I broke a young mans vertebrae and he may be confined to a wheelchair for life

And I cant help but think about it 24/****ing 7 and even cry about what ive done.

It happened during a wrestling match at the regional finals in ottawa and I just did a sloppy slam and he landed horribly and i even felt and heard something crack and when I realized what had happened I was horrified and so sorry for what ive done. My coach has been keeping me updated and even suggested i go visit the guy in the hospital but i know i will be a ****ing mess when I see him in there and im so scared and unsure if I even want to go thru with it, even tho I know its the right thing to do and the best thing i might be able to do for myself right now.

I dont even know if I want to continue wrestling and have become very irritable and angry at a lot of people around me, I havent even really had anyone who i can really pour my soul out on the subject with either. Just my coach and with him im still bottling up some feelings. I dont want to pay to have someone to talk to so I figured maybe I can get some therapy from you guys. Its been 2 weeks and Im hearing developments everyday.

Well that's life...

Dang man I'm sorry to hear that. I really do think you should go visit him and tell him how you feel or else it will just eat you up more inside and just make you even more depressed.

And I cant help but think about it 24/****ing 7 and even cry about what ive done.

It happened during a wrestling match at the regional finals in ottawa and I just did a sloppy slam and he landed horribly and i even felt and heard something crack and when I realized what had happened I was horrified and so sorry for what ive done. My coach has been keeping me updated and even suggested i go visit the guy in the hospital but i know i will be a ****ing mess when I see him in there and im so scared and unsure if I even want to go thru with it, even tho I know its the right thing to do and the best thing i might be able to do for myself right now.

I dont even know if I want to continue wrestling and have become very irritable and angry at a lot of people around me, I havent even really had anyone who i can really pour my soul out on the subject with either. Just my coach and with him im still bottling up some feelings. I dont want to pay to have someone to talk to so I figured maybe I can get some therapy from you guys. Its been 2 weeks and Im hearing developments everyday.

DangerHiVoltage

You have every right to be feeling the way you are. Don't let anyone tell you you don't. Pay him a visit sometime. At the very least, you should drop wrestling for a little bit, because it's not going to make you feel better.

visit him. u might turn out out be friends or something.

1. It sounds like you didn't do it intentionally, so even though you feel bad you have to understand that accidents happen.

2. I think visiting him in the hospital is a good idea. You should go with your coach if you feel uncomfortable going by yourself.

Has anybody actually told you that he might be paralyzed for life, or is that just what you are thinking?

Because modern medical technology is significantly better equiped to deal with those types of injuries than it was even 10 years ago.

You probably shouldn't go visit him yet, and at least not without checking with his family first. Maybe in a couple of weeks.

You should call his family, and ask them what you can do to help.

Good for you?bededog

Well that's life...

Xx_Hopeless_xX

Good for you?bededog

Definitely pay him a visit. I think he'd definitely appreciate it, eventually, as he might be angry at you for now.

Pay him a visit.

Visit him. Don't be a coward, you owe him that.

[QUOTE="bededog"]Good for you?ProjectTrinity

Well that's life...

Xx_Hopeless_xX

~___~ right back at you..:P

[QUOTE="ProjectTrinity"][QUOTE="bededog"] [QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"]

Well that's life...

Xx_Hopeless_xX

~___~ right back at you..:P

Definitely pay him a visit. I think he'd definitely appreciate it, eventually, as he might be angry at you for now.

xionvalkyrie

I'll see you in Hell.Vic-Ferrari

You broke someone's spine too?

[QUOTE="xionvalkyrie"]

Definitely pay him a visit. I think he'd definitely appreciate it, eventually, as he might be angry at you for now.

DangerHiVoltage

He'll be angry, but if you keep visiting it'll make him eventually calm down (hopefully).

Ottawa?

I live near Ottawa :o

Dont blame yourself, it was a freak accident and is a risk associated with the sport. Wrestlers always need to be in control of their bodies and I guess he was not

That could've been you... :shock:

Just go visit him

He's an idiot if he's angry, knowing that you weren't trying to go for an overkill or be some sort of show-off.

Look on the bright side, he's still alive.

This sort of thing happens in contact sports. It really sucks when it happens, but it's important as a player to understand the risks and accept them if you're going to play. It's understandable that he's going to be upset, but he should be upset at the situation not at you.

Anyway, go visit him in the hospital. It may actually do you more good than him. Also try to keep in mind that this same kind of stuff happens even to the professional atheletes. It's pretty much impossible to have a sport where two people are forcibly contorting each other's bodies and trying to flip one another over and not have something really bad happen sooner or later.

That could've been you... :shock:

Just go visit him

He's an idiot if he's angry, knowing that you weren't trying to go for an overkill or be some sort of show-off.

blacknight06

[QUOTE="Vic-Ferrari"]I'll see you in Hell.Zerocrossings

You broke someone's spine too?

Good for you?bededog

And I cant help but think about it 24/****ing 7 and even cry about what ive done.

It happened during a wrestling match at the regional finals in ottawa and I just did a sloppy slam and he landed horribly and i even felt and heard something crack and when I realized what had happened I was horrified and so sorry for what ive done. My coach has been keeping me updated and even suggested i go visit the guy in the hospital but i know i will be a ****ing mess when I see him in there and im so scared and unsure if I even want to go thru with it, even tho I know its the right thing to do and the best thing i might be able to do for myself right now.

I dont even know if I want to continue wrestling and have become very irritable and angry at a lot of people around me, I havent even really had anyone who i can really pour my soul out on the subject with either. Just my coach and with him im still bottling up some feelings. I dont want to pay to have someone to talk to so I figured maybe I can get some therapy from you guys. Its been 2 weeks and Im hearing developments everyday.

This sort of thing happens in contact sports. It really sucks when it happens, but it's important as a player to understand the risks and accept them if you're going to play.

gameguy6700

I agree. I don't see this as being your fault, thread creator.

This is why wrestling is dangerous. You should at least go and pay him a visit man. th3warr1or

Oh, I forgot to address the hospital thing. You could ask around to try and determine if that's what homeboy would like. Talk to your coach and try to in touch with the kid's parents. See what they say about it.

Pay him a visit, you know he deserves it. And there is no wayyy hes gonna be mad at you, this is just one of those things

[QUOTE="xionvalkyrie"]

Definitely pay him a visit. I think he'd definitely appreciate it, eventually, as he might be angry at you for now.

DangerHiVoltage

[QUOTE="xionvalkyrie"]

Definitely pay him a visit. I think he'd definitely appreciate it, eventually, as he might be angry at you for now.

DangerHiVoltage

call his family and talk to them, get permission to see him, then chill with him and talk

thats the most hardcore thing ive heard all day...

umm i honestly dont know what to say...

you gotta feel bad but you cant let it control you forever both of you guys will come to an understanding...