Is it bad to be asian and be adopted by a white family?

Im vietnamese and i was adopted by a white family the day i was born.  I am 16 and a grew up around all white and black people and my white family.  I live by no asians, i barely have any asians friends, i have always been the only asian at my school, i don't speak my own language, i'm not with the "roots" of my own heritage. I don't live like vietnamese people.  Im vietnamese but im not a grown vietnamese. I know its better that i got adopted by a white family(my family as i should say since they raised me) but i just think it is kind of wrong that i got pulled from my rootes , and grew up as a white person with out my consent. Like atleast when i got put up for adoption make sure i get adopted by another vietnamese family, but Noooo, i had to be pulled from my own people and all.

I should just look forward and become the best i can be and become succesfull but i just hate it that i had to grow up without my own people.  

It's like im part of 2 worlds but not fully part of one. Like i will not be fully white person or be a fully vietnamese person.  I hate it when people tell me to just forget the past and be glad im adopted by a better family, but i didn't choose to start my life like this at all.  im kind of glad im adopted by a better family and all since  i do know my real family and they have A LOT of kids and don't live the lifestyle as good as i do, but at the same time, im basically a white person in a vietnamese body and i mean it when i say im the only asian at my school. And i don't live by any asians either or have asian friends.

I love being asian but it wont stick with me since i also don't have a vietnamese first or last name, don't speak my language, etc...

i know my family loves me and wants the best for me but they just changed the life of a human from the whole different race than them, and i don't think it is there desision to deside to do that and take a vietnamese baby and just raise it like a white child.  Like you can't just take a vietnamese baby and adopt it and basically segragate that baby from all of its people and raise it a they would for a white baby and then expect the child to accept that.  

I just want some advice on how to accept this better and not care about how i was raised...

You know they eat dog meat in Vietnam, right? 

you have the life you have now theres no sense in whining and complaining about it. your family gave you a good life. if you want to learn vietnamese ask your parents to get you a language program or take a college class (theres probably free websites to learn online as well). 

Well you sure sound like a whiny white liberal. If this is the biggest problem in your life at the moment I think you have it good.

you ungrateful little basterd, just go back too vietnamese i'm sure you're better off there.:lol:

Well you sure sound like a whiny white liberal. If this is the biggest problem in your life at the moment I think you have it good.

Strakha

you ungrateful little basterd, just go back too vietnamese i'm sure you're better off there.:lol:

SrgtSaggy101

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you ungrateful little basterd, just go back too vietnamese i'm sure you're better off there.:lol:

megagene

I'm confused. Are you saying you wish the orphanage kept you until a Vietnamese couple tried to adopt you? The odds are likely that wouldn't have happened. You said if yourself you're the only Asian at your school. You would have been waiting a long time. Most couples also have a tendency to choose a baby of their own race when adopting so you're lucky they adopted you at all. It sounds like you have great parents since unlike most they chose you instead of a white kid. You're extremely lucky. It's unfortunate that you lost your heritage. Trust me, I understand that. But you should focus on the positives not the negatives. 

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you ungrateful little basterd, just go back too vietnamese i'm sure you're better off there.:lol:

SrgtSaggy101

[QUOTE="Wolfetan"][QUOTE="SrgtSaggy101"]oh nooos i didnt capilitize you QQ

SrgtSaggy101

spelling isnt grammar, any ways your on the internet quit being such ignorant fvcktards english isnt my first language 

Who cares about race? You' re a human and you were lucky enough to be raised by a good family that loves you.

sounds like most other americans. i have a polish heritage, but nobody in my family speaks polish and we don't eat galumpkis everyday. i'm an american and perfectly fine with that.

if you really want to get connected to your roots, take a trip to vietnam.

So yall mad cuz op wants to be around people that he can relate to,nothin is wrong with thatBucked20

Relating to someone has nothing to do with their race, stupid. >.>

So yall mad cuz op wants to be around people that he can relate to,nothin is wrong with thatBucked20

How the fvck would he relate to a culture that he has never lived in?

I'm Eastern European yet I couldn't give two sh1ts about that sh1t hole. I'm glad I grew up in the US.

Everyone saying just take a trip, its not that easy. Its A LOT of money, from where I am at(SF) to Vietnam is a $1500 plane ticket. That is a lot, and then the ticket to return is another $1500. Then you have to pay for everything else. Some families just won't pay that much for a trip, its not as easy as just saying,"lets go to Vietnam".

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]So yall mad cuz op wants to be around people that he can relate to,nothin is wrong with thatairshocker

Relating to someone has nothing to do with their race, stupid. >.>

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]So yall mad cuz op wants to be around people that he can relate to,nothin is wrong with thatairshocker

Relating to someone has nothing to do with their race, stupid. >.>

That's the ideal. But the reality is that a lot of people have trouble seeing past that. Most people tend to hang out with people who are of the same race as themselves. It happens among children and continues to happen even in adulthood. I imagine it would be difficult growing up when you're the only one. 

Everyone saying just take a trip, its not that easy. Its A LOT of money, from where I am at(SF) to Vietnam is a $1500 plane ticket. That is a lot, and then the ticket to return is another $1500. Then you have to pay for everything else. Some families just won't pay that much for a trip, its not as easy as just saying,"lets go to Vietnam".

Wolfetan

They're in the wrong, much as you are by responding to them.

Culture defines how a person acts. Not race. The TC isn't vietnamese just like how I'm not actually irish, or italian, It's my heritage, sure, but not my culture.

Yes it does,Im sure you relate to whites more than any other race Bucked20

No, I relate to people of my same culture. Race has nothing to do with it.

Lol race, such an irrelevant thing to worry about.

That's the ideal. But the reality is that a lot of people have trouble seeing past that. Most people tend to hang out with people who are of the same race as themselves. It happens among children and continues to happen even in adulthood. I imagine it would be difficult growing up when you're the only one. 

Tropictrain

That's not what we're talking about, though. We're talking about whether or not it's race, or the culture that you were raised in, that defines you. It's quite obviously the culture that you grow up in that defines you.

[QUOTE="Wolfetan"]

Everyone saying just take a trip, its not that easy. Its A LOT of money, from where I am at(SF) to Vietnam is a $1500 plane ticket. That is a lot, and then the ticket to return is another $1500. Then you have to pay for everything else. Some families just won't pay that much for a trip, its not as easy as just saying,"lets go to Vietnam".

airshocker

They're in the wrong, much as you are by responding to them.

Culture defines how a person acts. Not race. The TC isn't vietnamese just like how I'm not actually irish, or italian, It's my heritage, sure, but not my culture.

I'm aware, I was just responding to the fact that people were saying just take a trip. I was stating its not that easy to just take a trip. Theres a lot of factors. You seem to have read into post, which there was nothing to read into.Wolfetan

Then why respond at all? It was rather pointless.

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]Yes it does,Im sure you relate to whites more than any other race airshocker

No, I relate to people of my same culture. Race has nothing to do with it.

[QUOTE="Wolfetan"]I'm aware, I was just responding to the fact that people were saying just take a trip. I was stating its not that easy to just take a trip. Theres a lot of factors. You seem to have read into post, which there was nothing to read into.airshocker

Then why respond at all? It was rather pointless.

Are the majority of your friends white ?Bucked20

Yes. That isn't the point, however. If you grew up in my neighborhood, attended the same high school as me, you would grow up to be a very different person and I would probably relate to you much more than I can right now.

The fact that I don't relate to you right now isn't because you're black, it's because you have a horrible education, terrible beliefs, and you're all around a rotten individual.

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]Yes it does,Im sure you relate to whites more than any other race airshocker

No, I relate to people of my same culture. Race has nothing to do with it.

[QUOTE="Tropictrain"]

That's the ideal. But the reality is that a lot of people have trouble seeing past that. Most people tend to hang out with people who are of the same race as themselves. It happens among children and continues to happen even in adulthood. I imagine it would be difficult growing up when you're the only one. 

airshocker

That's not what we're talking about, though. We're talking about whether or not it's race, or the culture that you were raised in, that defines you. It's quite obviously the culture that you grow up in that defines you.

Research says otherwise. Even those raised in the same city still prefer to hang out with those of the same race. Blacks with blacks and whites with whites. 

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]So yall mad cuz op wants to be around people that he can relate to,nothin is wrong with thatSpartanMSU

How the fvck would he relate to a culture that he has never lived in?

I'm Eastern European yet I could give two sh1ts about that sh1t hole. I'm glad I grew up in the US.

because race and culture don't overlap.....? anyways, op, be happy, you're lucky. Perhaps you should visit Vietnam if you want to get a sense of your birth home BossPerson

Not always. Not sure why you're talking to me, though. I haven't said anything incorrect, or controversial. You still got that hard on for me?

[QUOTE="Bucked20"]Are the majority of your friends white ?airshocker

Yes. That isn't the point, however. If you grew up in my neighborhood, attended the same high school as me, you would grow up to be a very different person and I would probably relate to you much more than I can right now.

The fact that I don't relate to you right now isn't because you're black, it's because you have a horrible education, terrible beliefs, and you're all around a rotten individual.

[QUOTE="BossPerson"]because race and culture don't overlap.....? anyways, op, be happy, you're lucky. Perhaps you should visit Vietnam if you want to get a sense of your birth home airshocker

Not always. Not sure why you're talking to me, though. I haven't said anything incorrect, or controversial. You still got that hard on for me?

Research says otherwise. Even those raised in the same city still prefer to hang out with those of the same race. Blacks with blacks and whites with whites. 

Tropictrain

Doesn't prove a thing with regards to what I've been saying since my experiences are all suburban related.

no its because i think you said something incorrect BossPerson

Then you should learn to read.

Airshocker, are you trying to take out some rage that you have? Why are you inclined to be so mean to everybody on this board?Wolfetan

No rage required to prove someone wrong.

[QUOTE="Wolfetan"]Airshocker, are you trying to take out some rage that you have? Why are you inclined to be so mean to everybody on this board?airshocker

No rage required to prove someone wrong.

[QUOTE="BossPerson"]no its because i think you said something incorrect airshocker

Then you should learn to read.

Case closed shutup fakket 

Bucked20

You haven't proven anything, moron. :lol:

learn to read what? You posted as if culture and race are totally separate when the reality is that races develop their own cultures for the most part. BossPerson

Your hard on for me seemingly prevents you from understanding the context of what I say.

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Case closed shutup fakket 

airshocker

You haven't proven anything, moron. :lol:

You seem to always be mad though:(Wolfetan

You're a poor judge of human emotion, then. :lol:

[QUOTE="BossPerson"]learn to read what? You posted as if culture and race are totally separate when the reality is that races develop their own cultures for the most part. airshocker

Your hard on for me seemingly prevents you from understanding the context of what I say.