I hate life :( Please anyone with any tips

Listen, the only way to eliminate the depression is by getting out and doing stuff. The more you stop everything (work, friends etc) the more you will feel down. DO NOT dwell on the past because you can NEVER go back to the past no matter how much you want to. I used to wish I could go back in time too but I can't so I started looking to the future. Do whatever you can to get a job your comfortable with and stick at it for a while, then start making arrangements to go out and do things, that way you will be looking forward to the future. You like Soccer? Look forward to the World Cup in June, that helps me lol.

Don't think I have no idea what its like because I do. I lost a close friend to cancer last year, I broke up with my Long time Girlfriend this year and its hard forreal but you just need to concentrate on what you can do to make it better.

EDIT - Yo, seen as this is sort of relevant today...Listen to Gangstarr - Moment of Truth!!! Not only is that track up lifting if your feeling down but you also get to hear the words of the late great GURU!!

What is this Dr. Philspot? This is like third thread in a row about someone hating their life.

Life will always.. at some point.. no matter how great things are going.. bring you down

Sad but true :(

Join the military and pick the hardest combat training school available. Your life will become far worse during the training and you will realize that your life wasn't so bad after all.

[QUOTE="tocool340"]Seems like you definitely hit rock bottom. All I can say is find nice spot, preferably by a lake or pond, bring you some head phones to listen to music if you don't like to listen to nature (Though I prefer if you don't bring any music), sit back and relax on a bench. Look at the sky and think of a few things that can make your life easier and how fortunate you are compared to others. You can sit there all day if need be to arrange your thoughts. Just relax and I'm sure something will come to mind on what you can do to make your life easier....Lethargika

Seems like great advice to me.:)

I wish I had that kitten "Hang in there!" pic, but I don't. :(

Let me first say this, you might not want to hear anything that I am about to say, or it might be exactly what you want to hear.

1. Don't ever start to believe that anyway you mess up is irreversible. Anything that you do, no matter how bad it gets, it can always always be fixed. There is no possible way that you can screw up so badly that it is not possible to fix. If you drop out of college, lose your job, lose your house, lose your car, lose your friends, even lose your family, you can always go back to school, get a new job, make new friends, you can't really make a new family but you can start a new family( I know it would never be the same, but the only way you can ever really lose a family is if they die, in which case they would want you to start a new family). The point is, do not ever think that things are so bad that you can not handle them anymore. Just be strong and make it through the storm.

2. Depression is an evil disease, it is self multiplying. When you are sad you don't want to do anything or meet new people or hang out with friends, but those are the things you have to do to get out of depression. Start off making small steps, maybe instead of just sitting in bed all day, take a short fifteen minute walk, then turn it into a twenty five minute walk, and keep building yourself further and further until you are able to spend a night out with some friends. Don't ever just give up and let the depression take a stronger grip on you, you have to consciously fight it. It's hard I know.

3. Do not resort to drugs or alcohol, while they may seem like they let you escape temporarily, when you come down off of these things you are in an even worse spot than you were before. Even if you are drinking with friends, when your friends go home, and you are hungover, the depression sits in worse than ever before. I know this from experience, I know it must sound like the depression seminars you hear in high school, but these things are all things that I know from personal experience.

4. This last one is possibly the hardest one of all, you must rely on friends, but you can not become totally reliant on any one person, for example a significant other, do not go down that path, because if things do not work out then you become depressed on a whole new level. Plus the depression will only drive them away and end up breaking your heart in several other ways. It is good to rely on friends, but make sure that you can also rely on yourself, and that you can build yourself back up to your best potential before you attempt to gain the benefits of a significant relationship with another person.

List the things you can change and the things you can't.

Try to forget about the things you can't change, and focus on what you can in order to improve your life. Doing nothing will just make everything worse. The key is to be able to look at things in an objective manner.

Sorry to bother everyone more, and I haven't posted anything else here.

But since I last posted this, I have really started thinking about what is causing this depression, and I really think that I am suffering from social anxiety and the lack of socialising is destroying my life.

Now before anyone says oh just hang out with your friends, its difficult for a depressed person to do it, especially one suffering this type of anxiety.

Sorry for the life story now but it won't make sense without it.

Anyways during primary school in Australia 1999-2003 I was a completely different person, I would speak to pretty much anyone always spoke to new people, even had a primary school girl friend which I admitted to to many people without any embarasment. High school came along in 2004 and I remained my self but I was just insulted to hell with everything, everything about me seemed wrong to a group of people wheter it would be something about my body or whenever I said something I would just be insulted and I never ever told anyone I kept it in, during year 8 in 2005 this continued but I became a much more quiet person. The insults stopped in by the start of year 9 (2006) when the people matured a little, but I was left scarred and I didnt realise this until the last few weeks. From that teasing and bullying I have gone from an outgoing person, to like some type of self confined personallity, from that point onwards I never really talked to any new people, I kept the friends I had met in year 7 and year 8, with one or two who talked to me before I talked to them. I never had a girlfriend in high school or now because of this, I am always worried that someone is judging me and about to insult me, I just keep quiet even now because I am scared of being told of by everyone. Its really bad but I didnt realise it, even while I was in uni for a month in the lecture theatres I was always worried about someone behind me thinking that something about me is wierd and id just become anxious. It is the reason why I quit Uni, It is the reason why I quit my job, and it is the reason why I am depressed and I hate it. I dont know how to go against it, I dont know how to approach people anymore and I dont know how to fulfil my dream of having a girl friend and a wife later in life I simply cant approach people because of this.

Just wondering if someone has anything with my previous post the social anxiety issue, please read my life story to understand what I mean better :P

Thanks everyone with good tips though, really thanks.

You do realize that when you identify with ideas, you reinforce their

validity? The first step to letting the past go is not giving these thoughts

priority. When they arise, you acknowledge them but thats it. You should

also tackle irrational patterns with questions like "what do you want me to do about it?"

"can anything be done?', "is this really true or a bunch of nonsense?".

Also consider that the only reason you are not talking to these people is simply

because they do not appeal to you. The tendency that is present when a person

allows depressive thoughts to dominate his attention is the labeling of everything that

is encountered as 'my fault/because of me' when in reality its an obvious truth that you

will never feel interested in socializing with everybody without exception, unless you are

lying to yourself or its your line of duty. Look for people with your interests, or expand

your own scope of activities. Last but not least, you may be like me. I love spending time

with some friends, but i need even more of the day to myself. If i am around people who

talk and jump around a lot, but are very shallow intellectually, its very boring. I have more fun

staring at a white wall, no kidding.

Hey guys, Im wondering if there anyone had any support for me, I am absolutely hating life at the moment, I can't stand working I can't stand doing anything, I hate everything I used to like and nothing seems to be helping me, all I can think about now is of the memories I have of the past and simply cry over them.

I finished high school last October and what I thought would be a dream, no school, university aghhh the releif, turned into a complete misery and still is, I started a new part time job, which I absolutely hated, I then went back to my old work place which I used to love so much before I left the first time, only to not be able to do it anymore, by that I mean I would just get to work and just feel down and I ended up quitting a 2nd time :( even though deep inside I know the people there were great and I might never get a workplace that friendly ever again.

I then started uni and discovered that the info I was given on the course was false and it would not take me through to becoming a teacher, so I had to resign because there wasn't much point in it, not to mention the few weeks I went I felt like a zombie walking around I made no friends and this sense got even worse.

I then discovered I had to sit a test in late May, to determine if I can get into the course I really need to get into. In the mean time I had applied for youth allowance (Government payments, not much at all 85 au a week....) because I really needed money to insure my car etc. Now I am being forced to go into their office every fortnight for a 2 hour interview, like some dole bludger trying to find work, most of the work is severly underpaid factory work, not underpaid in terms of minmum wages, but as Iam only 17 I only get 70% of full wages and in some cases working in a boiling hot brick factory I would be making 11au an hour breaking my own back.

My social life has completely gone, I look back on the days I had 7,8,9 years ago and I just cant beleive how downhill I have gone, even my high school friends from last year I have not kept in contact with lately because of all this trouble, and having no money at all means that I can't even go to the cinemas with them. Looking back just 5 years ago I was much more active socially, cousins who I never even see anymore, I used to have the best times with them, yet when they were asking me to go out with them 3 years back I never wanted to, and the relationship just went from some joy filled experiences with so much fun, and they were my entire childhood to just the occasional hello when I walk by them in the shops every few months :(.

I honestly don't know what to do , I don't find any thrill in anything I did only 2,3 years ago I play videogames thinking about bad stuff, I dont play soccer anymore everything has caved in on me, and every time I try to fix something it just doesn't and I just want to die now, were I not Catholic I would go and jump of a bridge that is how much Ive had it with this. I have been to counsellors, talked to my family, doctors and nothing is helping its just getting worse and worse and I just want to leave this earth as soon as possible.

Any advice would be appreciated please help.

dazzzilla