Does anyone else agree this is one stupid way to think? My friend said this to me yesterday and I laughed in his face and told him that hitting your kids won't make them "respect" you, it'll do the exact opposite. Do you agree?
It's stupid. Hitting kids inspires fear, not respect. The difference between these is something that a lot of people do not understand. Definitions: Fear, noun: a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid. Respect, noun: esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability
I plan on physically disciplining my kids as I believe it is the right thing to do. Don't try to change my mind about this one. Anybody can say it's wrong but if it is, please feel free to offer a LOGICAL alternative to dealing with an undeveloped child mind with no reasoning skills.
[QUOTE="Boba_Fett_3710"]I plan on physically disciplining my kids as I believe it is the right thing to do. Don't try to change my mind about this one. Anybody can say it's wrong but if it is, please feel free to offer a LOGICAL alternative to dealing with an undeveloped child mind with no reasoning skills. It drives me nuts to see parents trying to calmly explain to an out of control tantrum kid how they should be behaving, when obviously the kid could not care less. Kudos to you, sir!
it work, but hitting them shouldnt be the only resolve all the time. hitting your kids puts some fear in their heart and fear gets you respect. it disciplines them.
I think there's nothing wrong with using discipline on kids when necessary. It's just when it's unnecessary that bothers me. Maniacc1
Absolutely. The last thing a parent wants to do is hurt their own kids. That's why they always say "This is going to hurt me more than it is going to hurt you". Obviously it's a last ditch option when keeping your child under control.
Parents should be allowed to smack their children under specific circumstances, and that's when the child is misbehaving, it has been explained why that child is misbehaving (what they're doing wrong/why it is wrong) and they've had at least one warning before hand.
Hitting little Johnny because he's annoying you isn't going to do anyone any good. But telling Johnny that yelling and screaming is wrong because it's rude and explaining that if he does it again he will be hit as punishment, he'll only be bringing it on himself. In the real world that kid would be knocked out by someone twice his size. Luckily it's just a parent trying to teach him a lesson, and some disipline.
[QUOTE="Maniacc1"]I think there's nothing wrong with using discipline on kids when necessary. It's just when it's unnecessary that bothers me. Boba_Fett_3710
Absolutely. The last thing a parent wants to do is hurt their own kids. That's why they always say "This is going to hurt me more than it is going to hurt you". Obviously it's a last ditch option when keeping your child under control. Exactly. I doubt there's one true parent out there who will admit they enjoy hurting their kids. If they do, then they're no longer a parent but an abuser.
There is an excellent video that demonstrates the 1-2-3 method. In a nutshell it involves putting your kid into timeout on a 3rd infraction.
I wish I could remember the exact quote but to paraphrase he said "Don't expect your child to logically see things your way or come away with an epiphany of understanding and enlightment on how they should behave. The most you can do with children's behavior is not try to control it but manage it [need better word here].
 Bill Cosby once said he would his shoe on his kid once, then simply threaten it each time never having to do it again. But then again, he was accused by more than one woman of drugging them to sleep and having his way, so who knows?
Does anyone else agree this is one stupid way to think? My friend said this to me yesterday and I laughed in his face and told him that hitting your kids won't make them "respect" you, it'll do the exact opposite. Do you agree? StaindShadow
Hitting your kids isn't right no matter what the circumstances.
End. Of. Discussion.
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What if a child isn't at the age to acknowledge what is morally, legally, economically right or wrong. You cant have a sophisticated talk with a child who doesn't understand the true meaning of the word "wrong" as opposed to its usage.
Im unsure, my mum told me ( god that sounds awful ) that as a toddler i got into biting people, my dad would just ignore it no matter how painful, never getting angry. My mum bit me back, hard, and i never did it again..... makes sense.
Disciplining your kids when they're extremely young is okay (as long as its accompanied by a VERY detailed and understandable explanation of what they did wrong), but once they get past like 6, they'll be doing what they want reguardless of being spanked or whatever, so past then its best to focus mostly on explaining right and wrong.
Hitting your kids isn't right no matter what the circumstances.
End. Of. Discussion.
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What if a child isn't at the age to acknowledge what is morally, legally, economically right or wrong. You cant have a sophisticated talk with a child who doesn't understand the true meaning of the word "wrong" as opposed to its usage. Yup. Kids are thick, to the extent that sometimes simple brute force becomes necessary.
I think it's okay to physically discipline kids when they are just completely out of control. But using it too much will do nothing but drive them away from you. Â
thats the thing with this day and age of parenting, they have no sense of parenting, rather spoiling their kids and they do wat the kid tells THEM to do.
parents have no spines now, if a kid throws a fit in a mall, the parent goes and buys the kid ice cream WTF???? NO thats NOT supposed to happen. Â because if you dont discipline them they then become whiny emo bast**** and disagree with everything you say!
to hit and discipline your children is to help them respect you in ways they should and respect the world around them the way they should.
 How do you fix a bent pole? you hit it till its straight!Â
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