I've lost my best friend

Just check the last place you left him, I'm sure he's there.BDM666

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="Thinker_reborn"]

Well similar thing happened with me.I was very close friends with this girl,she used to share just about everything with me.We became really close friends and I was like her best buddy,always there for her.

But then I fell in love with her.I was attractted to her in a general way from the start but never knew my feelings would shoot so far.She was good to me in that time,but after sometime she started getting annoyed at this and evern said that we should just stop talking.But we got over that sensitive phase and I accepted being just her friend again.

But then she fell for a close friend of mine.That just felt like ****,I couldnt really help it.I was just blown away by reality I guess but things just got messier and messier between the 3 of us(it wasnt just me though who messed up things).

While I am still friends with both of them,things will never really be the same again.:( 

Thinker_reborn

Currently you are missing being a really important person in your love's life isnt it?I have been through the exact same thing.And when it happens due to some of our mistakes then the regret can really kill you.

But as far as my case was concerned,the girl certainly mishandled me which reduced my regret as she was NOT worth being so damn good to.

But whatever it is just remember 1 thing,when you are close friends with somebody you love and are really good to them then there is one big problem.When you treat somebody like nobody's more important than them,it's human nature then to expect the same from the other person.No matter how good a friend you maybe to a girl,her romantic endeavor will always be more important to her than you.You can certainly be that close to a male friend that he may sacrifice a particular romantic endeavor for you or just give you more importance but it just wont happen with a female friend.This is just freaking reality we cant do anything about and if you take it on yourself than you will realise that it's not all the other person's mistake as we percieve it to be.

All I can say to you is that life is temporary dude and no matter how impossible it may seem there could still be someone as good as that girl coming sometime in your life.

well i am in a bit of a rut myself atm. was seeing a girl few years ago, but we broke up cause we were to young and it was silly. didnt talk for a while just the odd hello and short wee conversations. then recently she added my new msn and started talking alot with each other then a week later while out with friends i found out she broke up with her boyfriend, so i was curious as i still really like her.. rarley get to talk in school cause i never see her when she is out of class and while i am outta class she will be in class. so msn was the only real chance i got to have proper long conversations with her. friends say i should do something but her msn name still contains her old bf's name and she started using pics of him which really just pushed me back from doing anything incase what i was told was false and i make an ass of myself. but yea it is kinda putting a downer on me at the minute cause i dunno what i should do, just keep talking and stay friends, just forget and move on or do something and risk making an ass outta myselfRiseAgainst12

[QUOTE="KOTORkicker"]I was in the exact same situation, except for the fact that it isn't that she's going out with someone else, it's that she went out with someone else who treated her like crap and dumped her after one day, and when I went mad at him, she just announced out of the blue that she was never going to speak to me again for mistreating her 'Friends' like that. I cried for 3 days straight, I'm telling you. But, I forgot eventually; we just drifted apart. It's become a little complicated again now. :( My thoughts are with you, man. :)MaddenBowler10

My friend on whom my love fell for is indefinitely hotter than me.Life can be so cruel.:(

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="KOTORkicker"]I was in the exact same situation, except for the fact that it isn't that she's going out with someone else, it's that she went out with someone else who treated her like crap and dumped her after one day, and when I went mad at him, she just announced out of the blue that she was never going to speak to me again for mistreating her 'Friends' like that. I cried for 3 days straight, I'm telling you. But, I forgot eventually; we just drifted apart. It's become a little complicated again now. :( My thoughts are with you, man. :)Thinker_reborn

My friend on whom my love fell for is indefinitely hotter than me.Life can be so cruel.:(

Phase 1: leave your friend alone

Phase 2: get over your "love" for her and realize it wont happen unless the fates decide to make it so (which is unlikely)

Phase 3: reestablish contact with friend after youre over her, apologize for the way you acted (and you should apologize, youre acting like a complete tool)

Phase 4: Profit!

mrbojangles25

[QUOTE="fmacraze"]Plenty more fish in the sea. Nothing more I can say. Life is a piece of crap sometimes. MaddenBowler10

Ya, well it's always crap for me. I appreciate what I have, but I really have nothing going for me. I try my hardest and never good enough. I fail. I been thinking that since I'll be alone the rest of my life, that I'll adopt a child and raise him or her to have a good, better life than me.

Um...i'm sorry?Bloodbath_87

O.K. I believe the question has been answered MULTIPLE TIMES we need to let this thread die. (I wish I could lock this)TSNAKE617

[QUOTE="TSNAKE617"]O.K. I believe the question has been answered MULTIPLE TIMES we need to let this thread die. (I wish I could lock this)jachichorro

It's the fact that girls never know what they want. It sucks but most of them just can't decide. they are always thinking they can do better.MaddenBowler10

I've gone through all this before, and I've thought deeply about. If you have to change and be someone else in order for them to like you, then you shouldn't be with them. You need to be with someone who will like you for you, the way you always are. You shouldn't have to try in order for someone to like you..... And if you cant respect her decision to be with someone else, and are willing to go that far in order to get her to go against her will, then you dont really love her. If you truly love her, then you would let her do what she wants. If she is happy, then you should be happy for her. Give her a few day without talking to her, maybe even a week or so. Then she might miss you, and then text her. You wont get out of the friend zone, but you dont want her getting sick of you and never talking to you again. Move on, find someone else, and try to be a good friend, and leave her alone. That is my advice to you. Thing about what you are doing, and put yourself in her shoes and see what you would think if a girl was going after you that you dont like, while you were with someone who you do.GTA_dude

believe me, i did that with my old GF who moved away. I told her that since we can't see each other that much that she can look for someone else to make her more happy. B/c it is what she desired, but i was so attached to her that it was terrible and I just ended up getting angry with her for not paying any attn. to me anymore. Believe me, letting her do what she wants is not the happiest thing for you. yeah sounds kind of selfish, but hey, you have feelings too.

[QUOTE="GTA_dude"]I've gone through all this before, and I've thought deeply about. If you have to change and be someone else in order for them to like you, then you shouldn't be with them. You need to be with someone who will like you for you, the way you always are. You shouldn't have to try in order for someone to like you..... And if you cant respect her decision to be with someone else, and are willing to go that far in order to get her to go against her will, then you dont really love her. If you truly love her, then you would let her do what she wants. If she is happy, then you should be happy for her. Give her a few day without talking to her, maybe even a week or so. Then she might miss you, and then text her. You wont get out of the friend zone, but you dont want her getting sick of you and never talking to you again. Move on, find someone else, and try to be a good friend, and leave her alone. That is my advice to you. Thing about what you are doing, and put yourself in her shoes and see what you would think if a girl was going after you that you dont like, while you were with someone who you do.SupraGT

believe me, i did that with my old GF who moved away. I told her that since we can't see each other that much that she can look for someone else to make her more happy. B/c it is what she desired, but i was so attached to her that it was terrible and I just ended up getting angry with her for not paying any attn. to me anymore. Believe me, letting her do what she wants is not the happiest thing for you. yeah sounds kind of selfish, but hey, you have feelings too.

Girls go nutts when you ignore them

blazinpuertoroc

Too true!!!!!!! Doing it right now!  Lol seriously, this is the best advice I can give you (or steal from the quote)

It's good cuz it works in two ways - it helps you get over her (by not talking to her) but it also makes her want you.

Win - win situation.

Been there my friend. Same thing happened to me when i was 18. Best thing to do is to let go. In my case i ended up noticing my girl had changed. The person i used to love was not the same person i was seeing then. It looks like it´s the same case with you. She´s moved on and so should you, i know it´s hard and stuff and that there is nothing me or anyone can say that can make it better, but you just have to let go. Move on yourself, the sooner the better and i can guarantee you you´re gonna find someone again and start making new memories with that person that are gonna make you forget about the ones on your head now.

Good luck dude and keep hanging on.

I sorta feel your pain man.

Shes like my best friend, but I have loved her for over a year now. Turns out she really likes one of my best guy friends. She turned me down in hopes of getting him. But he can't date at all. But she dosen't know that. I really want to tell her that. I WANT her. I can't see her with another guy, it would tear me apart. I'm mad because when I almost started dating someone (which looking back, I'm happy I didn't) she said "I don't like that". So I think maybe she DOES still like me (she did before) but there was something I NEEDED to know. Her parents aren't allowing her to date until she is 16 years old. That is in two years (yes, I know we are young, but I'm completely serious about this). I HAD to ask her that, if I waited two years, loving her the whole time, if I would have a chance to have her. I gave her a note asking on Tuesday. I didn't get a response until that next Monday. Every minute of every day I had to wait was torture. I expected a bad answer, I don't know why, I just did.

Monday came. She gave me the note. I read it. It was a long note, so I won't say all that it said. But it said a few things that stand out.

"First.Things.First. I love you *insert my name here*. But not in the same way you love me. I love you in the "he-is-my-best-friend-like-a-brother" way. You love me in the "back-off-she-is-mine" way."

"I have to tell you the awful truth. I don't think of you as a boy friend. I'm sorry, I just don't"

I thought I would handle this good, but then I go to my B-Block class. I sit next to her as usual. We have a normal conversation, and she asks if I'm ok. I answer "I think so". She keeps saying she feels really bad. I tell her not to. The rest of Science class goes fine, everyone seems normal. But not me. Inside I was completely devastated. So many things that I thought were so close, were so far. I keep remembering all of the things that made me so happy. Like one day in the auditiorum during a school election she fell asleep on my shoulder on purpose. How she gave me hugs everyday (and hopefully still will). I almost cried right then and there.

I made a decision. I would tell her everything. EVERYTHING. In my Study Hall, I wrote her a 3 page note, front and back. I told her about how I started to like her, because she brought sunshine to the darkness of my mind. I told her so many times how happy she makes me. I told her that I have a picture of her that I look at every night before I go to sleep. I told her about how I was going to ask her to our Semi-Formal last year but chickened out. I told her so many personal things that I've never told ANYONE. I just felt like now she deserved to know about me. All about me.

Now, I still am incredibly depressed and sad. She seems to be serious about going after my friend. But she CAN'T and she dosen't know that. She will get her heart broken by him just how I got mine broken by her. Maybe if I'm there for her I still have a chance...but I doubt I do. I don't think I'm going to be able to change her mind. But I keep thinking that there is a way, even though there probably isn't, which makes this all hurt that much more.

Stick in there man, I know I'm young, but I can tell you this much: If you truly love someone, you want them to be happy. Stay there, be her friend, maybe one day she will see whos been there with her all that time and see that noone can love her more than you do. 

Good luck to you. I hope you find happiness.

lmfao, lemme guess....you're 16? these problems don't matter in the slightest. Judging by your music selection, you had this coming.Utensilman

Well , 2 of my friends were killed  (shot to death). 

so I think I know what you're talkin' about.

yeah...that's life ...

So I have posted in the past on here about my relationship with my best friend and how i was in love with her and wanted to be with her and yadda yadda. I been her best friend for 6 years and we went out when we first met (broke up because we were to young) Well lately I have gotten really sad and depressed and stuff because she has a new boyfriend and it's not like any normal boyfriend. He's more like a friend to her and she's not really attracted to him, but they are like best friends. That use to be me and I felt like she has forgotten about me. So I started talking to her and telling her that I loved her and I wanted to be her man and everything (she already knows) and that I would change for her and everything. Well it was like she wouldn't accept it, like she said she wanted me to just be her friend and quit flirting with her and just stop trying. I was crying while talking to her and I told her that she's everything to me and I didn't want to lose her to this guy and I just been waiting so long for another chance to be with her. So we got to the point where she told me she doesn't love me (she use to tell me she loved me everyday) and that were not close and things have changed.

This really hit me hard and I started thinking about all my memories I've had with this person and how I won't have that anymore. I lost my best friend to some tool who just met her and it's all because I was in love with her and wanted something more. Our relationship use to be so close, just as this was just a month or two we were talking to each other everyday, and I loved every minute of it. We had our problems but now its like she wants to end it. I haven't heard from her in 4 days, I haven't gotten a text or IM, and I just feel lonely and empty and forgotten and this really really depressed and I hate it. And it's not just losing everything I had in her that hurts, but thinking about the memories and times I had with her is what really kills me.

The last time I talked to her, I called her and she was with her boyfriend. She did answer and we talked but, she was interrupting me to talk to her boyfriend. You could tell she was so happy and joyful talking and joking with him, but when she got back to talking to me she was just like "yep" "mhm" "cool" and I just didn't know what to say after a few minutes. All she told me was how her day has been with her boyfriend and what they been doing, and then I could hear him in the background laughing and talking to her and it just killed me.

For all I know, they could be cuddled up together watching a movie and having a good time. While I'm sitting here venting on Gamespot about this and being depressed and listening to The Killers, Third Eye Blind, Blink 182 and Edwin Mccain and Lifehouse. Heh, it's nothing against Gamespot, but I just needed to get this out because I'm sick. My recommendation to any of you who has a crush on anyone, is to make sure that that you don't end up in the friendzone, because ur most likely not going be with that person, and it only hurts worse in the end.

MaddenBowler10

Sea is full of fish my friend.Legendaryscmt

I sorta feel your pain man.

Shes like my best friend, but I have loved her for over a year now. Turns out she really likes one of my best guy friends. She turned me down in hopes of getting him. But he can't date at all. But she dosen't know that. I really want to tell her that. I WANT her. I can't see her with another guy, it would tear me apart. I'm mad because when I almost started dating someone (which looking back, I'm happy I didn't) she said "I don't like that". So I think maybe she DOES still like me (she did before) but there was something I NEEDED to know. Her parents aren't allowing her to date until she is 16 years old. That is in two years (yes, I know we are young, but I'm completely serious about this). I HAD to ask her that, if I waited two years, loving her the whole time, if I would have a chance to have her. I gave her a note asking on Tuesday. I didn't get a response until that next Monday. Every minute of every day I had to wait was torture. I expected a bad answer, I don't know why, I just did.

Monday came. She gave me the note. I read it. It was a long note, so I won't say all that it said. But it said a few things that stand out.

"First.Things.First. I love you *insert my name here*. But not in the same way you love me. I love you in the "he-is-my-best-friend-like-a-brother" way. You love me in the "back-off-she-is-mine" way."

"I have to tell you the awful truth. I don't think of you as a boy friend. I'm sorry, I just don't"

I thought I would handle this good, but then I go to my B-Block class. I sit next to her as usual. We have a normal conversation, and she asks if I'm ok. I answer "I think so". She keeps saying she feels really bad. I tell her not to. The rest of Science class goes fine, everyone seems normal. But not me. Inside I was completely devastated. So many things that I thought were so close, were so far. I keep remembering all of the things that made me so happy. Like one day in the auditiorum during a school election she fell asleep on my shoulder on purpose. How she gave me hugs everyday (and hopefully still will). I almost cried right then and there.

I made a decision. I would tell her everything. EVERYTHING. In my Study Hall, I wrote her a 3 page note, front and back. I told her about how I started to like her, because she brought sunshine to the darkness of my mind. I told her so many times how happy she makes me. I told her that I have a picture of her that I look at every night before I go to sleep. I told her about how I was going to ask her to our Semi-Formal last year but chickened out. I told her so many personal things that I've never told ANYONE. I just felt like now she deserved to know about me. All about me.

Now, I still am incredibly depressed and sad. She seems to be serious about going after my friend. But she CAN'T and she dosen't know that. She will get her heart broken by him just how I got mine broken by her. Maybe if I'm there for her I still have a chance...but I doubt I do. I don't think I'm going to be able to change her mind. But I keep thinking that there is a way, even though there probably isn't, which makes this all hurt that much more.

Stick in there man, I know I'm young, but I can tell you this much: If you truly love someone, you want them to be happy. Stay there, be her friend, maybe one day she will see whos been there with her all that time and see that noone can love her more than you do. 

Good luck to you. I hope you find happiness.

[QUOTE="Utensilman"]lmfao, lemme guess....you're 16? these problems don't matter in the slightest. Judging by your music selection, you had this coming.clembo1990

Thread turned into a brain-eating zombie...jachichorro