I feel worthless, should I?

Hi, I'm in high school.

O.K. here it goes. I had been e-mailing this girl for about a year. We really got along well and everything, and she met my mom and shook her hand. I met BOTH of her parents, and they really liked me. Well, I'm in Student Council and my art teacher, who sponsors it, informed me of the Back-to-School Dance that was supposed to take place on Friday from 8-11pm. I asked the girl I'd been e-mailing to go to the dance with me. After chewing on the thought, she finally agreed to go. Well, around 25-30 minutes into the dance, I was having loads of fun, and hormones took over. I was rubbing her shoulders, and then made my way down to the buttocks, and gave it a pat with both hands. She didn't make a big deal about it at the dance. She still smiled and danced with me, and even hugged me goodbye. Well, the following Monday, I was in the cafeteria when I spotted her sitting at one of the tables. I sat down by her. She looked at me in a very unfriendly way. I didn't understand what was going on, so I just said "Hi", and, almost exactly after I finished the word, she slapped me HARD across the face. Needless to say, I was completely stunned. I said "What was that?" and she replied "Don't ever touch my butt again!". I was still in shock and just said "Sorry, I have social anxiety, and I couldn't think of anything to say, so I did something stupid." I really do have social anxiety and was already planning on seeing the doctor for it. I've already been to a therapist. Anyway, the next day, she smiled at me AGAIN,TWICE. Why the heck did she wait two days to slap me, and then suddenly go back into casual friend mode and smile at me? Now rumors have gotten across the school all over this trivial thing that happened at a Friday night dance. Her parents hate me now, and so does her brother. They're treating me like I raped her.

Do I no longer deserve to live over this?

I was crying in the library after she slapped me. I was even contemplating suicide. Am I a worthless bag of garbage over this?? I'm so confused.

I AM getting professional help.

This really doesn't seem like a big deal...

Well, it is just a girl.

Touching of teh butt was not wise.

Just apologize to her (for real) and move on and learn from this situation.

Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.LJS9502_basic

Middle school im guessing?

Instead of saying something stupid ill say that you'll look back on this in a few years and laugh about it.

Trust me.

Hahahaha, that sounds like something I would've done a while back. Now I'm a conservative kid :P

Why would you kill yourself over that? It's not a big deal at all

Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.LJS9502_basic

What's this about getting to know her? We had been friends for over a year.

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.hedgehogmaster

What's this about getting to know her? We had been friends for over a year.

Middle school im guessing?

Instead of saying something stupid ill say that you'll look back on this in a few years and laugh about it.

Trust me.

Breesy

Eh i guess i missed the HS part. 8-11 HS dance? wow thats not very late

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.hedgehogmaster

What's this about getting to know her? We had been friends for over a year.

Just let her touch your bum, no matter what its a win win situation for you. :D

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.hedgehogmaster

What's this about getting to know her? We had been friends for over a year.

Make a new friend. That you like. Girl.

omg your life is so over. end it.she doesnt like you, niether do her parents or brother. if you dont impress them in your life, its over.

is what a jerk would say.

i say it wasnt a big deal and move on

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.hedgehogmaster

What's this about getting to know her? We had been friends for over a year.

E-mail is not the same thing dude....

That's strange, I'm not gonna comment on the suicide/worthless thing cause I think you know that thoughts like that are stupid. It's just a mistake, it doesn't define who you are.

But the reason to why she slapped you... I think somebody noticed what you did to her on the dance floor. that somebody probably talked to her about it or at least someone did and that's when she felt embaressed. So in fear of being looked at as some **** she decided to take it out on you and make you look and feel bad...

I'm not defending what you did but I think it was wrong of her not to talk to you about it immediately, instead of slapping you like that in public two days later...

[QUOTE="hedgehogmaster"]

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Apologize and move on. Next time.....get to know the girl first.LJS9502_basic

What's this about getting to know her? We had been friends for over a year.

E-mail is not the same thing dude....

We talked at school also. I think part of the problem was that I was looking for a girlfriend, and she had already stated that we were just going as friends.. kinda stupid on my part, eh?

Everyone deals with things differently, but suicide is the end. There is no going back once you're dead. Just try to work things out and over time things will hopefully get better.killer5555666

hahaha NO more 1 ups when your dead dude

Everyone deals with things differently, but suicide is the end. There is no going back once you're dead. Just try to work things out and over time things will hopefully get better.killer5555666

I beleive that life never ends... so suicide would be a big mistake... you'd not only have to keep living... but youd be living in eternal torture worse than anything youve ever been through or imagined... Thats called HELL.

Dang... I mean, she should feel violated, but if you have a social anxiety disorder she seems pretty unsympathetic. :?Funkyhamster

I call that an excuse for acting like and idiot around other people... It's not like he can't help it...

yo man i feel your pain but ill tell ya sucide for that is sutupid, ive been through far worse far far worse and im only 14 now. think of life like this, its no fun unles its a challenege and what u got there is a challenge(excuse my spelling) dude so what u gave her a pat in the butt telll her ur sry and get over it and dont cry beucase crying doesnt help you in anyone, u gotta think man think before ya act

good luck

Hi, I'm in high school.

O.K. here it goes. I had been e-mailing this girl for about a year. We really got along well and everything, and she met my mom and shook her hand. I met BOTH of her parents, and they really liked me. Well, I'm in Student Council and my art teacher, who sponsors it, informed me of the Back-to-School Dance that was supposed to take place on Friday from 8-11pm. I asked the girl I'd been e-mailing to go to the dance with me. After chewing on the thought, she finally agreed to go. Well, around 25-30 minutes into the dance, I was having loads of fun, and hormones took over. I was rubbing her shoulders, and then made my way down to the buttocks, and gave it a pat with both hands. She didn't make a big deal about it at the dance. She still smiled and danced with me, and even hugged me goodbye. Well, the following Monday, I was in the cafeteria when I spotted her sitting at one of the tables. I sat down by her. She looked at me in a very unfriendly way. I didn't understand what was going on, so I just said "Hi", and, almost exactly after I finished the word, she slapped me HARD across the face. Needless to say, I was completely stunned. I said "What was that?" and she replied "Don't ever touch my butt again!". I was still in shock and just said "Sorry, I have social anxiety, and I couldn't think of anything to say, so I did something stupid." I really do have social anxiety and was already planning on seeing the doctor for it. I've already been to a therapist. Anyway, the next day, she smiled at me AGAIN,TWICE. Why the heck did she wait two days to slap me, and then suddenly go back into casual friend mode and smile at me? Now rumors have gotten across the school all over this trivial thing that happened at a Friday night dance. Her parents hate me now, and so does her brother. They're treating me like I raped her.

Do I no longer deserve to live over this?

I was crying in the library after she slapped me. I was even contemplating suicide. Am I a worthless bag of garbage over this?? I'm so confused.

I AM getting professional help.

hedgehogmaster

Well you seem extremely weak to want to kill yourself over something so stupid.... anyways get oveer it.

Hi, I'm in high school.

O.K. here it goes. I had been e-mailing this girl for about a year. We really got along well and everything, and she met my mom and shook her hand. I met BOTH of her parents, and they really liked me. Well, I'm in Student Council and my art teacher, who sponsors it, informed me of the Back-to-School Dance that was supposed to take place on Friday from 8-11pm. I asked the girl I'd been e-mailing to go to the dance with me. After chewing on the thought, she finally agreed to go. Well, around 25-30 minutes into the dance, I was having loads of fun, and hormones took over. I was rubbing her shoulders, and then made my way down to the buttocks, and gave it a pat with both hands. She didn't make a big deal about it at the dance. She still smiled and danced with me, and even hugged me goodbye. Well, the following Monday, I was in the cafeteria when I spotted her sitting at one of the tables. I sat down by her. She looked at me in a very unfriendly way. I didn't understand what was going on, so I just said "Hi", and, almost exactly after I finished the word, she slapped me HARD across the face. Needless to say, I was completely stunned. I said "What was that?" and she replied "Don't ever touch my butt again!". I was still in shock and just said "Sorry, I have social anxiety, and I couldn't think of anything to say, so I did something stupid." I really do have social anxiety and was already planning on seeing the doctor for it. I've already been to a therapist. Anyway, the next day, she smiled at me AGAIN,TWICE. Why the heck did she wait two days to slap me, and then suddenly go back into casual friend mode and smile at me? Now rumors have gotten across the school all over this trivial thing that happened at a Friday night dance. Her parents hate me now, and so does her brother. They're treating me like I raped her.

Do I no longer deserve to live over this?

I was crying in the library after she slapped me. I was even contemplating suicide. Am I a worthless bag of garbage over this?? I'm so confused.

I AM getting professional help.

hedgehogmaster

Maybe somebody said something to her, or maybe there's something going on with her. Confront her about it, tell her how you feel, and I'm sure she'll talk to you.

Suiciding over this would be so stupid dude. Don't even think about it.

Only even think about such a thing when you have truly thrown away your life, please, people cope with the death of a wife, and this....I mean common dude, it's not like she's the Bach(Whom will always be better than Ludwig) of your life. wemhim

Pffft...Beethoven was way better than Bach!

Well you touching her tush was well, unexpected for her. So of course she was going to slap you. But don't think of that as a bad thing. She did smile at you again. So chances are that she liked it, but was uncomfortable. Don't worry about it.Yagr_Zero

I wouldn't necessarily say she LIKED it, but I think she forgave you for it. Still, I don't know if I'd recommend you going out with her again...

Look, at this point in your life you're still learning to read the subtleries of a situation. Don't get suicidal over it. By all means, cry if it makes you feel better, chalk it up to a lesson learned, and move on. I have a lot of social anxiety myself, but that's something you can learn to live with if not conquer. It doesn't make you worthless - nearly all of my close friends, including my husband, are gifted people that just can't handle relating to others well. Reacting to other people is not what makes your entire life, so if you blow it on occasion, don't let it eat you alive.