Well, first of all, I'm only 19, so it seems a little weird to me to be using online dating, but I'm just so shy it makes it hard to meet girls at school or anywhere else. I've signed up for an online dating website, and have gotten nothing in the month since I joined, the main problem being that there aren't that many people in my area (especially in my age group). I joined one other site and had the same results. Should I bother with online dating? It seems hopeless, a lot of the time... I really just can't imagine anything happening (on a site or in real life), it just seems a crazy fantasy most of time, like something I really want but will never get. It really sucks. But yeah, anyway, do you think I should continue using them (I guess at this point I'll just have to hope someone good joins)?
Should I bother with online dating?
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Then again, she very well could be a....CYLON AGENT!!! :o
I think it's better to just get over your shyness and meet people IRL. Let's be honest here...
The dating scene can be quite intimidating!
While there might be thousands of available women in your area, you have almost no chance of success if you don't know how to approach and or get them interested in you.
Now if you're like most guys, you may have trouble talking to women or thinking of what to say in order to make them attracted to you. In fact, you're probably missing golden opportunities to meet beautiful and interesting women. Well, these five quick random tips might help you:
#1- Improve your Self Confidence: If you've ever tried to attract a woman, then you know your success depends on your self-confidence.
The more confidence you have, the better off you'll be!
#2- Be the MAN that women want!: The truth is a LOT of women are fed up with dating guys who act like little boys. If you can learn what is attractive to women, then you'll stand out from these low status men.
So why is it important to become a MAN?
Well it's simple. By being a REAL man, you'll exude a variety of positive characteristics. And these core set of traits can help you become more naturally attractive to women.
#3- Eliminating Your Approach Anxiety: This is imo the most important thing a guy intrested in dating should have. The truth is these anxious feelings can be traced back to early human development. Back then, there was REAL danger in approaching women. If you talked to a female who was attached to another man, you could get smacked over the head with a club. As you can see, approach anxiety is a NORMAL feeling that we all get.
But should you let it control you? The obvious answer is NO! Although approach anxiety is commonplace, you should NEVER let it control you. Remember that we've all been at this point in our lives. The best "Ladies men" in the world are the guys who overcame these feelings.
Now if you want to overcome your own anxious feelings, then you should follow the same technique I used to move beyond approach anxiety...
Talk to every woman you encounter! The most important thing here is, don't expect anything special here. This is just to learn you how to talk to women. DO NOT come out as creepy or create an ocward situation.
#4- Don't be Afraid of Rejection: You never know who's available or who's not, and who's intrested or not. All men get rejected, you shouldn't let it get to you. Some women even do it on purpose, they enjoy it. If you get rejected, think what you did wrong and you might learn something. All you need to do is focus on enjoying the conversation and having fun with the girl, rather then "trying to score".
#5- Making Strong Eye Contact: This is my personal favorite and speciality. As you know by now, confidence is the key ingredient to demonstrating a high status personality. When you approach with confidence, you dramatically increase your success with women.
So how do you display a confident aura? Well, I've found the best is to show a dominant presence with your body language. And this starts with the eye contact you give.
Strong eye contact means a lot of things to women:
#1- It shows that you're used to being in control
#2- It demonstrates you're not afraid of women
#3- It provides the first example of high status body language.
What I recommend is simple. Whenever you're out meeting women, allow your eye contact to hold SLIGHTLY longer then what's considered socially acceptable. In a way, you're acting like you're trying to figure out if you're looking at something you like.
What's interesting about this form of communication is it sends a different message to people, based on their gender. Men will find lengthy eye contact to be a challenge or an aggressive action. On the other hand, women find these guys to be confident and sexual.
You can also use eye contact to approach women. Whenever you lock eyes with a woman, you can give her a simple smile. If she smiles back, you know she's probably willing to be approached. Contrary to using openers, this is a more natural way to start talking to women.
Confidence is necessary ingredient to creating attraction. If you feel like you lack this characteristic when talking to women, then I recommend you work on the eye contact you give. Simply follow the advice I gave, and you'll find that it's easier to display a more self-assured presence around women.
Be the alpha male and go get 'em tiger!!!!
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