I hate life :( Please anyone with any tips

Wait, are you 17? Why do you have car insurance and all this crap?

Dude, you brought this upon yourself... You're young, you should be focusing on your education. My parents aren't even letting me have a job until I'm 20. It's not the time to focus on money, it's the time to build a secure future.

The best advice I can give is to start meditating. It will help guide you.

Famiking

Fact is that most of the teens in the UK and in Australia want to be already adults and lead to a depression period. I'm Italian and live in the UK, I've noticed how everyone here at 16 have already a job and a driving licence. In fact I'm very much like you Famiking. I'm 20 and haven't got a job yet.

Anyway to the TC, don't be so depressed. I'm going through a bad moment myself but I'm playing games and don't really care. Yes, I might have some depression periods but sometimes I listen to music and it goes away. Actually, I wrote a new review on here and felt good. It was something I haven't done in quite a while, but felt good... nerdly enough.

Have an intelligent outlook of your own life, be objective and try to understand the system so you can manipulate it at your own will.

Narrow down your problems and take one step solution at a time. You are letting yourself warp around into one big problem who will lead you into several others.

I'm just getting out of 1 really bad year where I was paralyzied in life and depressed, I was simply in a stale moment, my depression over losing the love of my life, and 2 semesters at university pushed me into many others smaller problems. One day I stopped feeling it, and started acting on it. First a job, then my social life and now I will be back at Uni for my last semester in June. Still many things to do, but having goals to achieve is what motivates me

Adrianstalker

I have lost the will to do anything though, I didn't notice everything in my life detiorate until about November 2009, then I really sat down and looked back ( I regret this) and just saw everything I had lost, and I had absolutely gained nothing, I did gain new gaming consoles etc and a decent pc finally but hell I was happier when I did not have anything when I had only my Ps2 in 2004 not even a computer but yet I was happier.

Nothing at all that is one thing I can promise you, besides material stuff everything else has gone downhill since about 2004.

I have lost the will to do anything though, I didn't notice everything in my life detiorate until about November 2009, then I really sat down and looked back ( I regret this) and just saw everything I had lost, and I had absolutely gained nothing, I did gain new gaming consoles etc and a decent pc finally but hell I was happier when I did not have anything when I had only my Ps2 in 2004 not even a computer but yet I was happier.

dazzzilla

Ok thanks for the help, I will probably be heading to bed a bit earlier than 3am tonight, I might continue this tomorow to just see if I can get some extra sense out of it.

It's good if you don't care, but I am sure you have some friends to atleast give you a good time. I have absolutely hit rock bottom, I have nothing at all.

dazzzilla

Hey guys, Im wondering if there anyone had any support for me, I am absolutely hating life at the moment, I can't stand working I can't stand doing anything, I hate everything I used to like and nothing seems to be helping me, all I can think about now is of the memories I have of the past and simply cry over them.

I finished high school last October and what I thought would be a dream, no school, university aghhh the releif, turned into a complete misery and still is, I started a new part time job, which I absolutely hated, I then went back to my old work place which I used to love so much before I left the first time, only to not be able to do it anymore, by that I mean I would just get to work and just feel down and I ended up quitting a 2nd time :( even though deep inside I know the people there were great and I might never get a workplace that friendly ever again.

I then started uni and discovered that the info I was given on the course was false and it would not take me through to becoming a teacher, so I had to resign because there wasn't much point in it, not to mention the few weeks I went I felt like a zombie walking around I made no friends and this sense got even worse.

I then discovered I had to sit a test in late May, to determine if I can get into the course I really need to get into. In the mean time I had applied for youth allowance (Government payments, not much at all 85 au a week....) because I really needed money to insure my car etc. Now I am being forced to go into their office every fortnight for a 2 hour interview, like some dole bludger trying to find work, most of the work is severly underpaid factory work, not underpaid in terms of minmum wages, but as Iam only 17 I only get 70% of full wages and in some cases working in a boiling hot brick factory I would be making 11au an hour breaking my own back.

My social life has completely gone, I look back on the days I had 7,8,9 years ago and I just cant beleive how downhill I have gone, even my high school friends from last year I have not kept in contact with lately because of all this trouble, and having no money at all means that I can't even go to the cinemas with them. Looking back just 5 years ago I was much more active socially, cousins who I never even see anymore, I used to have the best times with them, yet when they were asking me to go out with them 3 years back I never wanted to, and the relationship just went from some joy filled experiences with so much fun, and they were my entire childhood to just the occasional hello when I walk by them in the shops every few months :(.

I honestly don't know what to do , I don't find any thrill in anything I did only 2,3 years ago I play videogames thinking about bad stuff, I dont play soccer anymore everything has caved in on me, and every time I try to fix something it just doesn't and I just want to die now, were I not Catholic I would go and jump of a bridge that is how much Ive had it with this. I have been to counsellors, talked to my family, doctors and nothing is helping its just getting worse and worse and I just want to leave this earth as soon as possible.

Any advice would be appreciated please help.

dazzzilla

I'm going to say this because I'm a psychology major, so bear with me. You are describing depression. Lack of interest in things you used to love, nostalgia, crying spells, general sadness, hopeless about life and the future.

It's up to you what to do about it. There are some people who can "pick themselves up" and accept that life can be hard sometimes, and go on. If you can't, that does not mean you are worthless or weak, just that you need an extra boost. Depression does have chemical origins in the brain, and antidepressants (even a very low dose) work immensly. I went through something similar when I graduated as well, although, I had been battling depression since I was 14. I went on some medication that helped a lot, and I feel wonderful now.

I would suggest at least getting a therapist. Someone professional to talk to. It may be that all you need is someone to encourage you, and guide you to healthy thinking. But you should take an action, and not like this get worse, otherwise it could develop into a serious major depression disorder.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, and even if you don't, we here at GS have hope for your future. :) Hang in there.

my life has sucked for past 3 years and i still enjoy life,as arnie would say "STOP WHINING!!!!!"

I don't feel like I have a life anymore though, actually having a bad time and not feeling it is completely different to not being able to pinpoint what is making you feel bad. I personally feel like I have pin pointed it, I just wish I could be close to the people I was close only a few years ago, that is just a dream and pretty much impossible now.

Refering to the thing about not worrying about work till after uni. I personally would love to just finish uni without a single bit of work I hate until I finish it. But the issue is my family isn't rich, the only time I tend to get something is my birthday and christmas and that used to be more than enough. Looking at my Birthday in 2005, all I got was a copy of Gran turismo 4, but I was so happy that day I don't think I will ever be that happy best birthday present ever to me personally. Now its different I am not sure why, I put myself up against other people who my family knows (Ill try to explain the best I can), those people are in most cases older than me, and I see them with a nice house, nice car, nice job and a family, I then feel like some type of urge to go and work in jobs I absolutely hate so I can buy something that I can be more like them. Yet over the past 3 years of work, I have about 30+ PS3 games and in total with all my other console probably close to 70 games. Yet none of those combined feel as good as getting Gran turismo 4. I don't know how to stop doing this though, where ever I go, to the persons house, to church and I see the people I just feel like I am a failure and need to be more like them even though Im not even 18 yet.

[QUOTE="dazzzilla"]Any advice would be appreciated please help.BiancaDK

@ TC, I would start by contacting and getting back in touch with friends. Even if just over the phone and you can't go out with them etc, at least you can talk. Life sucks the most when you have to go through it by yourself.

[QUOTE="dazzzilla"]Any advice would be appreciated please help.BiancaDK

The doctor was pretty much useless because he did not give any advice, it was more or less change jobs, because at the time I thought it was work causing it, the counsellor I just dont want to say a word about them, they could not help with anything even they ended up being confused and recomended me change my course. I just feel like I am going in circles and the more it happends the more I think about what I had that is gone.

I have had all sorts of things happend to me over the past 3 years, and I kept it in but I think its taking its toll now. Like I said I worked jobs I hated, I was bullied in high school until the end of Year 10, Year 11 and 12 were perfect for me, I have had 3 deaths in my family, one of them a close cousin who I still miss, I still remember playing MM and OOT with him back in 2000 and get tears in my eyes everytime I think of it just wishing I could have the moment back, or the times we spent full days playing Mario Party, Goldeneye or perfect dark in 4 Player mode. These people are the reason I was happy when I got to Australia not knowing a single word of English I still felt great and I truly truly miss those people, even though they live just 5km away, I think most of you know what happends in 3 or 4 years without being together, we all change always and it would never ever work out the same way in comparison to had I actually kept talking to them and being close.

Lots of badstuff have been going through my life lately. Such as my mom dieing from cancer. I too wish I could have some of the stuff from the past back. But after feeling sorry for myself and all of the complaining, I learned there is no use of moping about it. It does nothing for you. And the more you think about it, the worse you feel. Your the one who has to fix your problems (family and others can help though). You can't hang out with your friends? Arrange a time with them. You don't like your job? Get a new job, etc.

Wow, I never thought this deeply about this until I read the topic. I just kinda taught myself how to fix my problems, thanks lol.

try some herb :) lol jk

butteman12

that's exactly what i fear my life becoming.

Lots of badstuff have been going through my life lately. Such as my mom dieing from cancer. I too wish I could have some of the stuff from the past back. But after feeling sorry for myself and all of the complaining, I learned there is no use of moping about it. It does nothing for you. And the more you think about it, the worse you feel. Your the one who has to fix your problems (family and others can help though). You can't hang out with your friends? Arrange a time with them. You don't like your job? Get a new job, etc.

Wow, I never thought this deeply about this until I read the topic. I just kinda taught myself how to fix my problems, thanks lol.

Jelley0

go get a girl,
or take a walk through a park, and actually stop and look at nature

Lots of badstuff have been going through my life lately. Such as my mom dieing from cancer. I too wish I could have some of the stuff from the past back. But after feeling sorry for myself and all of the complaining, I learned there is no use of moping about it. It does nothing for you. And the more you think about it, the worse you feel. Your the one who has to fix your problems (family and others can help though). You can't hang out with your friends? Arrange a time with them. You don't like your job? Get a new job, etc.

Wow, I never thought this deeply about this until I read the topic. I just kinda taught myself how to fix my problems, thanks lol.

Jelley0

That is the great thing about some people, they can cope well, I would commit suicide if one of my parents died and I would not think about the consequences, you deserve a trophy for being so strong.

The people that I most miss aren't friends they are just relatives, I can't get along with them I guess, because change hits everyone, if I was with them however I would have changed for the better too I guess, but I wasnt so now we are completely different people.

Get in the right university maybe.

Man,you're seventeen years old. You're legally still a child and your life is just starting. I don't mean to give offense, but if this is making you consider ending it all, there's much out there that will rock your world, and not in a good way. I can't give any advice that others who know you best can't, but one thing has kept me alive through life's most difficult moments is this: take life one day at a time, one hour at a time, one second at a time if necessary. There's amazing power to be found in the now. Set goals, look ahead, but do what you can do about it NOW and let the rest lay until the proper time.

Have an intelligent outlook of your own life, be objective and try to understand the system so you can manipulate it at your own will.

Narrow down your problems and take one step solution at a time. You are letting yourself warp around into one big problem who will lead you into several others.

I'm just getting out of 1 really bad year where I was paralyzied in life and depressed, I was simply in a stale moment, my depression over losing the love of my life, and 2 semesters at university pushed me into many others smaller problems. One day I stopped feeling it, and started acting on it. First a job, then my social life and now I will be back at Uni for my last semester in June. Still many things to do, but having goals to achieve is what motivates me

Adrianstalker

I really think this is great advice here, along with your other posts adrianstalker. As someone who has managed to work through a few very hard times, I can honestly say that having a positive outlook, and focus on mending things 1 at a time can make all the difference in the world. You will begin to regain control of your problems and emotions, and feel much better overall. You just can't let your problems eat you alive, kick them all in the ass one by one.

Ten years ago, I was in a vehicle accident that broke my neck (4 out of 7 vertebrae). I was paralyzed from the neck down for 5 months.

I didn't mope around feeling sorry for myself: I saw others that were worse off than me, so I helped them.

I raised the spirits of a young girl whose pelvis was crushed in a motorcycle accident: she thought she was so ugly because of the steel bars coming out of her pelvic area.

I maintained eye contact with a 21-year-old husband and father, who had come into contact with a high-voltage power line while on the job, and the result was most of his face was burnt. People wouldn't look at him while talking, but I gave him respect and didn't flinch.

There was also a person your age who had broken his back from reckless driving and high-speed driving on a motorcycle. He refused to take physical therapy and was treating his parents and the hospital staff like crap. I told him off, made him feel ashamed of himself, then he saw the light.

Good thing too, as the hospital was about to kick him out for not wanting to do anything to get well.

A counsellor is sort of one I guess, its utter rubbish that they help, just a waste of money.

Ask yourself "What have i done to make my life better?" .

Make whatever change necessary.

Im saying take up soccer again, not at any high level or anything. Just for fun and you can usually find some great people to spend time with in any sports, I've made great friends from my soccer days and now the people I meet playing rugby or always very kind and social.

Otherwise try to your hardest when you have some free time to catch up with old friends etc.

Hope it gets better mate

Just wondering, one of my main issues is comparing my self to older people, like I said this earlier but some people who my family knows, even my relatives that I dont talk to anymore :( same age as me, and they have everything, all the games that I really wanted to begin with, and the older ones just seem to have a happy life. I then get the urge to try and match this by doing jobs I hate, is there any view I can take on this, I know that they also finished Uni and what not to get to that point (Not speaking of my spoilt relatives) but when I look at it its 4 long years and in this current mood it would be like hell.

Dont compare yourself to others man, you are not.

Follow what suits you.

Do you still hate your life? If so, get some professional help.

It's good if you don't care, but I am sure you have some friends to atleast give you a good time. I have absolutely hit rock bottom, I have nothing at all.

dazzzilla

Im in the same boat, just cant get round to enjoying anything anymore.. waste my days staring at nothing. It sucks.. everytime i try to fix it it all falls apart because of the additude it's given me.

Seems like you definitely hit rock bottom. All I can say is find nice spot, preferably by a lake or pond, bring you some head phones to listen to music if you don't like to listen to nature (Though I prefer if you don't bring any music), sit back and relax on a bench. Look at the sky and think of a few things that can make your life easier and how fortunate you are compared to others. You can sit there all day if need be to arrange your thoughts. Just relax and I'm sure something will come to mind on what you can do to make your life easier....tocool340

Seems like great advice to me.:)

I was just as stressed as you back in HS (hated it)...but you just have to bear the pain and keep going regardless. I know how painful it feels, so don't worry. Hopefully, things will get better for ya.

Congrats, you are growing up.

Double congrats, you are learning early that most people experience drudgery at work for most of their lives.

Triple congrats, you are learning that being comfortable with oneself is one of the keys to happiness.

Quadruple congrats, you are learning that different phases of life are often accompanied by significant changes in social circles and relationships in general.

Consider yourself very lucky because you are a thinking human being that is displaying symptoms of self awareness compared to the denial and false bliss that many go through life with.

The only thing you need to do now is realize that you have been gifted, not punished by these realizations. You are now free to do anything.

Here is an idea. You say you are Catholic??? and that you have helped lots of people. Go help some more. Take 6 months of your life and volunteer to work with an aid agency in Africa or something like that. You will learn more about yourself than you could possibly learn any other way. And you will have an experience that you will look back on forever as life defining. You may wish to aid people. You may say screw that, gimme the capitalist money cause I dont wanna be poor. Or anything in between. But it will tell you something about who you really are, as long as you are open and honest about the experience. In any case, it is better than wasting 6 more months at some menial job you hate, no?

I'm sorry, man. I know what you're going through, hey you wouldn't happen to have AS would you?

You seemed to mention Catholicism. Ask God for help.

No, sorry...life sucks unless you hav that type of personality that just takes things in stride and remains unfazed..

i love life to the fullest.