I've lost my best friend

will you two ever be more than friends?MaddenBowler10

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="Vundi"] Ok, how old are you? I don't mean that in a negative way, just curious.Vundi

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] will you two ever be more than friends?battlefront23

I shed a tear.omfg_its_dally

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btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

[QUOTE="battousai188"]

K I read the whole thing... Sounds like you came off way to strong pouring your heart out to her like that probably freaked her out a little... Plus she probably doesn't feel any sexual or emotional chemistry towards you.. You might have to face the fact your just a friend to her and that her needs for a boy friend are beyond what you have to offer her. People change and their hearts change too, its growing up dude it sucks but you gotta deal with it and just press on.

I too have felt that pain, I had a girl friend I was stuck in the friend zone for 3 years and when I made a move to become "more" to her she explained she loved me as a friend but couldn't see me as anything else.. My heart was shot to pieces but I had to swallow what she said and when I came to terms with it we are still awesome friends just with different sexual agendas.

MaddenBowler10

Ok.. When I say sexual feelings I mean "deeper" feelings. Everyone in every relationship even if sex is at the bottom of the list of things in the relationship still blindly guides peoples choices in who they pick to be with.. And yeah she probably does love you! Its just a mutual love she has for you, sometimes you just cant explain why that love doesn't go anywhere else. The best thing you can do is love her back as a friend and support her in what she does. Your 18 and have alot to see in the way people change and act. And all the things you have shared with each other.. She probably doesn't want to risk losing that feeling she has with you when your able to cry on each others shoulders and tell your most intimate secrets to go away.. And since you guys have been around each other for 6 years she may just want to meet someone else to build that feeling up with but in a different way. She knows everything about you and maybe over the 6 years youve known each other she just feels like there is no room for to grow and learn about one another. Its a f'd up way things work between the opposite sex.

If I were you I would approach her and just explain you let your emotions get the best of you and that you do love her as a friend and more but respect (key word respect.. women LOVE to hear that word) the decissions she makes. Dont be blunt about being more than just friends if its meant to be, its meant to be. Respect her choices and the things she does and dont force your feelings onto her.

[QUOTE="Legendaryscmt"]Sea is full of fish my friend.MaddenBowler10

Well I know that and I've been meeting new people lately and am interested in others. But nothing can really make me forget what I use to have, ya'know?

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] will you two ever be more than friends?battlefront23

[QUOTE="Vundi"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] 18MaddenBowler10

K I read the whole thing... Sounds like you came off way to strong pouring your heart out to her like that probably freaked her out a little... Plus she probably doesn't feel any sexual or emotional chemistry towards you.. You might have to face the fact your just a friend to her and that her needs for a boy friend are beyond what you have to offer her. People change and their hearts change too, its growing up dude it sucks but you gotta deal with it and just press on.

I too have felt that pain, I had a girl friend I was stuck in the friend zone for 3 years and when I made a move to become "more" to her she explained she loved me as a friend but couldn't see me as anything else.. My heart was shot to pieces but I had to swallow what she said and when I came to terms with it we are still awesome friends just with different sexual agendas.

Ok.. When I say sexual feelings I mean "deeper" feelings. Everyone in every relationship even if sex is at the bottom of the list of things in the relationship still blindly guides peoples choices in who they pick to be with.. And yeah she probably does love you! Its just a mutual love she has for you, sometimes you just cant explain why that love doesn't go anywhere else. The best thing you can do is love her back as a friend and support her in what she does. Your 18 and have alot to see in the way people change and act. And all the things you have shared with each other.. She probably doesn't want to risk losing that feeling she has with you when your able to cry on each others shoulders and tell your most intimate secrets to go away.. And since you guys have been around each other for 6 years she may just want to meet someone else to build that feeling up with but in a different way. She knows everything about you and maybe over the 6 years youve known each other she just feels like there is no room for to grow and learn about one another. Its a f'd up way things work between the opposite sex.

If I were you I would approach her and just explain you let your emotions get the best of you and that you do love her as a friend and more but respect (key word respect.. women LOVE to hear that word) the decissions she makes. Dont be blunt about being more than just friends if its meant to be, its meant to be. Respect her choices and the things she does and dont force your feelings onto her.

Well that's good to hear..Glad it's working out for you.MaddenBowler10

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] Well that's good to hear..Glad it's working out for you.battlefront23

This is making me sad right now. I'm not even in that bad a sittuation right now (although I have been plenty of time), but I'm upset also. There is this beautiful girl at my work and she's from Guam. She's got a badass personality and I took her out on a first date, she had a great time and I feel like she wanted me to kiss her but I didn't....I just said goodnight, and now I have an even harder time trying to get her to go out on a second date with me. she **** works all the damn time and it's hard to find time, I asked her out last week and told her to call or text me...but she never did...I'm gonna see her on Thanksgiving and I hope I can get her to go out on a second date with me. I'm confident if she goes on a second date with me then I got this in the bag.MasterKingMP

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] i was going to track you but when i went to your profile, i guess im already tracking u! forget when i did that tho hahabattlefront23

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="Vundi"] Ok then, seriously. Way too young to be worried about all this craziness right now, saying things like you don't wanna fall in love again. Life is full of great loves and fantastic heartbreaks. There is no quick fix or magic words that are going to make it all go away. Things like this just take time. You may feel like you've lost more than you can hope top express, and to you maybe you have, but that doesn't mean it's irreplacable. Life goes on, feelings change, and you WILL love again. Is someone who would be all crappy to you like that really worthy of your heart anyways? Trust me, dude! I'm 30 years old and I've had some heartbreaks I wanted to curl up and die over but when you find someone that you can really love (and who loves you back) you'll be wondering why you ever felt the way you did about that other person. Hang in there, brother. It'll all get so much better. I promise.Vundi

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] Yes, you have relationship experience. Having a close friend of the opposite sex gives you experience, whether ur really "together" or not. You just can't give the best advice on the physical sides of it. But an intimate relationship doesn't just relate to couples.battlefront23

I would say no more than a weeks time. If you let it sit to long she might feel like that is all you really wanted and then really not want much to do with you. From my experience with what your dealing with, rebuild your friendship explain what your feeling but understand the way she feels about you and that you just want to be the best and most supporting friend you can be for her. Your 18, Im 23 and take it from me I was 19 when what happened to you happened to me. I rebuilt my friendship with the girl I mentioned and met my current girl friend whom I love so much through her, and trust me the feeling of love is so awesome when she feels the same way about you as you do her. :)

[QUOTE="Eastdabest"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

 

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btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

MaddenBowler10

Didnt mean it like that :P, but yea I know what your going through man and it sucks.

battousai188

I would say no more than a weeks time. If you let it sit to long she might feel like that is all you really wanted and then really not want much to do with you. From my experience with what your dealing with, rebuild your friendship explain what your feeling but understand the way she feels about you and that you just want to be the best and most supporting friend you can be for her. Your 18, Im 23 and take it from me I was 19 when what happened to you happened to me. I rebuilt my friendship with the girl I mentioned and met my current girl friend whom I love so much through her, and trust me the feeling of love is so awesome when she feels the same way about you as you do her. :)

alright ill talk to her upcoming weekend and ill blog it on how it goes. Thanks, and thats awesome u met someone through her lol

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="Eastdabest"] Yea i think you should take it off. I can see why you fell for her too judging by the picture.Eastdabest

Didnt mean it like that :P, but yea I know what your going through man and it sucks.

so what did u mean thenn? :P

[QUOTE="omfg_its_dally"]I shed a tear.MaddenBowler10

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btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

damn...this story was actually...sad.....

sucks dude...

[QUOTE="Eastdabest"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] Keep it in your pants, there's more to it than that. :PMaddenBowler10

Didnt mean it like that :P, but yea I know what your going through man and it sucks.

so what did u mean thenn? :P

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] Yah, I actually talked to this girl a few times before class (some reason she sat by me waiting for class to start) and I actually had the courage to talk to this beauty. And she seemed to enjoy tlaking to me. I've yet to establish a real friendship with her though, i need to find a way to get her # .battlefront23

Didnt mean it like that :P, but yea I know what your going through man and it sucks.

so what did u mean thenn? :P

I shed a tear.omfg_its_dally

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btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

damn...this story was actually...sad.....

sucks dude...

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="Eastdabest"] Lol kinda sounded like you thought i was saying shes hot, but i meant how shes licking the guitar? IDK she looks like shes cool to hang out with and stuff. Thats what I meant :Ptaj7575

I guess you found a new avatar then! :P

lol, i dont get it...i didn't find a new avatar..

[QUOTE="taj7575"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

 

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btw, if anyone is curious enough, her picture is in my avatar. I should probably take it off..

MaddenBowler10

damn...this story was actually...sad.....

sucks dude...

Dont worry, this was a worthwhile topic to read.

So you never talk to her anymore? When was the last time you 2 talked?

[QUOTE="taj7575"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] lol BS! nah, just jk dude. But ya, she was really great to hang out with and stuff. I love her to death and she's almost perfect for me. ehhhhh :sMaddenBowler10

I guess you found a new avatar then! :P

lol, i dont get it...i didn't find a new avatar..

thats why I deleted it lol...

I thought on that post you were talkin bout a new girl.

my bad :x

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="taj7575"]

damn...this story was actually...sad.....

sucks dude...

taj7575

Dont worry, this was a worthwhile topic to read.

So you never talk to her anymore? When was the last time you 2 talked?

I can't remember exactly, but it was the last time i talked to her on the phone which I explained in the post. Which was 4 days or so ago. Last thing I told her was "goodnight" and "Tell ur new boyfriend I said Hi"

I guess you found a new avatar then! :P

lol, i dont get it...i didn't find a new avatar..

thats why I deleted it lol...

I thought on that post you were talkin bout a new girl.

my bad :x

[QUOTE="taj7575"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] ah...sorry. I just am crushed and I needed some people to talk to, so I knew OT wouldn't let me down. and also, this post is for the kiddies to learn from, because not many long time friendships turn into something more! Just an FYI..MaddenBowler10

Dont worry, this was a worthwhile topic to read.

So you never talk to her anymore? When was the last time you 2 talked?

I can't remember exactly, but it was the last time i talked to her on the phone which I explained in the post. Which was 4 days or so ago. Last thing I told her was "goodnight" and "Tell ur new boyfriend I said Hi"

I shed a tear.omfg_its_dally

Dont worry, this was a worthwhile topic to read.

So you never talk to her anymore? When was the last time you 2 talked?

I can't remember exactly, but it was the last time i talked to her on the phone which I explained in the post. Which was 4 days or so ago. Last thing I told her was "goodnight" and "Tell ur new boyfriend I said Hi"

[QUOTE="omfg_its_dally"]I shed a tear.Tuky06

This thread worries me, because I just started dating my best friend, and I'd say I feel somewhat the same way. I don't want to be even more depressed! Also, I am really sorry, I wouldn't wish that upon my worst enemy.majoras_wrath

Am I the only one who saw the topic title and thought, "Did you check between the couch cushions?" :?

Seriously... find a stupid comedy on TV that doesn't remind you of her, and laugh your *** off. Humor is the absolute best antidote for heartbreak I know. :D

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

MaddenBowler10

Pretty much shot yourself in the foot bud. Woman don't like men who give in, and are like a little pup following them everywhere. First you seem clingy when you told her everything, and you totally gave her all the power. Woman like a man who is dominant. Nice guys always finish last-- women are always attracted to the more "bad boys".

Am I the only one who saw the topic title and thought, "Did you check between the couch cushions?" :?

Seriously... find a stupid comedy on TV that doesn't remind you of her, and laugh your *** off. Humor is the absolute best antidote for heartbreak I know. :D

i dont know if i should laugh or punch u in the ballsMaddenBowler10

Let's see... I've been dumped many, many times by ladies (before meeting my wife of 13 years now). The worst thing to do (in my experience) is to let it fester, and drag you down. The sooner you can laugh (or even smile), the better you'll feel in the long run, and the quicker you'll come to terms with living in the "friend zone" (which can have perks: being in that zone means you can get her to introduce you to single friends... it happens, trust me ;) ).

Of course, if you choose option #2... *runs*

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

MaddenBowler10