So OT, how old are you? *Poll*

[QUOTE="spazzx625"]My parents are 18 years apart... However, they didn't meet until my mom was in her mid-late 20's and my dad was in his 40's, my mom already had one child (my sister) from a previous marriage. I have never found their relationship to be odd or anything... It's not so much the age gap that is a bit shocking in this case, it's the fact that she's still a teenager and this guy is middle-aged. It seems quite predatory without knowing any details other than age.BiancaDK

Predatory, really?

Ya know, i´m beginning to think my opinion on this really doesen´t count for much, since my romantic partners usually tend to be 10-15 years older than me. Maybe there is something wrong here, but i honestly don´t "feel" it, as a matter of fact, i find it very natural. o:

Im the wrong one to argue any remotely objective point, i guess.

Thanks Bianca. :P And your opinion does count, because you're in the minority with me. And spazzx, I wouldn't find your parents realtionship weird at all. And I understand the teen part, but (without knowing me you might ignore this) I am pretty mature for my age.

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[QUOTE="Jandurin"] All I'm gonna say is that when I was your age, I was not a pig or irresponsible >_> At least, not in the way you mean.Jandurin

Well good. I'm glad you didn't think drugging a 13 year old and taking turns raping her with your friends would be a fun idea.

No, making light of it helps. It's a day to day thing. Some days I'm comfortable talking about it, others I wish I didn't exist. But random sex isn't a good idea. I've been there done that more time than I'd like to admit, and all I felt after was dirty. I kind of wish I would have asked for money, then maybe there would have been justification. JUST KIDDING.

I kind of wish I would have asked for money, then maybe there would have been justification. JUST KIDDING.

Esmenet

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Well, if thats the spin you wanna´ put on it, sure, i see a significant difference that should not be ignored. But i just don´t right presume off the beat that a 40 year old man dating a 19 year old girl is making a habit out of it -- it might just as well be a one-off "deal", right?

spazzx625

No, he has never dated a younger girl before me. Had sex with girls in their 20s, yes. But I had had sex with men in their 40s before him. And he didn't pick me up from school, I drove. We started having sex when I was 18, in my second semester of my senior year of high school. Our relationship started because I asked him to have sex with me. He said no because he knew my older brother. But I kept asking, and because we were both sex addicts, he didn't really need a lot of prodding. We had sex and were content to leave it at that, but we started talking, and then I was blowing off other guys to hang out with him. Then we started hanging out and not having sex, and that's when we both realized this was going somewhere. I tried to stop it, and tried not talking to him, but that didn't work. Once I realized things were serious, I told my parents. They both FLIPPED at first, but then I told them I had been raped, and things just started falling into place. Now, it's just a matter of telling my family, who are very old fashioned. But my parents have been so supportive and that's all I could ask for.

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I kind of wish I would have asked for money, then maybe there would have been justification. JUST KIDDING.

Jandurin

You're right! Ha. But, funny story, I woke up one time after "hanging out" with this guy, and the idiot left money under my pillow. I felt so disgusted. But, I gave it to my friend who needed to pay off a phone bill. So I guess it went for a good cause, right?

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[QUOTE="BiancaDK"] Just tell me what you think about it.Esmenet

On the one hand:
she is a big girl (19), hopefully capable of informed, thought out decisions
she is an adult
she is best suited to know what is best for her
only she knows about the quality (or lack there of) of the relationship...at least from her side

On the other hand:
things like this (right or wrong) give me the insta creeper vibe
I can't help but wonder what they have in common
I would not feel comfortable dating a 19 year old (being 28 )...so it makes me wonder about him
It just makes me 'uneasy'...though I am not involved, so that is inconsequential

I am capablke of my own decisions. :P We have one major thing in common. We were both liars, cheaters, and sex addicts. We both have had trauma in our lives, and are on the path of recovery. We've been together for a year, and have only had sex with eachother, a feat we both thought was impossible. We read the same books, play the same games, share the same philosophy on life, and most of all enjoy each others company and support. My dad and mom were scared when I told them, and didn't want anything to do with him, but considering my past and the reasons I hate guys my age, they gave hiim a chance. My dad and him get along for the most part and my mom is slowly warming up to him because she can see that he protects me and loves me and respects me, something boys my age have shown they know nothing of.

1. I am sorry for all you have gone through...I hope that you are able to work through the multitude of issues that stem from something like that.
-you have my sympathy and respect

2. I am glad that you found someone capable of helping you (no matter if it professional or personal help)

3. I was not trying to imply anything about YOUR specific relationship...just relationships of this type in general
-you would have to admit that yours is an extreme set of circumstances

4. Hope all works out for you in this relationship and life in general

Esmenet

[QUOTE="spazzx625"][QUOTE="BiancaDK"]

Well, the vast majority of people in almost all cultures would completely agree with you, it does in no way change the initial impression one gets.

Doesen´t make the relationship ethically wrong tho, or the initial impression reasonably right, even tho you´re not arguing that point -- just saying.

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Technically they don't, They never came back to the thread to give us some more details. :P

I was playing Braid!! I'm sorry I didn't check the thread every five minutes. :P I know its shocking, but I have a life away from GS! (it's on fantasy/sci fi forums). But I don't mind. I'm having fun reading all the comments to my boyfriend and laughing. Oh, and responding to you guys one after another, like you're going to come back and check. Ha.

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[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

On the one hand:
she is a big girl (19), hopefully capable of informed, thought out decisions
she is an adult
she is best suited to know what is best for her
only she knows about the quality (or lack there of) of the relationship...at least from her side

On the other hand:
things like this (right or wrong) give me the insta creeper vibe
I can't help but wonder what they have in common
I would not feel comfortable dating a 19 year old (being 28 )...so it makes me wonder about him
It just makes me 'uneasy'...though I am not involved, so that is inconsequential

rawsavon

I am capablke of my own decisions. :P We have one major thing in common. We were both liars, cheaters, and sex addicts. We both have had trauma in our lives, and are on the path of recovery. We've been together for a year, and have only had sex with eachother, a feat we both thought was impossible. We read the same books, play the same games, share the same philosophy on life, and most of all enjoy each others company and support. My dad and mom were scared when I told them, and didn't want anything to do with him, but considering my past and the reasons I hate guys my age, they gave hiim a chance. My dad and him get along for the most part and my mom is slowly warming up to him because she can see that he protects me and loves me and respects me, something boys my age have shown they know nothing of.

1. I am sorry for all you have gone through...I hope that you are able to work through the multitude of issues that stem from something like that.
-you have my sympathy and respect

2. I am glad that you found someone capable of helping you (no matter if it professional or personal help)

3. I was not trying to imply anything about YOUR specific relationship...just relationships of this type in general
-you would have to admit that yours is an extreme set of circumstances

4. Hope all works out for you in this relationship and life in general

Thank you very much. I have professional help and personal help. And I took no offense at all. I'm really used to it, and if I can help steer people away from stereotypes like that, I'd be happy to. BUT, I wholeheartedly agree with some of your points. Our relationship is a special case, and doesn't work the same way with everyone. It could very well be predatory, or a mid life crisis with other people.

[QUOTE="Esmenet"]spazzx625

Mid west. Michigan specifically.

[QUOTE="spazzx625"][QUOTE="Esmenet"]Esmenet

Mid west. Michigan specifically.

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[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

I am capablke of my own decisions. :P We have one major thing in common. We were both liars, cheaters, and sex addicts. We both have had trauma in our lives, and are on the path of recovery. We've been together for a year, and have only had sex with eachother, a feat we both thought was impossible. We read the same books, play the same games, share the same philosophy on life, and most of all enjoy each others company and support. My dad and mom were scared when I told them, and didn't want anything to do with him, but considering my past and the reasons I hate guys my age, they gave hiim a chance. My dad and him get along for the most part and my mom is slowly warming up to him because she can see that he protects me and loves me and respects me, something boys my age have shown they know nothing of.

Esmenet

1. I am sorry for all you have gone through...I hope that you are able to work through the multitude of issues that stem from something like that.
-you have my sympathy and respect

2. I am glad that you found someone capable of helping you (no matter if it professional or personal help)

3. I was not trying to imply anything about YOUR specific relationship...just relationships of this type in general
-you would have to admit that yours is an extreme set of circumstances

4. Hope all works out for you in this relationship and life in general

Thank you very much. I have professional help and personal help. And I took no offense at all. I'm really used to it, and if I can help steer people away from stereotypes like that, I'd be happy to. BUT, I wholeheartedly agree with some of your points. Our relationship is a special case, and doesn't work the same way with everyone. It could very well be predatory, or a mid life crisis with other people.

That is why I tried to keep my original post as general as possible
-old age may not be good for much, but it has taught me to be less judgmental than in my younger days
-my main concern mirrored others (is your BF just into little girls)...but you answered that...not that you owed me or anyone else here an explanation

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[QUOTE="spazzx625"] I have no specific comments to anything you've said so far, but I'm curious if you're from the US or not? If so, what region? spazzx625

Mid west. Michigan specifically.

It's hard to offend me. And you are understanding, as is everyone else on this forum. I was pretty entertained and..enlightened shall we say?..while reading what everyone had to say. I love hearing different opinions. Obviously I'm not going to sit and weight the pros and cons, because the relationship is where it is, and staying where it is for some time I like to believe. But, I'm not naiive, and I don't sit around planning our wedding and calling myself Beth (insert crush's last name here). At the present, things are exactly how I want them to be, and I hope it only gets better from here on out. But if it doesn't, then maybe I'll try an immature 19 year old dumbass next. :P

Oh, forgot to mention I dated a 23 year old when I was 16. Tell me who's more pedaphillic. The fact that my 23 year old boyfriend found nothing wrong with our relationship even though it was illegal in my state, coupled with the fact that my own parents accepted it. And then there's my current boyfriend who hates when girls wear pigtails because it makes them look like little girls, and who wouldn't even look at me or talk to me until I was 18 years old....lol.

im 15

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[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

1. I am sorry for all you have gone through...I hope that you are able to work through the multitude of issues that stem from something like that.
-you have my sympathy and respect

2. I am glad that you found someone capable of helping you (no matter if it professional or personal help)

3. I was not trying to imply anything about YOUR specific relationship...just relationships of this type in general
-you would have to admit that yours is an extreme set of circumstances

4. Hope all works out for you in this relationship and life in general

rawsavon

Thank you very much. I have professional help and personal help. And I took no offense at all. I'm really used to it, and if I can help steer people away from stereotypes like that, I'd be happy to. BUT, I wholeheartedly agree with some of your points. Our relationship is a special case, and doesn't work the same way with everyone. It could very well be predatory, or a mid life crisis with other people.

That is why I tried to keep my original post as general as possible
-old age may not be good for much, but it has taught me to be less judgmental than in my younger days
-my main concern mirrored others (is your BF just into little girls)...but you answered that...not that you owed me or anyone else here an explanation

LOLZ. See above post about little girls. And I didn't think I owed anyone an explanation, but I couldn't let you guys go on thinking I was some little 19 year old blinded by the maturity and experience of my old pedaphillic boyfriend. :P

Wow...what an interesting thread this has become. Too much info revealed perhaps? Especially about the girl in question.KrunkMastaX

Not considering the questions they were asking. If anyone was uncomfortable with the information, they could have said so, and I wouldn't have offered anything else. But it helped reveal a bit about the nature of the relationship and why it was slightly different from other age gaped relationships.

[QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"]Wow...what an interesting thread this has become. Too much info revealed perhaps? Especially about the girl in question.Esmenet

Not considering the questions they were asking. If anyone was uncomfortable with the information, they could have said so, and I wouldn't have offered anything else. But it helped reveal a bit about the nature of the relationship and why it was slightly different from other age gaped relationships.

Wow...what an interesting thread this has become. Too much info revealed perhaps? Especially about the girl in question.KrunkMastaX

Not considering the questions they were asking. If anyone was uncomfortable with the information, they could have said so, and I wouldn't have offered anything else. But it helped reveal a bit about the nature of the relationship and why it was slightly different from other age gaped relationships.

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[QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"]Wow...what an interesting thread this has become. Too much info revealed perhaps? Especially about the girl in question.KrunkMastaX

Not considering the questions they were asking. If anyone was uncomfortable with the information, they could have said so, and I wouldn't have offered anything else. But it helped reveal a bit about the nature of the relationship and why it was slightly different from other age gaped relationships.

Quite the contrary really. It's so much easier to tell strangers, especially on the internet. No eye contact, no tears, no awkwardness, and no judgement. This is the first year I've told anyone. Either way, the details are mine, and the time and place are mine, as are the people involved. It makes it less harsh when I talk about it, and softens the blow every time I hear similar stories. It's a sort of therapy. Actually, I think more strangers know than close friends. Trust me. it's way harder to go "hey, sorry I lied for 6 years, but something happened to me, and I guess I should tell you". They take offense and get mad like I should have just told them right away, even though I thought it was my fault, and felt like a slut and a horrible person. But people are so self absorbed. Don't get me wrong, some of my friends have been really supportive, but I'm very selective in who I tell in person.

[QUOTE="KrunkMastaX"][QUOTE="Esmenet"]

Not considering the questions they were asking. If anyone was uncomfortable with the information, they could have said so, and I wouldn't have offered anything else. But it helped reveal a bit about the nature of the relationship and why it was slightly different from other age gaped relationships.

Jandurin

You beat me because you had less to say. But we were thinking the same thing. :P

You beat me because you had less to say. But we were thinking the same thing. :P

Esmenet

Quite the contrary really. It's so much easier to tell strangers, especially on the internet. No eye contact, no tears, no awkwardness, and no judgement. This is the first year I've told anyone. Either way, the details are mine, and the time and place are mine, as are the people involved. It makes it less harsh when I talk about it, and softens the blow every time I hear similar stories. It's a sort of therapy. Actually, I think more strangers know than close friends. Trust me. it's way harder to go "hey, sorry I lied for 6 years, but something happened to me, and I guess I should tell you". They take offense and get mad like I should have just told them right away, even though I thought it was my fault, and felt like a slut and a horrible person. But people are so self absorbed. Don't get me wrong, some of my friends have been really supportive, but I'm very selective in who I tell in person.

Esmenet

Oh okay I understand then. That makes sense. Sorry if I came off as harsh.

[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

Quite the contrary really. It's so much easier to tell strangers, especially on the internet. No eye contact, no tears, no awkwardness, and no judgement. This is the first year I've told anyone. Either way, the details are mine, and the time and place are mine, as are the people involved. It makes it less harsh when I talk about it, and softens the blow every time I hear similar stories. It's a sort of therapy. Actually, I think more strangers know than close friends. Trust me. it's way harder to go "hey, sorry I lied for 6 years, but something happened to me, and I guess I should tell you". They take offense and get mad like I should have just told them right away, even though I thought it was my fault, and felt like a slut and a horrible person. But people are so self absorbed. Don't get me wrong, some of my friends have been really supportive, but I'm very selective in who I tell in person.

KrunkMastaX

Oh okay I understand then. That makes sense. Sorry if I came off as harsh.

Not at all. different people have different ways of dealing with things.

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[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

Not a problem. I get it all the time. The difference here is, you don't know anything about either of us, so your judgement is basically void. But either way, we were both sex addicts, so calling me inexperienced is pretty ridiculous. :P And he can't trick me into anything, because we both grew up lying to everyone and everything so I see right through it. We are both happy to say its been almost a year, and we've only had sex with one person. It's a great feeling. And he was married before to someone close to his age, so he doesn't just go after someone younger. But I don't fault you for your opinion, because I would caution all of my friends the same way. Hard to follow your own advice sometimes, right? Ha. As for how old he is, I don't care. If I can spend 30 good years of my life with someone that I love, I'd do it over 70 years with someone I tolerate.

Esmenet

Not inexperienced that way...inexperienced in the ways of life etc...as i said..i guess i just don't trust anyone..but if an older woman were to date me..i'd feel as if she was just doing it to show she still has some.."life" i guess you could say...in her...it would be quite uncomfortable...and not to sound like some prophetic ass...but usually lies come back to bite you...

I'm not arguing about your choice..just trying to understand it..

Maybe this will help. I don't trust anyone but myself. Ever. I was gang raped when I was 13 years old by 18 year old boys. I hate guys my age. They're immature and unresponsible and more importantly, pigs. And trust me, every lie I've told has come back to bite me, especially the fact that up until 3 months ago, no one knew I was raped. Now I have panic attacks daily. But I'm dealing with it, and he is helping me more than anyone, because he understands because he had a similar experience. I'm not arguing either, just trying to help you understand. Each circumstance is different. But like I said in another post, I would caution any other girl as well, unless I knew the man personally. So thank you for your concern.

I just have one problem...i'm approximately your age and i'm not irresponsible and i despise perverts...i can be immature..but not in relation to relationships..just my humor..and i also tend to distrust everyone but myself...instead of panic attacks i have pangs of..i guess..depression..

I sort of understand your situation...just can't come to terms with the age thing...guess it's just me..

[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

[QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"]

Not inexperienced that way...inexperienced in the ways of life etc...as i said..i guess i just don't trust anyone..but if an older woman were to date me..i'd feel as if she was just doing it to show she still has some.."life" i guess you could say...in her...it would be quite uncomfortable...and not to sound like some prophetic ass...but usually lies come back to bite you...

I'm not arguing about your choice..just trying to understand it..

Xx_Hopeless_xX

Maybe this will help. I don't trust anyone but myself. Ever. I was gang raped when I was 13 years old by 18 year old boys. I hate guys my age. They're immature and unresponsible and more importantly, pigs. And trust me, every lie I've told has come back to bite me, especially the fact that up until 3 months ago, no one knew I was raped. Now I have panic attacks daily. But I'm dealing with it, and he is helping me more than anyone, because he understands because he had a similar experience. I'm not arguing either, just trying to help you understand. Each circumstance is different. But like I said in another post, I would caution any other girl as well, unless I knew the man personally. So thank you for your concern.

I just have one problem...i'm approximately your age and i'm not irresponsible and i despise perverts...i can be immature..but not in relation to relationships..just my humor..and i also tend to distrust everyone but myself...instead of panic attacks i have pangs of..i guess..depression..

I sort of understand your situation...just can't come to terms with the age thing...guess it's just me..

I'd imagine it's not just you. :P But having pangs of depression is normal until it overcomes your entire life. But, lucky for you, you don't have to come to terms with it, nor have a relationship like it. Ha.

So...You were 13 when you started dating this Guy?

He was..34?

So...You were 13 when you started dating this Guy?

He was..34?

Snipes_2

So...You were 13 when you started dating this Guy?

He was..34?

Snipes_2

No. We've been dating for almost a year.So when we started dating he was 39 and I was 18.

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[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

Maybe this will help. I don't trust anyone but myself. Ever. I was gang raped when I was 13 years old by 18 year old boys. I hate guys my age. They're immature and unresponsible and more importantly, pigs. And trust me, every lie I've told has come back to bite me, especially the fact that up until 3 months ago, no one knew I was raped. Now I have panic attacks daily. But I'm dealing with it, and he is helping me more than anyone, because he understands because he had a similar experience. I'm not arguing either, just trying to help you understand. Each circumstance is different. But like I said in another post, I would caution any other girl as well, unless I knew the man personally. So thank you for your concern.

Esmenet

I just have one problem...i'm approximately your age and i'm not irresponsible and i despise perverts...i can be immature..but not in relation to relationships..just my humor..and i also tend to distrust everyone but myself...instead of panic attacks i have pangs of..i guess..depression..

I sort of understand your situation...just can't come to terms with the age thing...guess it's just me..

I'd imagine it's not just you. :P But having pangs of depression is normal until it overcomes your entire life. But, lucky for you, you don't have to come to terms with it, nor have a relationship like it. Ha.

Not sure what your saying there....but i do have to come to terms with it...and i wouldn't get into a relationship with any girl i've met in college thus far...not worth my time...nor are they like me in any way...long story...

Not about me though...

So...if i understand correctly, you are dating him because you don't trust people your own age and you share a lot in common..yes?..

[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

[QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"]

I just have one problem...i'm approximately your age and i'm not irresponsible and i despise perverts...i can be immature..but not in relation to relationships..just my humor..and i also tend to distrust everyone but myself...instead of panic attacks i have pangs of..i guess..depression..

I sort of understand your situation...just can't come to terms with the age thing...guess it's just me..

Xx_Hopeless_xX

I'd imagine it's not just you. :P But having pangs of depression is normal until it overcomes your entire life. But, lucky for you, you don't have to come to terms with it, nor have a relationship like it. Ha.

Not sure what your saying there....but i do have to come to terms with it...and i wouldn't get into a relationship with any girl i've met in college thus far...not worth my time...nor are they like me in any way...long story...

Not about me though...

So...if i understand correctly, you are dating him because you don't trust people your own age and you share a lot in common..yes?..

I mean you don't have to come to terms with my relationship if you don't want to. It's not like you're my best friend and I need your support. Ha. And you said "guess its just me" and I responded with it probably isn't. Lots of people are uneasy about the age aspect. And you have your whole life to meet people. If there aren't any girls at your college like you, then wait till you have a job and can meet people in your field, or just in the working world in general.

And it can be about you if you'd like. Why aren't they like you?

And no, I'm not just dating him for those reasons. I don't trust boys my age, and we do have a lot in common. But I'm dating him because I love him. And because he makes me feel wanted, something that I'm not used to. Having things in common is a step, but I can have good friendships with people that I have things in common with, and not go anywhere from there. We have a bond that is founded on common trauma, yes, but it goes deeper. We understand things about eachother and are open to talking about things most people would shy away from. He supports me in everything that I do, and is there for me when I'm at my lowest. We have fun together, and I can't imagine being with anyone else at this point.

Oh, She said she was lying to her friends for 6 years, so I assumed that's when they started seeing each other.

THe only thing I have a problem with is that he's a 40 year old Dating a Teenager. Kind of makes you wonder...But Hey, I don't know any of the specifics. For all I know he could actually be in love with you. :P

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[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

I'd imagine it's not just you. :P But having pangs of depression is normal until it overcomes your entire life. But, lucky for you, you don't have to come to terms with it, nor have a relationship like it. Ha.

Esmenet

Not sure what your saying there....but i do have to come to terms with it...and i wouldn't get into a relationship with any girl i've met in college thus far...not worth my time...nor are they like me in any way...long story...

Not about me though...

So...if i understand correctly, you are dating him because you don't trust people your own age and you share a lot in common..yes?..

I mean you don't have to come to terms with my relationship if you don't want to. It's not like you're my best friend and I need your support. Ha. And you said "guess its just me" and I responded with it probably isn't. Lots of people are uneasy about the age aspect. And you have your whole life to meet people. If there aren't any girls at your college like you, then wait till you have a job and can meet people in your field, or just in the working world in general.

And it can be about you if you'd like. Why aren't they like you?

And no, I'm not just dating him for those reasons. I don't trust boys my age, and we do have a lot in common. But I'm dating him because I love him. And because he makes me feel wanted, something that I'm not used to. Having things in common is a step, but I can have good friendships with people that I have things in common with, and not go anywhere from there. We have a bond that is founded on common trauma, yes, but it goes deeper. We understand things about eachother and are open to talking about things most people would shy away from. He supports me in everything that I do, and is there for me when I'm at my lowest. We have fun together, and I can't imagine being with anyone else at this point.

Can't argue with you there...as long as it's not false...love...also..feeling wanted...that's good...wouldn't want to be in a relationship where you felt as if you were a nuisance..

They aren't like me because they don't share any of the views i have...they dress in ways i dislike...and they are basically conformists...

I'm not really looking for someone...if i find someone..i do..if not..oh well..i'll just be the troll in the corner..:lol:

[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

[QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"]

Not sure what your saying there....but i do have to come to terms with it...and i wouldn't get into a relationship with any girl i've met in college thus far...not worth my time...nor are they like me in any way...long story...

Not about me though...

So...if i understand correctly, you are dating him because you don't trust people your own age and you share a lot in common..yes?..

Xx_Hopeless_xX

I mean you don't have to come to terms with my relationship if you don't want to. It's not like you're my best friend and I need your support. Ha. And you said "guess its just me" and I responded with it probably isn't. Lots of people are uneasy about the age aspect. And you have your whole life to meet people. If there aren't any girls at your college like you, then wait till you have a job and can meet people in your field, or just in the working world in general.

And it can be about you if you'd like. Why aren't they like you?

And no, I'm not just dating him for those reasons. I don't trust boys my age, and we do have a lot in common. But I'm dating him because I love him. And because he makes me feel wanted, something that I'm not used to. Having things in common is a step, but I can have good friendships with people that I have things in common with, and not go anywhere from there. We have a bond that is founded on common trauma, yes, but it goes deeper. We understand things about eachother and are open to talking about things most people would shy away from. He supports me in everything that I do, and is there for me when I'm at my lowest. We have fun together, and I can't imagine being with anyone else at this point.

Can't argue with you there...as long as it's not false...love...also..feeling wanted...that's good...wouldn't want to be in a relationship where you felt as if you were a nuisance..

They aren't like me because they don't share any of the views i have...they dress in ways i dislike...and they are basically conformists...

I'm not really looking for someone...if i find someone..i do..if not..oh well..i'll just be the troll in the corner..:lol:

Nothing wrong with trolls. They're cute. :P And they sound like typical college girls to me. Ha.

Nothing wrong with trolls. They're cute. :P And they sound like typical college girls to me. Ha.

Esmenet

Exactly...i find it disturbing they all look as if they were clay figurines cut from the same mold with the same personality...

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Nothing wrong with trolls. They're cute. :P And they sound like typical college girls to me. Ha.

Xx_Hopeless_xX

Exactly...i find it disturbing they all look as if they were clay figurines cut from the same mold with the same personality...

*Points at avatar* Proud member of the cut-from-a-different-mold group

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[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

Nothing wrong with trolls. They're cute. :P And they sound like typical college girls to me. Ha.

Esmenet

Exactly...i find it disturbing they all look as if they were clay figurines cut from the same mold with the same personality...

*Points at avatar* Proud member of the cut-from-a-different-mold group

What is your avatar...and yeah..i like to think i'm different too...then again..they all think they're different..and when you're different society tends to want to crush you because you don't conform to what they consider the norm...and if you refute their ideas they look down upon you...

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[QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"]

Exactly...i find it disturbing they all look as if they were clay figurines cut from the same mold with the same personality...

Xx_Hopeless_xX

*Points at avatar* Proud member of the cut-from-a-different-mold group

What is your avatar...and yeah..i like to think i'm different too...then again..they all think they're different..and when you're different society tends to want to crush you because you don't conform to what they consider the norm...and if you refute their ideas they look down upon you...

It's a picture of my a Tech fest playing rock band. Ha. My attire is probably different from most college girls, although I don't dress like that everyday. And I agree. Although, I conform on some things, like playing video games, and reading. They're just different from what others do.

It's a picture of my a Tech fest playing rock band. Ha. My attire is probably different from most college girls, although I don't dress like that everyday. And I agree. Although, I conform on some things, like playing video games, and reading. They're just different from what others do.

Esmenet

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*Points at avatar* Proud member of the cut-from-a-different-mold group

Esmenet

What is your avatar...and yeah..i like to think i'm different too...then again..they all think they're different..and when you're different society tends to want to crush you because you don't conform to what they consider the norm...and if you refute their ideas they look down upon you...

It's a picture of my a Tech fest playing rock band. Ha. My attire is probably different from most college girls, although I don't dress like that everyday. And I agree. Although, I conform on some things, like playing video games, and reading. They're just different from what others do.

Rock band is fun...i play bass on it...i guess your attire would be considered different...better to just be yourself...not change for others...

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It's a picture of my a Tech fest playing rock band. Ha. My attire is probably different from most college girls, although I don't dress like that everyday. And I agree. Although, I conform on some things, like playing video games, and reading. They're just different from what others do.

spazzx625

You're right! It's a pink bra, with fish nets that I cut into a shirt, and jeans that have rips all over them. My stomach was pierced really cute then, but I had to take it out. Here's the pic, but bigger:

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[QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"]

What is your avatar...and yeah..i like to think i'm different too...then again..they all think they're different..and when you're different society tends to want to crush you because you don't conform to what they consider the norm...and if you refute their ideas they look down upon you...

Xx_Hopeless_xX

It's a picture of my a Tech fest playing rock band. Ha. My attire is probably different from most college girls, although I don't dress like that everyday. And I agree. Although, I conform on some things, like playing video games, and reading. They're just different from what others do.

Rock band is fun...i play bass on it...i guess your attire would be considered different...better to just be yourself...not change for others...

Normally I wear colored wife beaters and jeans, or video game t shirts. But when I go out and stuff I love wearing fishnets and dresses and really high heels. :)

And I play bass, guitar, drums and sing. Ha. I love them all. But I'm just not into those games as much anymore. I was more interested in the Little Big Planet tent they had, because I have a tattoo of my sack girl. And I'm getting an Okami one soon!! :)

20 years old. Still got to wait a couple of months for that 21st.

[QUOTE="spazzx625"][QUOTE="Esmenet"] It's a picture of my a Tech fest playing rock band. Ha. My attire is probably different from most college girls, although I don't dress like that everyday. And I agree. Although, I conform on some things, like playing video games, and reading. They're just different from what others do. Esmenet

By the way I am 26. Turning 27 on the 27th. Haha.KrunkMastaX

How bizarre :o..

Concetration face. I was playing for money. :P And kind of angry, because I hate the Rockband guitar controller.