I hate life :( Please anyone with any tips

Hey guys, Im wondering if there anyone had any support for me, I am absolutely hating life at the moment, I can't stand working I can't stand doing anything, I hate everything I used to like and nothing seems to be helping me, all I can think about now is of the memories I have of the past and simply cry over them.

I finished high school last October and what I thought would be a dream, no school, university aghhh the releif, turned into a complete misery and still is, I started a new part time job, which I absolutely hated, I then went back to my old work place which I used to love so much before I left the first time, only to not be able to do it anymore, by that I mean I would just get to work and just feel down and I ended up quitting a 2nd time :( even though deep inside I know the people there were great and I might never get a workplace that friendly ever again.

I then started uni and discovered that the info I was given on the course was false and it would not take me through to becoming a teacher, so I had to resign because there wasn't much point in it, not to mention the few weeks I went I felt like a zombie walking around I made no friends and this sense got even worse.

I then discovered I had to sit a test in late May, to determine if I can get into the course I really need to get into. In the mean time I had applied for youth allowance (Government payments, not much at all 85 au a week....) because I really needed money to insure my car etc. Now I am being forced to go into their office every fortnight for a 2 hour interview, like some dole bludger trying to find work, most of the work is severly underpaid factory work, not underpaid in terms of minmum wages, but as Iam only 17 I only get 70% of full wages and in some cases working in a boiling hot brick factory I would be making 11au an hour breaking my own back.

My social life has completely gone, I look back on the days I had 7,8,9 years ago and I just cant beleive how downhill I have gone, even my high school friends from last year I have not kept in contact with lately because of all this trouble, and having no money at all means that I can't even go to the cinemas with them. Looking back just 5 years ago I was much more active socially, cousins who I never even see anymore, I used to have the best times with them, yet when they were asking me to go out with them 3 years back I never wanted to, and the relationship just went from some joy filled experiences with so much fun, and they were my entire childhood to just the occasional hello when I walk by them in the shops every few months :(.

I honestly don't know what to do , I don't find any thrill in anything I did only 2,3 years ago I play videogames thinking about bad stuff, I dont play soccer anymore everything has caved in on me, and every time I try to fix something it just doesn't and I just want to die now, were I not Catholic I would go and jump of a bridge that is how much Ive had it with this. I have been to counsellors, talked to my family, doctors and nothing is helping its just getting worse and worse and I just want to leave this earth as soon as possible.

Any advice would be appreciated please help.

Sorry to hear this man, I'm sure things will get better though, you just have to hang in there.

Yeah, just don't do something stupid and you'll be fine eventually.

It's good if you don't care, but I am sure you have some friends to atleast give you a good time. I have absolutely hit rock bottom, I have nothing at all.

Have an intelligent outlook of your own life, be objective and try to understand the system so you can manipulate it at your own will.

Narrow down your problems and take one step solution at a time. You are letting yourself warp around into one big problem who will lead you into several others.

I'm just getting out of 1 really bad year where I was paralyzied in life and depressed, I was simply in a stale moment, my depression over losing the love of my life, and 2 semesters at university pushed me into many others smaller problems. One day I stopped feeling it, and started acting on it. First a job, then my social life and now I will be back at Uni for my last semester in June. Still many things to do, but having goals to achieve is what motivates me

you have a dream life compared to billions of other people in the world. Be great full, suck it up and push on through. When your an old man and you look back on moments that you struggled through in your life you'll realize that it wasn't so bad.

It's good if you don't care, but I am sure you have some friends to atleast give you a good time. I have absolutely hit rock bottom, I have nothing at all.dazzzilla

Nope...no friends at all, I never really cared about any of them or anyone so now I feel like a **** emo.

you have a dream life compared to billions of other people in the world. Be great full, suck it up and push on through. When your an old man and you look back on moments that you struggled through in your life you'll realize that it wasn't so bad.

TaigaTiger

I understand there are people with no food etc, but this is a completely different issue, and I will never look at it easily, the last 5 months have been the worst in my life.

try some herb :) lol jk

I have absolutely hit rock bottom, I have nothing at all.

dazzzilla

That is an illusion created by your depression. Im pretty sure you have something to hang on. You are still young, and you probably have family members who loves you deeply. That is something!

Like I said, have an objective view of your life. You think getting friends will help you, but friends should come second, your priority should be you. Focus on fixing yourself then worry about friends and relationships, otherwise your "new" friends wont have pleasure to hangout with you

How can I fix it though, I just can't find the cause, its just everything combined crushing the soul out of me, and then looking back at the life I could have had just destroys me :(.

[QUOTE="TaigaTiger"]

you have a dream life compared to billions of other people in the world. Be great full, suck it up and push on through. When your an old man and you look back on moments that you struggled through in your life you'll realize that it wasn't so bad.

dazzzilla

I understand there are people with no food etc, but this is a completely different issue, and I will never look at it easily, the last 5 months have been the worst in my life.

I have helped plenty of people in the days I had friends, too bad when I need some help there is no one there. That is the bad thing about being a good person, you give too much and then when you need something there is no one there to see your pain. These past few months I have honestly wished that I had started going to night clubs, parties, alcohol, sure you might not end up going to Uni, but in times like this I would trade everything I own for my happiness.

How can I fix it though, I just can't find the cause, its just everything combined crushing the soul out of me, and then looking back at the life I could have had just destroys me :(.

dazzzilla

You fix by projecting yourself into a better viable future. Forget about the past

You say "everything combined" so you do know that the whole is the cause of adding smaller variables. Pick one variable, fight it off, when its done, proceed to the next one. I would suggest starting with your work variable

What the hell is wrong with you? You're complaining about how "terrible" you life is even though you can fix everything "wrong" about it.

1. Stop being so damn emotional. You hit a hard point in your life, so what? You need to buck up and start sorting things out instead of feeling so damn depressed about them.

2. Find a job you can enjoy. You stated that you loved your last job and the people you worked with every day yet you quit TWICE because you were so glum. Eliminate the feeling of sadness and any job you have will feel like your dream job.

3. If you can, get a job close to where you live. Not only will you not need to waste money on your car but you'll also have the reassurance that your right next to your comfy place.

4. Absolutely FORGET ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS. Although this may seem like a difficult thing to do, you're going to have to eventually. I'm not saying completely isolate yourself from them, but don't be so upset that you're not seeing them as much as you used to. Plan to get together with them once a month at your house or theirs. It's affordable and fun!

5. You're only 17, don't be too upset about your career yet. Find out what you REALLY want to do, if teaching seems to be your forte, forget about it for a while. Get your life sorted out and THEN go back to it. It's only another problem that's been stacked upon your other ones.

You need to sit yourself down, make a list of what you absolutely NEED to do right now and start with the things that are easy to do. Your life isn't as bad as you like to think it is. You're young, you've got a high-school degree, a capable body, and a full, wonderful life ahead of you.

One of my favorite sayings: "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade."

Suicide is never the answer, so I'm glad your faith prevents you from doing something so.. yeah..

You sound like you're in quite the rut; and yes, there are people in the world in ruts as well, but reminding everyone of this matter won't make him feel any better. I mean, when you're feeling like this, knowing that other people are in donkey doo won't make you feel any better.

My recommendations? Well, I guess you've really got no other choice but to wait it out. Chances are things will probably get worse before they get better. Acquire a source of income; even if it's a dead end job at coles or something. Sure, they may not pay well, but at least it'll take up the time; sometimes, keeping yourself occupied is all you can do. Getting into any line of work, even if it's crappy, is also a pretty good way to meeting people. Keeping an open mind and getting on good terms with other employees even if you're not overly crash hot on them will eventually get you invited to other social events and will expand your means of meeting new people. I don't know what you're like in person or socially or anything, but, well, there's bound to be something that people will like about you.

These things take time, I suppose. Keeping an open mind, some positive thinking, might get you somewhere. Actually, scratch that; when I feel crap all that 'think positive!" garbage drives me nuts. Just work at it, expand the community you associate with, and things will, gradually pick up. Over time.

Also, you said you saw Psychologists Counsellors etc etc etc; any of them prescriped any form of antidepressants? Prozac or something? Taking some on the side until things pick up might be a good idea; being in a better mood will also help with motivation.

EDIT: Woah, Wait a tic! You're 17!?! I'm 17 and I'm still in school X__X Wha-!

Any advice would be appreciated please help.dazzzilla

Yea I started earlier with all my relatives who started at the same time but at a different school, because Im still elegible for that particular year group as I was born in May 1992. I don't think I will feel so bad when my birthday comes around in 3 weeks... celabrating your 18th birthday with no one pretty much, one of the supposedly best times of a persons life going like any other depressing day.

I really really want a job at a electronics shop, I think that would give me something to put my mind off. I have tried working at BIG W as nightfiller and that is where the problems started.

Suicide is never the answer, so I'm glad your faith prevents you from doing something so.. yeah..

You sound like you're in quite the rut; and yes, there are people in the world in ruts as well, but reminding everyone of this matter won't make him feel any better. I mean, when you're feeling like this, knowing that other people are in donkey doo won't make you feel any better.

My recommendations? Well, I guess you've really got no other choice but to wait it out. Chances are things will probably get worse before they get better. Acquire a source of income; even if it's a dead end job at coles or something. Sure, they may not pay well, but at least it'll take up the time; sometimes, keeping yourself occupied is all you can do. Getting into any line of work, even if it's crappy, is also a pretty good way to meeting people. Keeping an open mind and getting on good terms with other employees even if you're not overly crash hot on them will eventually get you invited to other social events and will expand your means of meeting new people. I don't know what you're like in person or socially or anything, but, well, there's bound to be something that people will like about you.

These things take time, I suppose. Keeping an open mind, some positive thinking, might get you somewhere. Actually, scratch that; when I feel crap all that 'think positive!" garbage drives me nuts. Just work at it, expand the community you associate with, and things will, gradually pick up. Over time.

Also, you said you saw Psychologists Counsellors etc etc etc; any of them prescriped any form of antidepressants? Prozac or something? Taking some on the side until things pick up might be a good idea; being in a better mood will also help with motivation.

EDIT: Woah, Wait a tic! You're 17!?! I'm 17 and I'm still in school X__X Wha-!

Silent_Raven92

Good advice, exceptfor the anti depressants. IMO people that young should not engage in taking heavy medications, even in small amounts. It would be the same as suggest him to take a few doses of MDMA ( apart from being illegal).

There isn't a whole lot that people can say that will help, at least not immediately. I ought to know; I know how little other people could help me during my darkest days. I think that the best thing to do is not to try to solve all your problems at once. If you view the entire thing as one big obstacle to be overcome, then obviously it's going to look impossibly insurmountable. Just identify your biggest problem - maybe it's your lack of a decent job; maybe it's your lack of educational direction; whatever - and try to put steps in motion to fix it. Then when that ball is rolling, go to the next one, and so on.

Above all, don't worry about the present. Worry is a natural human emotion that can often motivate one to put necessary precautions in place, but when things get out of hand, so does one's tendency to worry. Once you have done what you can do, and can do no further, then it is up to the world, and worrying will change no more.

Since you mentioned you were Catholic, this might be a good mantra to keep in mind:

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

(Matthew 6:25-34)

try some herb :) lol jk

butteman12

In the current state of mind I am in, I just can't see myself working for too long, that is what bugs me, in 2008 I worked with the worst manager I had ever seen in Mcdonalds, yet I worked there and sucked it up. I don't know I think things like this that have happened in life are only now affecting me, I don't know how or why but I used to be a person who just held in everything and from Day 1 in high school when I was being bullied the hell out of I never not once did I I feel like I want to die. Yet now I do. I will never forgive myself though, I caused this, I did not want to hang out with relatives, I didn't keep in contact with my friends and I was too stupid to see what would come of it, now I am facing the consequences. That is exactly the reason why I am here, I have no one to turn to, and I don't want my parents to have to worry more about me too, because they have had their own fair share of problems.

I just want to get done with University, but at a time like this it seems so overwhelming 4 years, and I know that it might get better in 4 years time, when I have a nice income, an easy job I love, and have money to spend going out with friends. But 4 years is such a long time, if I had 1 high school friend with me on this journey life would be perfect. Right now my only wish is to get my happiness back and job wise I honestly wish I could get a job at Eb games, Game or somewhere with something that I have alot of passion in.

I might talk to my parents again.

I might talk to my parents again.

dazzzilla

If they'll listen, I'm sure that's your best bet. Sometimes all that one really needs is to have someone one cares about to listen. You could try prayer, too. If nothing else, it's a good source of meditation.

In the current state of mind I am in, I just can't see myself working for too long, that is what bugs me, in 2008 I worked with the worst manager I had ever seen in Mcdonalds, yet I worked there and sucked it up. I don't know I think things like this that have happened in life are only now affecting me, I don't know how or why but I used to be a person who just held in everything and from Day 1 in high school when I was being bullied the hell out of I never not once did I I feel like I want to die. Yet now I do. I will never forgive myself though, I caused this, I did not want to hang out with relatives, I didn't keep in contact with my friends and I was too stupid to see what would come of it, now I am facing the consequences. That is exactly the reason why I am here, I have no one to turn to, and I don't want my parents to have to worry more about me too, because they have had their own fair share of problems.

I just want to get done with University, but at a time like this it seems so overwhelming 4 years, and I know that it might get better in 4 years time, when I have a nice income, an easy job I love, and have money to spend going out with friends. But 4 years is such a long time, if I had 1 high school friend with me on this journey life would be perfect. Right now my only wish is to get my happiness back and job wise I honestly wish I could get a job at Eb games, Game or somewhere with something that I have alot of passion in.

dazzzilla

Bro, you want a friend to help you through this journey? Look towards your family. You say you have no one to turn to but your family is RIGHT THERE. They're there for you and whatever you're going through. Don't be afraid to tell them everything your feeling. Once things start getting sorted out and YOU actually take control of your life, you'll have SOMEBODY to tell about the progress you've made and how you're feeling.

They're the closest people you'll ever have, shutting them out is by far the worst idea you could possibly have.

A job at EB Games is a WONDERFUL idea. You'll not only be working with a business you love, but if the people there are like the people I work with at my EB, then you'll be having the greatest time everyday. Go get yourself an application and a hold of your life.

I might talk to my parents again.

dazzzilla

I did last year and I honestly at the time wasn't depressed until I heard the phone call, it was 1st of October last year, the day of my graduation :), the day Gran turismo PSP came out :) and I was pretty confident I would get the casual job because I had a great interview, had some good stuff to talk about to the people there, and I didn't get the I had never felt that bad about a rejection.

Yes I know my family is here, and they are great for me, I think that is one of the main reasons I left BIG W nightfill, because everyone at home is away the whole day, and when I am away they are at home, and having no one but them this really hurt me emotionally but some people just tend to say, suck it up, you cant stay with your family forever.... I can't but when life is this dark and there is no one else to help you how can you not miss those people.

Yes I know my family is here, and they are great for me, I think that is one of the main reasons I left BIG W nightfill, because everyone at home is away the whole day, and when I am away they are at home, and having no one but them this really hurt me emotionally but some people just tend to say, suck it up, you cant stay with your family forever.... I can't but when life is this dark and there is no one else to help you how can you not miss those people.

dazzzilla

Dude, you're 17. You have all the time in the world to leave the nest later. :P That's what one's family is for.

My fun used to come from playing video games, ahhh the overnighters I had a few years ago with relatives, finishing Need For speed underground in one night, and getting some awesome cars in Gt3 in one night. Playing video games and talking to the people I was at school with. But now I just don't have the will to do anything anymore, I just feel down, I can't see anything nice comming out of the future, like I said the job and all can come if I manage to finish 4 years of uni, but what good is that when you have no people to be with and spend time with. Like I said there is the parents and all and they are very important and give you the best helping hand of all, but you still miss that fun you have with friends and younger relatives (cousins) where you can muck around a bit and laugh.

My fun used to come from playing video games, ahhh the overnighters I had a few years ago with relatives, finishing Need For speed underground in one night, and getting some awesome cars in Gt3 in one night. Playing video games and talking to the people I was at school with. But now I just don't have the will to do anything anymore, I just feel down, I can't see anything nice comming out of the future, like I said the job and all can come if I manage to finish 4 years of uni, but what good is that when you have no people to be with and spend time with. Like I said there is the parents and all and they are very important and give you the best helping hand of all, but you still miss that fun you have with friends and younger relatives (cousins) where you can muck around a bit and laugh.

dazzzilla

Why don't you find something to do where you can meet people?

What's the tallest bridge over there anyway?X360PS3AMD05

Why don't you find something to do where you can meet people?

GabuEx

I honestly wish I could do something with my old friends, going through the entire process of meeting people is never easy outside of school. But it's like a chain there is nothing to do with those old friends because I have pretty much no money, and like I said earlier I don't want to start a job and quit again because I get too depressed and my cousins who I said about before, I'd love to start talking to them and all but it's so difficult just jumping in after you haven't spoken properly to someone for the last 4 years.

I know I have to move forward, and I know life always seems prettier looking back than it was, but in all honesty it was and I fear whats yet to come and how soon. I am now close to breaking point, if something added to this I dont know what I would end up doing.

College in America seems different to how Uni is here, well atleast in the movies and news it seems to be, here not many people live on campus and it is too expensive for a 18 year old, something like 250 a week at my University per dorm. So you don't get that connection to other people because there are barely any :S, and the ones that are there tend to be older because they have already saved up money and all.

[QUOTE="GabuEx"]

Why don't you find something to do where you can meet people?

dazzzilla

I honestly wish I could do something with my old friends, going through the entire process of meeting people is never easy outside of school. But it's like a chain there is nothing to do with those old friends because I have pretty much no money, and like I said earlier I don't want to start a job and quit again because I get too depressed and my cousins who I said about before, I'd love to start talking to them and all but it's so difficult just jumping in after you haven't spoken properly to someone for the last 4 years.

I know I have to move forward, and I know life always seems prettier looking back than it was, but in all honesty it was and I fear whats yet to come and how soon. I am now close to breaking point, if something added to this I dont know what I would end up doing.

College in America seems different to how Uni is here, well atleast in the movies and news it seems to be, here not many people live on campus and it is too expensive for a 18 year old, something like 250 a week at my University per dorm. So you don't get that connection to other people because there are barely any :S, and the ones that are there tend to be older because they have already saved up money and all.

I honestly wish I could do something with my old friends, going through the entire process of meeting people is never easy outside of school. But it's like a chain there is nothing to do with those old friends because I have pretty much no money, and like I said earlier I don't want to start a job and quit again because I get too depressed and my cousins who I said about before, I'd love to start talking to them and all but it's so difficult just jumping in after you haven't spoken properly to someone for the last 4 years.

I know I have to move forward, and I know life always seems prettier looking back than it was, but in all honesty it was and I fear whats yet to come and how soon. I am now close to breaking point, if something added to this I dont know what I would end up doing.

College in America seems different to how Uni is here, well atleast in the movies and news it seems to be, here not many people live on campus and it is too expensive for a 18 year old, something like 250 a week at my University per dorm. So you don't get that connection to other people because there are barely any :S, and the ones that are there tend to be older because they have already saved up money and all.

dazzzilla

Well, this may seem like an odd thing to say, but I find that when I've finally reached my breaking point, the best thing in the world is to just stop caring. That's not to say to become a nihilist or something, but rather simply to acknowledge the fact that it's more or less out of your hands and that the only thing you can do is your best and then let the chips fall as they may. I've had a number of times where I get more and more and more stressed out the more I think about something, until eventually I'm just like, "You know what? Whatever." And it's at that point that I'm the most capable person I can be, ironically enough. If you can't change it, then don't worry about it.

[QUOTE="dazzzilla"]

I honestly wish I could do something with my old friends, going through the entire process of meeting people is never easy outside of school. But it's like a chain there is nothing to do with those old friends because I have pretty much no money, and like I said earlier I don't want to start a job and quit again because I get too depressed and my cousins who I said about before, I'd love to start talking to them and all but it's so difficult just jumping in after you haven't spoken properly to someone for the last 4 years.

I know I have to move forward, and I know life always seems prettier looking back than it was, but in all honesty it was and I fear whats yet to come and how soon. I am now close to breaking point, if something added to this I dont know what I would end up doing.

College in America seems different to how Uni is here, well atleast in the movies and news it seems to be, here not many people live on campus and it is too expensive for a 18 year old, something like 250 a week at my University per dorm. So you don't get that connection to other people because there are barely any :S, and the ones that are there tend to be older because they have already saved up money and all.

GabuEx

Well, this may seem like an odd thing to say, but I find that when I've finally reached my breaking point, the best thing in the world is to just stop caring. That's not to say to become a nihilist or something, but rather simply to acknowledge the fact that it's more or less out of your hands and that the only thing you can do is your best and then let the chips fall as they may. I've had a number of times where I get more and more and more stressed out the more I think about something, until eventually I'm just like, "You know what? Whatever." And it's at that point that I'm the most capable person I can be, ironically enough. If you can't change it, then don't worry about it.

I was expecting you to say something along the lines of "When I get stressed out, I think of Chocobos."Pvt_r3d

:lol: Well that works too...

That is the thing, my personality does not suit it, I have always cared about stuff, I do recall even in 2001 when I wasnt 10 I at one point felt depressed :S I know its wierd 10 year old feeling down, but I do recall the time it went for weeks but I had school back then, when you go to school wheter it be primary or high school the toughest of problems seem to just flutter away for atleast those 7 hours.

I'd love to be a person who could just not care, but that is just not me and its lame but I can't change it because I know I was born like that.

Wait, are you 17? Why do you have car insurance and all this crap?

Dude, you brought this upon yourself... You're young, you should be focusing on your education. My parents aren't even letting me have a job until I'm 20. It's not the time to focus on money, it's the time to build a secure future.

The best advice I can give is to start meditating. It will help guide you.

That is the thing, my personality does not suit it, I have always cared about stuff, I do recall even in 2001 when I wasnt 10 I at one point felt depressed :S I know its wierd 10 year old feeling down, but I do recall the time it went for weeks but I had school back then, when you go to school wheter it be primary or high school the toughest of problems seem to just flutter away for atleast those 7 hours.

I'd love to be a person who could just not care, but that is just not me and its lame but I can't change it because I know I was born like that.

dazzzilla

Then perhaps your first point of business is to learn not to care so much about that which you cannot change.

Wait, are you 17? Why do you have car insurance and all this crap?

Dude, you brought this upon yourself... You're young, you should be focusing on your education. My parents aren't even letting me have a job until I'm 20. It's not the time to focus on money, it's the time to build a secure future.

The best advice I can give is to start meditating. It will help guide you.

Famiking

Yea I bought a car last year when I started doing night fill because I needed a way to get home at 2 or even 3am sometimes, but I dont want to sell it now :S I love it too much even though its a crappy little box, it still takes me to places where I can atleast get away from this life and relax for even half an hour a week.

Yea I bought a car last year when I started doing night fill because I needed a way to get home at 2 or even 3am sometimes, but I dont want to sell it now :S I love it too much even though its a crappy little box, it still takes me to places where I can atleast get away from this life and relax for even half an hour a week.

dazzzilla