I've lost my best friend

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

Your Blog is a callin'...RushMetallica

Eh, I dont have any friends that care.

Sea is full of fish my friend.Legendaryscmt

Well I know that and I've been meeting new people lately and am interested in others. But nothing can really make me forget what I use to have, ya'know?

Your Blog is a callin'...RushMetallica

Plenty more fish in the sea. Nothing more I can say. Life is a piece of crap sometimes. fmacraze

Ya, well it's always crap for me. I appreciate what I have, but I really have nothing going for me. I try my hardest and never good enough. I fail. I been thinking that since I'll be alone the rest of my life, that I'll adopt a child and raise him or her to have a good, better life than me.

Yeah, it's weird how some people change when they shack up with someone. It's like...they don't just stay friends...but want to have nothing to do with you.luke1889

Yah, I should be real bitter about it but for some reason I just feel sorry for myself.

i feel your pain brother...except there isnt a another guy. At least I hope not...Idk what to say...I say give it some time, there isnt much one can do. Trust me i know...begging her isnt going to make things change. Only time will tell how things will work out between the both of you.

Its hurts beyond anything I know. It wont be easy, im still struggling as it is. Except with my situation she says that she will eventually want to be with me again but that she just wants to be single now. Yeah what a load of crap...4 years down the drain.

Be strong, and ease up a little from her. Try not talking to her, if she tries to text you, call you, ask to hang out try and brush her off or ignore and see how she reacts. If she really has any real feelings for you she will start to stress/sweat you and try to get you to pay attention to her. Girls go nutts when you ignore them...it works for me... Either that or try and talk things out with her calmly!

[QUOTE="RushMetallica"]Your Blog is a callin'...-KinGz-

i feel your pain brother...except there isnt a another guy. At least I hope not...Idk what to say...I say give it some time, there isnt much one can do. Trust me i know...begging her isnt going to make things change. Only time will tell how things will work out between the both of you.

Its hurts beyond anything I know. It wont be easy, im still struggling as it is. Except with my situation she says that she will eventually want to be with me again but that she just wants to be single now. Yeah what a load of crap...4 years down the drain.

Be strong, and ease up a little from her. Try not talking to her, if she tries to text you, call you, ask to hang out try and brush her off or ignore and see how she reacts. If she really has any real feelings for you she will start to stress/sweat you and try to get you to pay attention to her. Girls go nutts when you ignore them...it works for me... Either that or try and talk things out with her calmly!

blazinpuertoroc

ive tried to talk to her and she doesn't want to hear it. I think if I just ignore her for a while, she won't care to text me or try to talk to me. She'll probably just forget about me or not care. She told me that anything can happen and she hates having her life laid out to her. She just wants me to be her friend and be who I use to be. if that's what it will take to have her love me again and maybe end up taking me back, then ill do it. But I guess not talking to her at all is the right way to start right?

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

MaddenBowler10

Times like this, I wish you can just delete that part of your memory.

I shed a tear.omfg_its_dally

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btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

Sometimes you've just got to take what you can get, guy. And think about it, would you really want the relationship with her, knowing that you had to beg her to make it happen? 

[QUOTE="blazinpuertoroc"]

i feel your pain brother...except there isnt a another guy. At least I hope not...Idk what to say...I say give it some time, there isnt much one can do. Trust me i know...begging her isnt going to make things change. Only time will tell how things will work out between the both of you.

Its hurts beyond anything I know. It wont be easy, im still struggling as it is. Except with my situation she says that she will eventually want to be with me again but that she just wants to be single now. Yeah what a load of crap...4 years down the drain.

Be strong, and ease up a little from her. Try not talking to her, if she tries to text you, call you, ask to hang out try and brush her off or ignore and see how she reacts. If she really has any real feelings for you she will start to stress/sweat you and try to get you to pay attention to her. Girls go nutts when you ignore them...it works for me... Either that or try and talk things out with her calmly!

MaddenBowler10

ive tried to talk to her and she doesn't want to hear it. I think if I just ignore her for a while, she won't care to text me or try to talk to me. She'll probably just forget about me or not care. She told me that anything can happen and she hates having her life laid out to her. She just wants me to be her friend and be who I use to be. if that's what it will take to have her love me again and maybe end up taking me back, then ill do it. But I guess not talking to her at all is the right way to start right?

Sometimes you've just got to take what you can get, guy. And think about it, would you really want the relationship with her, knowing that you had to beg her to make it happen?

UnrighteousFury

I just would do whatever it would take. But I understand, if I have to get on my knees and kiss her feet to do it, then she really doesn't ever want to be with me. I never saw my life any other way. I'm 18, and I'm right in the middle of the stage of having someone close and intimate. But I lost that.

also- ur sig is cool.

i feel your pain brother...except there isnt a another guy. At least I hope not...Idk what to say...I say give it some time, there isnt much one can do. Trust me i know...begging her isnt going to make things change. Only time will tell how things will work out between the both of you.

Its hurts beyond anything I know. It wont be easy, im still struggling as it is. Except with my situation she says that she will eventually want to be with me again but that she just wants to be single now. Yeah what a load of crap...4 years down the drain.

Be strong, and ease up a little from her. Try not talking to her, if she tries to text you, call you, ask to hang out try and brush her off or ignore and see how she reacts. If she really has any real feelings for you she will start to stress/sweat you and try to get you to pay attention to her. Girls go nutts when you ignore them...it works for me... Either that or try and talk things out with her calmly!

ive tried to talk to her and she doesn't want to hear it. I think if I just ignore her for a while, she won't care to text me or try to talk to me. She'll probably just forget about me or not care. She told me that anything can happen and she hates having her life laid out to her. She just wants me to be her friend and be who I use to be. if that's what it will take to have her love me again and maybe end up taking me back, then ill do it. But I guess not talking to her at all is the right way to start right?

btw, i forgot to add that after i was done talking to her, i asked "do you still love me as your friend.." and all she said was "YEP"

she didn't sound like she meant it.

yah, that's a good analogy. How she told me she doesn't love me anymore is beyond me...MaddenBowler10

Get to work

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]yah, that's a good analogy. How she told me she doesn't love me anymore is beyond me...blazinpuertoroc

Yah =/ I just don't want to fall in love again. I hate it.

Get to work

-OpaK-

[QUOTE="fmacraze"]Plenty more fish in the sea. Nothing more I can say. Life is a piece of crap sometimes. MaddenBowler10

Ya, well it's always crap for me. I appreciate what I have, but I really have nothing going for me. I try my hardest and never good enough. I fail. I been thinking that since I'll be alone the rest of my life, that I'll adopt a child and raise him or her to have a good, better life than me.

Now that is a depressing quote, but I am pretty much the same way. Maybe you could try being a little more optimistic?

Get to work

-OpaK-

lmao...made me chuckle..

but hey, that doesn't accuont for me. I don't use lotion

[QUOTE="blazinpuertoroc"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]yah, that's a good analogy. How she told me she doesn't love me anymore is beyond me...MaddenBowler10

Yah =/ I just don't want to fall in love again. I hate it.

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

[QUOTE="fmacraze"]Plenty more fish in the sea. Nothing more I can say. Life is a piece of crap sometimes. ff7cloudking

Ya, well it's always crap for me. I appreciate what I have, but I really have nothing going for me. I try my hardest and never good enough. I fail. I been thinking that since I'll be alone the rest of my life, that I'll adopt a child and raise him or her to have a good, better life than me.

Now that is a depressing quote, but I am pretty much the same way. Maybe you could try being a little more optimistic?

Get to work

-OpaK-

IS the one you love the one licking the guitar in your pic... If so she is pretty cute from what I can see. I didn't read all what you said but going from good friends.. best friends with a girl and then falling in love is really hard for the girl to accept, because women who have guy friends typically like their guy friends better than their girlfriends and if you proposed you loved her and wanted to make a relationship out of it, she just fears losing what you built up over the years. Plus it may feel awkward doing boyfriend girlfriend things with each other with your history as just "friends"battousai188

Your right, but our situation is slightly different since we did go out when we first met. Anyway, that's basically what she told me, is that she doesn't think it would work out and she doesn't want to lose me. I continue to tell her though that I just want one last chance and if it didn't work out, then so be it, but at least we gave it a try. And yah, that's her in the avatar...

Get to work

[QUOTE="-OpaK-"]

 

 

Get to work

jachichorro

[QUOTE="-OpaK-"]

Get to work

jachichorro

I didn't even notice that:lol:

[QUOTE="jachichorro"][QUOTE="-OpaK-"]

Get to work

-OpaK-

I didn't even notice that:lol:

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

[QUOTE="blazinpuertoroc"]Well I say either wait it out or let it go...Im sure youll find someone else who will make you happy. Ive been hurt by a lot of women...It takes a while to find the right one...trust meblazinpuertoroc

Yah =/ I just don't want to fall in love again. I hate it.

yah, i had this relationship for 6 years, so i figured she'd love me back or want to be with me again. i just don't understand it.

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

K I read the whole thing... Sounds like you came off way to strong pouring your heart out to her like that probably freaked her out a little... Plus she probably doesn't feel any sexual or emotional chemistry towards you.. You might have to face the fact your just a friend to her and that her needs for a boy friend are beyond what you have to offer her. People change and their hearts change too, its growing up dude it sucks but you gotta deal with it and just press on.

I too have felt that pain, I had a girl friend I was stuck in the friend zone for 3 years and when I made a move to become "more" to her she explained she loved me as a friend but couldn't see me as anything else.. My heart was shot to pieces but I had to swallow what she said and when I came to terms with it we are still awesome friends just with different sexual agendas.

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

K I read the whole thing... Sounds like you came off way to strong pouring your heart out to her like that probably freaked her out a little... Plus she probably doesn't feel any sexual or emotional chemistry towards you.. You might have to face the fact your just a friend to her and that her needs for a boy friend are beyond what you have to offer her. People change and their hearts change too, its growing up dude it sucks but you gotta deal with it and just press on.

I too have felt that pain, I had a girl friend I was stuck in the friend zone for 3 years and when I made a move to become "more" to her she explained she loved me as a friend but couldn't see me as anything else.. My heart was shot to pieces but I had to swallow what she said and when I came to terms with it we are still awesome friends just with different sexual agendas.

Give it time. Leave her be for a while, if you must. I found that when I let go of "my girl", I realized that there are plenty more fish in the sea. And now I'm friends with "my girl" and talk to her almost everyday and/or give her a high five every day. I'm no longer afraid to act a certain way, say the right stuff, etc. because I learned that even though she may not be "attracted" to me, she still thinks I'm a good friend. And in the end, that's the core of a good romantic relationship anyway. It's rarely the other way around...battlefront23

[QUOTE="RushMetallica"]Your Blog is a callin'...-KinGz-

[QUOTE="omfg_its_dally"]I shed a tear.MaddenBowler10

:?

btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.