[QUOTE="trialedbyfire"][QUOTE="zarkon9"]
i will answer this then try and call it a night.
i would feel troubled if i knew a twelve year old had been watching pornography. there is a time and place for that in life. they could learn something but in a way likely that could scar them mentally for the rest of their lives. this is true.
as for violence? i do not really know what to say except it would have the same impact.
Sunsence
12 year old is what. 6th grade? yeah. 18 in 12th grade.. minus 6. i and every guy i knew was looking at pron back in 6th grade. its completely normal and no one i know, including myself became scarred by seeing the female body naked, nor seeing it penetrated. people are too careful / keep the wool over their kids eyes these days. i say expose them to the world. the sooner they know the sooner you can stop fooling them, and having them fool themselves. otherwise they will grow up to believe whatever anyone tells them and be another gullible viewer of fox news or something of the sort.I can honestly say i'm not without sympathy for you, but as far as pornography, it doesn't really learn you anything. It's more of a forced way of the "lovegame". I mean imagine your typical, to some what cliche porn scene. Girl can't pay pizza delivery guy, schoolgirl fails class does extra credit for better grade. The reality based porn is even worse van drives the street scoping women, spots target starts talking to her and persuade her to come with them. What's a kid gonna grow up like after watching several hours of this before reaching full maturity? That when you have a job that get's you in contact with people you might have a chance at sex, as a girl that you have to please your professor to easily get your grade up or that's it as simple as 1,2,3 to get a girl to come with you using the means provided in these type of scene's. Then the harsh reality starts to set in the kid might either get depressed or angry that his tactic don't work and he might snap in both ways.
Now i'm not saying that games don't have the same effect, but first of all in porn the video runs until the end, with out having to do anything for it. In games you first of all have to actually do it yourself, now alot of kids might already quit because they can't handle the controls. Another batch may end the game due to actually not liking the blood and gore.
It's a lot easier to protect your children from games to mature for their ages because kids simply don't have the money for it, or the parents come with them to the store. When they're at home most houses these days have internet access, at 12 to 16years you're probably mature enough to stay home alone, right? So what's stopping the kid from looking these things up. Oh ****, all the porn sites are blocked at this pc, next week he/she is at a friends house where it might not be blocked. It's not about emotional scarring of the kid, it's more about behavior, patience and respect when damaging a child when it is watching porn.
in your first two paragraphs it came off like you were questioning the educational value of porn. i did not claim, nor did not attempt imply that porn is a valuable education for anybody. if anything it desencitizes ( spelling sorry) especially a younger viewer or someone who has not had any personal experience. it portrays women as a sexual object as well. but that is another story. what i was getting at when i said expose them to the world meant that people should tell kids what is out there. from sex, porn, violence, corruption, starvation, poverty, genocide.. exc.. make them know it is happening, have them shape their own opinions. trying to keep kids away from violent video games and porn will only be harmful in the longrun. it will make them think there is something wrong with it, they will still play / watch and hide it, and then they will grow up to be either dishonest or have other flawed personality traits that deal from dishonesty through insecurity (especially with porn / sexuality ) my parents never told me specifically that porn is bad, nor did they tell me porn is ok or bad. i dont think the conversation of watching porn ever even came up with them. because i know to them, it is harmess, as i do agree with. when it came to violent video games... well i played metal gear solid 1 when i was 7 years old, and never really was cencored there either. but movies.. somewhat. i had to wait till about 11-12 to watch any R movie i wanted. my parents were very liberal in every aspect, and i think that is what works the best. they taught me the implications of everything i saw and experienced in life, what to look out for, what i should definately not do. i think talking to a kid about issues, rather than hiding them from them, is definitely the best avenue to take. 
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