also very difficult to look at yourself in an objective, third-person way. The reason you go to therapy is the coping method you've chosen naturally is actually not the one that helps, and therapists are trained to teach you a way that helps. Maybe your experience is limited to social workers, who in my area do have a reputation, for a reason, for not actually taking to people about their problems.
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#111 Nude_Dude
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Do productive work; start reading some math book and publish your own theory in 5-10 years.
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#113 DarthJohnova
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I've just come out of it myself, still a little depressed but i'm getting there. What people need to realise is that it's an illness, not a state of mind.

I actually found being here on GameSpot helped a lot, i'd moved away from home to Uni and this is something i could actually take with me and relate to, plus there's some amusing people on here who kept the laughs going. Also, do stuff with friends like walk round the city and chat about things you enjoy talking about, and go to the cinema and stuff. Though you probably don't want to do it, when you do, it'll make you feel better, honest :)

Also, a word on the pills. They didn't help me, i pulled through it myself through willpower, and that's what you need.

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#114 ferrari2001
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Eat a Cookie, works every time!
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#115 Grey_Eyed_Elf
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Eat a Cookie, works every time!ferrari2001
Then you'll just be fat and depressed and get more depressed because you're fat. Seriously though, join a gym. Itll distract you and make you feel good... and you will be surrounded by people you can talk to.
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#116 ferrari2001
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[QUOTE="ferrari2001"]Eat a Cookie, works every time!Grey_Eyed_Elf
Then you'll just be fat and depressed and get more depressed because you're fat. Seriously though, join a gym. Itll distract you and make you feel good... and you will be surrounded by people you can talk to.

Eat a sugar free cookie?
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#117 bobaban
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Therapy is such a waste of money. They just prescribe drugs and assume all your problems will take years to fix. Exercise is the best medicine for depression.
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#118 XileLord
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I just feel like life is so monotonous and boring these days guys. Sometimes I just want to lay in bed all day It's almost like I have to wind myself up constantly. Anyone else ever feel this way and if so, how did you deal with it? Maybe I need a new girl I don't even know if that would help though. I'm even starting to find video games monotonous and that's not me. It's been this way for like 3 years now.leonadasz2
I've been dealing with depression for a long time, mostly it comes from feelings of failure or not being able to live up to a standard. I've found that when you accomplish at least one thing that can you be proud of every single day, depression isn't near as bad. For me it's working out or making sure I get my school assignments handed in on time.

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#119 blackacidevil96
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Therapy is such a waste of money. They just prescribe drugs and assume all your problems will take years to fix. Exercise is the best medicine for depression. bobaban

except that a therapist cant prescribe meds. only a psychiatrist can. therapist cannot. so your point is moot. also what happens when excercise doesnt work? you seem to assume excercise is a cure all and that it works instantly.

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#121 deangallop
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Exercise is a good idea.

and if you don't have a job getting one will fill your time with a lesser sort of depression. :P

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#122 chaplainDMK
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[QUOTE="leonadasz2"]I just feel like life is so monotonous and boring these days guys. Sometimes I just want to lay in bed all day It's almost like I have to wind myself up constantly. Anyone else ever feel this way and if so, how did you deal with it? Maybe I need a new girl I don't even know if that would help though. I'm even starting to find video games monotonous and that's not me. It's been this way for like 3 years now.

Try getting a new hobby, like guitar, modeling etc. Something to liven up your day ^^
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#123 dkdk999
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watch this video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jG5rQ3D_Zrw&feature=related
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#124 Alter_Echo
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Listen to this song and if you still feel depressed afterwards there is no hope. In addition, if you were not depressed and are after listening to that song i sincerely apologize.

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#125 DarthJohnova
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Whilst we're on the subject of songs, this by Baz Lurhmann tends to motivate me :)

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#126 EvilSelf
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I deal with depression by spending lots of money, playing lots of games and eating out a lot...like, steaks, mahi-mahi delicacy foods etc..Ha ha

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#127 Alter_Echo
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Whilst we're on the subject of songs, this by Baz Lurhmann tends to motivate me :)

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#128 DarthJohnova
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[QUOTE="DarthJohnova"]

Whilst we're on the subject of songs, this by Baz Lurhmann tends to motivate me :)

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No problem, man :)
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#129 imaps3fanboy
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Go to a third world country and realize that your life is awesome compared to theirs and you shouldn't be whining about not liking life?
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#130 l0ve
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Things that help are exercise (jogging outside), sex, weed, music, spending time with friends or family, buying something new, graffiti, playing pranks on unsuspecting people, fighting, reading rage comics, speeding, listening to terence mckenna on youtube, acting weird in public places, and sleeping.
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#131 leonadasz2
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I was just put on celexa which the doctor says is wonderful. Anybody have experience with it?
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#132 jimmyjammer69
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I was just put on celexa which the doctor says is wonderful. Anybody have experience with it?leonadasz2
Yes, under a different name. It made me yawn a lot and grind my teeth in my sleep. I was on it for about a month before I realised medication wasn't a good long-term solution for me.