I need some advice for talking to girls!!! Pronto!

GS, we are the girl expertsWhicker89

Quick someone post that GS girl advice picture

"Nice shoes, wanna ****?"Berzz

Hey, that just might work :P

[QUOTE="Whicker89"]GS, we are the girl expertsLed_poison

Quick someone post that GS girl advice picture

I would love to. But I don't have it!

GS, we are the girl expertsWhicker89

Indeed. Off topic has answers for all things in life.

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[QUOTE="Whicker89"]GS, we are the girl expertsNapster06

Quick someone post that GS girl advice picture

I would love to. But I don't have it!

I don't talk to girls, they talk to me.cool_baller

Yes, but then YOU have to talk to them, genius :P

Just walk up, tell her what you gamespot level is and then cop a feel.

She'll be all over you.

[QUOTE="cool_baller"]I don't talk to girls, they talk to me.amirbrandon

Yes, but then YOU have to talk to them, genius :P

Unless he just sits there and absorbs words... like a monk.

[QUOTE="Napster06"][QUOTE="Led_poison"]

[QUOTE="Whicker89"]GS, we are the girl expertsWhicker89

Quick someone post that GS girl advice picture

I would love to. But I don't have it!

I regret making this thread!:shock: hahah

Approach girl > Open mouth > Speak > Listen for reply > Speak again based on reply. Repeat the last two steps. Win.

A conversation shouldn't be forced upon...it's much more natural when something has sparked one, it'll be easier to think of a reply, thus [probably] making it less likely to "sound like a dork".ff7fan2

Okay, but how about when a girl says "What's up?" or "How are you?" or something like that, all I can say is "Nothing much," or "I'm good." I need to know what to say here especially, becuase it declares wether or not this conversation is going to survive. :P

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

we all face this problem at some point so don't worry. I'm no expert either, just the other day I found myself saying something silly to a girl i'm particularly fond of. Whatever though, you have gotta smile and laugh if you say something silly.

Truthfully, if you want practise, talk to a lot of people over msn messenger or facebook or whatever it is you use. It helps becauseyou're not face to face and you have more time to think about what to say without looking like a dork. It is a good starting point but don't get used to it. It will just help to boost your confidence talking to girls you like, and will work towards giving you a better understanding or rapport with the girl. This will help because you will learn her likes, dislikes, etc. Other than that, just try talking to as many people as you can. Keep it short and sweet if you aren't very confident.

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

curono

great idea!! thanks!

A good advice would be to believe in yourself and stop thinking that you will get nervous or say dumb things when talking to that girl.Berzz

Even though more often than not you will often say dumb things in front of them (or at least say something that will make chances of dating them much less probable).

Okay, but how about when a girl says "What's up?" or "How are you?" or something like that, all I can say is "Nothing much," or "I'm good." I need to know what to say here especially, becuase it declares wether or not this conversation is going to survive. :P

amirbrandon

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

curono

What if you're not clever/original? What if you think you are, but people think you're an idiot or corny?

we all face this problem at some point so don't worry. I'm no expert either, just the other day I found myself saying something silly to a girl i'm particularly fond of. Whatever though, you have gotta smile and laugh if you say something silly.

Truthfully, if you want practise, talk to a lot of people over msn messenger or facebook or whatever it is you use. It helps becauseyou're not face to face and you have more time to think about what to say without looking like a dork. It is a good starting point but don't get used to it. It will just help to boost your confidence talking to girls you like, and will work towards giving you a better understanding or rapport with the girl. This will help because you will learn her likes, dislikes, etc. Other than that, just try talking to as many people as you can. Keep it short and sweet if you aren't very confident.

cheeselover

ya actually I'm awesome at talking on msn, I talk to like 5 girls at once on msn and they really like me if u know what i mean :D but i just cant do it face to face, because like you said, i don't have time to talk.

we all face this problem at some point so don't worry. I'm no expert either, just the other day I found myself saying something silly to a girl i'm particularly fond of. Whatever though, you have gotta smile and laugh if you say something silly.

Truthfully, if you want practise, talk to a lot of people over msn messenger or facebook or whatever it is you use. It helps becauseyou're not face to face and you have more time to think about what to say without looking like a dork. It is a good starting point but don't get used to it. It will just help to boost your confidence talking to girls you like, and will work towards giving you a better understanding or rapport with the girl. This will help because you will learn her likes, dislikes, etc. Other than that, just try talking to as many people as you can. Keep it short and sweet if you aren't very confident.

cheeselover

Whenever I did that, I talked to them to much and knew like everything about them, and then in person it seemed like there was nothing to talk about. Since my life is pretty boring so its not like , " Hey *insert girl name*! My weekend was sweet! I commited murder! Oh man..I mean, it was freaky trying to figure out where to hide the body, but after that I felt pretty B.A!"

Doesnt work that way.

[QUOTE="cheeselover"]

we all face this problem at some point so don't worry. I'm no expert either, just the other day I found myself saying something silly to a girl i'm particularly fond of. Whatever though, you have gotta smile and laugh if you say something silly.

Truthfully, if you want practise, talk to a lot of people over msn messenger or facebook or whatever it is you use. It helps becauseyou're not face to face and you have more time to think about what to say without looking like a dork. It is a good starting point but don't get used to it. It will just help to boost your confidence talking to girls you like, and will work towards giving you a better understanding or rapport with the girl. This will help because you will learn her likes, dislikes, etc. Other than that, just try talking to as many people as you can. Keep it short and sweet if you aren't very confident.

amirbrandon

ya actually I'm awesome at talking on msn, I talk to like 5 girls at once on msn and they really like me if u know what i mean :D but i just cant do it face to face, because like you said, i don't have time to talk.

Well then obviously you have some creativity when it comes to conversation buried in your brain then. Try to act natural. When she says "Hi how are you doing" you don't just say "Good..." say something funny or at least something descriptive. That'll let them know a bit more about you. Just be careful not to say anything gross or negative like "I have hemeroids, just so you know" that might be hilarious but at the same time a real turn-off :P

[QUOTE="curono"]

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

amirbrandon

great idea!! thanks!

If you want to start a conversation make her an open question: BUT ALWAYS START WITH "May I ask you something?". If she says yes, ask something that DOESNT lead to a yes/no answer (something like how do you manage so much sexayyyy-ness? ). If she says no answer right away:

"Thanks for answering" and wink her. Maybe she will smile and talk to you for being witty, maybe not.
But at least, you will have her respect for having the guts to say something like that

GUARANTEED!

[QUOTE="curono"]

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

Video_Game_King

What if you're not clever/original? What if you think you are, but people think you're an idiot or corny?

If you are not clever/original, be at leasty yourself and be proud of it. That never fails. ANd when I mean proud, I don't mean cocky, over exaggerate your nerdiness. That is always a laugh.

Things like "I'm so nerd that a calculator detest me" make a laugh. Be proud of who you are!

[QUOTE="amirbrandon"][QUOTE="curono"]

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

curono

great idea!! thanks!

If you want to start a conversation make her an open question: BUT ALWAYS START WITH "May I ask you something?". If she says yes, ask something that DOESNT lead to a yes/no answer (something like how do you manage so much sexayyyy-ness? ). If she says no answer right away:

"Thanks for answering" and wink her. Maybe she will smile and talk to you for being witty, maybe not.
But at least, you will have her respect for having the guts to say something like that

GUARANTEED!

Or she may shrug it off as a conversation, not knowing how low the self esteem of your average nerd is and not knowing how that affects communications with girls. And what if she blocks you by saying no to "may I ask you something?" And besides, its easy for a nerd to get nervous and f*ck things up, which could distance her further from you.

[QUOTE="amirbrandon"][QUOTE="curono"]

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

curono

great idea!! thanks!

If you want to start a conversation make her an open question: BUT ALWAYS START WITH "May I ask you something?". If she says yes, ask something that DOESNT lead to a yes/no answer (something like how do you manage so much sexayyyy-ness? ). If she says no answer right away:

"Thanks for answering" and wink her. Maybe she will smile and talk to you for being witty, maybe not.
But at least, you will have her respect for having the guts to say something like that

GUARANTEED!

but what if she thinks i'm a creeper? I've only talked to her like twice already. :P

[QUOTE="Video_Game_King"][QUOTE="curono"]

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

curono

What if you're not clever/original? What if you think you are, but people think you're an idiot or corny?

If you are not clever/original, be at leasty yourself and be proud of it. That never fails. ANd when I mean proud, I don't mean cocky, over exaggerate your nerdiness. That is always a laugh.

Things like "I'm so nerd that a calculator detest me" make a laugh. Be proud of who you are!

I've been myself, and it turns out that has failed. If it did work, I'd already have girls swarming over me! And that joke doesn't even make sense. I've tried good jokes, but people see me as an idiot, a prick or an idiot (but in another way).

[QUOTE="curono"][QUOTE="amirbrandon"][QUOTE="curono"]

If you want my real opinion, talk to them as if they were anything else. The fact that they are pretty and have breasts, doesnt change them that much.

Avoid nerdy comments about Your chemistry class, or about cars (MOST GIRLS HATE CAR CONVERSATIONS!!). If she asks how are you, answer with something original like:

a)I'm standing, with arms crossed, and you?
b) Sexay and proud of it.

She might not take you serious if you answer this, but I almost guarantee she will giggle. That is a good starter. Talk to them, don't be afraid. They are not hard to talk to.

amirbrandon

great idea!! thanks!

If you want to start a conversation make her an open question: BUT ALWAYS START WITH "May I ask you something?". If she says yes, ask something that DOESNT lead to a yes/no answer (something like how do you manage so much sexayyyy-ness? ). If she says no answer right away:

"Thanks for answering" and wink her. Maybe she will smile and talk to you for being witty, maybe not.
But at least, you will have her respect for having the guts to say something like that

GUARANTEED!

but what if she thinks i'm a creeper? I've only talked to her like twice already. :P

If she already thinks you are a creep it doesnt matter if you blow out your conversation. Lighten up!

Ask her about her interests and don't ask yes or no questions.

Her: How are you?

You: Good. How did your volleyball match go?

Her: Great! We won!

You: Congrats! When is your next game? I'd like to see you play.

Or whatever. Just express some interest in what she does, and if you don't know what she likes, just ask her.

I used to be a terrible conversationalist. I decided to change that. How did I go about learning how to become a good conversationalist?

I chatted with strangers in wal-mart, 7-11, everywhere, even if it was just a quick 30 second conversation, I'd try to take something away from it.

At first, I looked like a fool, You should have seen the weird looks I got :lol: but then I learned how to hold a conversation, and I met a lot of cool people (whom I've totally forgotten their names)

The awesome thing about talking to strangers in a mall or some place like that, if you make a fool of yourself, You'll never see them again.

I've tried to stay away from yes/no questions, because those get you absolutely nowhere. You have to learn how to ask questions.

Instead of "do you like granny smith apples" ask "I have a question for you, of all the different varieties of apple... what is your favorite?"

Then instead of saying no, and walking away, they're kinda forced to engage you.

Conversation is a skill, and much like any other skill, it takes practice.

anyone else have a good way to start a conversation or what not?

Blooddemon had the most useful tips :Pcheez-it_kid

One thing I've noticed looking back, before, I was shy and cautious as to what people thought about me; I got validation through other people. I worried what that one girl thought of me, I worried what the random person on the street thought of me as I passed by. I totally tore myself up over what other's thought of me.

That is the absolute worst way to think. Now, I don't really care what other people think of me, I'm my own person, If they don't like me... then they can piss off :lol:

anyone else have a good way to start a conversation or what not?

amirbrandon

If you wanted more info... you could just google "conversation" or "starting conversation"

Go up to her, talk to her.

Girls like confidence.