Trying to become straight.

Okay, this is a really weird topic, but here's my issue. I'm gay and have been this way all my life. I'm 22 now. However, I really wish I was straight, cuz life could be easier and I could get married and have kids, etc. Does anyone know how I can become attracted to girls and not guys? I've tried looking at straight porn, but I end up focusing on the guy or subconciously thinking about the guys. Looking at the hottest girls does nothing for me, but hot guys get me excited.

Help me become straight, because I dont want to be gay I mean, I've accepted it and I can be happy this way, but I feel that I'm missing out on a normal lifestyle. Any suggestions?

Why do you value getting married (presumably to a woman) more highly than being with someone you can love and be attracted to?xaos

Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.

[QUOTE="xaos"]Why do you value getting married (presumably to a woman) more highly than being with someone you can love and be attracted to?NYCgamer47

Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.

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Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.NYCgamer47

[QUOTE="xaos"]Why do you value getting married (presumably to a woman) more highly than being with someone you can love and be attracted to?NYCgamer47

Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.

Watching gay porn is not going to turn me gay It just doesn't work that way.

Trying to go against your nature will only make you more unhappy I am afraid.

[QUOTE="NYCgamer47"]Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.foxhound_fox

*Refers to MJ.* :|explicthangnail

Just keep fighting it. I once thought I was gay but look where I am now! ;)

Honestly though, you cannot force yourself to be thomthing that you aren't. No matter what made you the way you are, its what makes you happy that is the most important :)

Go to one of those bible camps that scare the gay out of you with rhetoric from the bible.lycrof

Success guaranteed!

[QUOTE="NYCgamer47"]Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.foxhound_fox

*cough* Michael Jackson *cough* 

Okay, this is a really weird topic, but here's my issue. I'm gay and have been this way all my life. I'm 22 now. However, I really wish I was straight, cuz life could be easier and I could get married and have kids, etc. Does anyone know how I can become attracted to girls and not guys? I've tried looking at straight porn, but I end up focusing on the guy or subconciously thinking about the guys. Looking at the hottest girls does nothing for me, but hot guys get me excited.

Help me become straight, because I dont want to be gay I mean, I've accepted it and I can be happy this way, but I feel that I'm missing out on a normal lifestyle. Any suggestions?

NYCgamer47

You will never become straight, but you can pretend that you're straight. Some gay people get married and have kids, and simply never tell anyone that they are gay  

You're obviously not very committed to becoming straight, b/c it is in fact very easy. I applaud your effort, though, but your first problem is that you say you've been gay your whole life. That isn't true. You aren't gay until your first gay experience. Once you realize that, you will have a much easier time being "normal" (as you say).murlow12

Maybe you can meet the situation half way

Get married to a girl who is like a guy

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[QUOTE="xaos"]Why do you value getting married (presumably to a woman) more highly than being with someone you can love and be attracted to?xaos

Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.

He can also pay a surrogate mother to carry his biological son/daughter. I think you have to be careful about that though. I've heard of cases where the surrogate mother becomes attached to the fetus and runs away with it. I've also heard of cases where the surrogate mother gets granted full custody even though she contractually agreed to give up the kid once it's born.  

[QUOTE="MrGeezer"][QUOTE="NYCgamer47"]

Okay, this is a really weird topic, but here's my issue. I'm gay and have been this way all my life. I'm 22 now. However, I really wish I was straight, cuz life could be easier and I could get married and have kids, etc. Does anyone know how I can become attracted to girls and not guys? I've tried looking at straight porn, but I end up focusing on the guy or subconciously thinking about the guys. Looking at the hottest girls does nothing for me, but hot guys get me excited.

Help me become straight, because I dont want to be gay I mean, I've accepted it and I can be happy this way, but I feel that I'm missing out on a normal lifestyle. Any suggestions?

guynamedbilly

You will never become straight, but you can pretend that you're straight. Some gay people get married and have kids, and simply never tell anyone that they are gay

I don't think that's possible. Unless you have kids in your marriage by artificial insemenation or adoption, you'd have to be attracted to your wife. In which case you'd be bisexual, not gay

It doesn't matter what you think, it's a fact that it happens. You don't have to be sexually attracted to someone in order to get an erection. 

You're obviously not very committed to becoming straight, b/c it is in fact very easy.  I applaud your effort, though, but your first problem is that you say you've been gay your whole life.  That isn't true.  You aren't gay until your first gay experience.  Once you realize that, you will have a much easier time being "normal" (as you say).murlow12

So you were gay until your first straight experience?

Kinda like when people wake up and it's just there

[QUOTE="guynamedbilly"][QUOTE="MrGeezer"][QUOTE="NYCgamer47"]

Okay, this is a really weird topic, but here's my issue. I'm gay and have been this way all my life. I'm 22 now. However, I really wish I was straight, cuz life could be easier and I could get married and have kids, etc. Does anyone know how I can become attracted to girls and not guys? I've tried looking at straight porn, but I end up focusing on the guy or subconciously thinking about the guys. Looking at the hottest girls does nothing for me, but hot guys get me excited.

Help me become straight, because I dont want to be gay I mean, I've accepted it and I can be happy this way, but I feel that I'm missing out on a normal lifestyle. Any suggestions?

MrGeezer

You will never become straight, but you can pretend that you're straight. Some gay people get married and have kids, and simply never tell anyone that they are gay

I don't think that's possible. Unless you have kids in your marriage by artificial insemenation or adoption, you'd have to be attracted to your wife. In which case you'd be bisexual, not gay

It doesn't matter what you think, it's a fact that it happens. You don't have to be sexually attracted to someone in order to get an erection. 

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[QUOTE="murlow12"]You're obviously not very committed to becoming straight, b/c it is in fact very easy. I applaud your effort, though, but your first problem is that you say you've been gay your whole life. That isn't true. You aren't gay until your first gay experience. Once you realize that, you will have a much easier time being "normal" (as you say).foxhound_fox

No, that's wrong. We are all heterosexual naturally, so the only way that changes is if you want it to change (i.e., choosing to have a homosexual experience). Fear not, you're straight until you change that.murlow12

[QUOTE="murlow12"]No, that's wrong. We are all heterosexual naturally, so the only way that changes is if you want it to change (i.e., choosing to have a homosexual experience). Fear not, you're straight until you change that.foxhound_fox

There is no way to prove that. The TC acknowledges that he doesn't think he was born that way. He says that he thinks that "social and psychological influences" caused him to be gay So obviously there isn't agreement on the issue.murlow12

[QUOTE="xaos"]Why do you value getting married (presumably to a woman) more highly than being with someone you can love and be attracted to?NYCgamer47

Good point. But if I do that, then I can't have kids.

I'm not convinced that I was born this way though. Perhaps it was social and psychological influences that shaped me this way.NYCgamer47

[QUOTE="foxhound_fox"][QUOTE="murlow12"]You're obviously not very committed to becoming straight, b/c it is in fact very easy. I applaud your effort, though, but your first problem is that you say you've been gay your whole life. That isn't true. You aren't gay until your first gay experience. Once you realize that, you will have a much easier time being "normal" (as you say).murlow12

porn always helps :Psk8erboi796

I've accepted it and I can be happy this way, but I feel that I'm missing out on a normal lifestyle.NYCgamer47

Wow...way to go with the contradicting yourself there. Obviously you're not really happy and have not accepted yourself for who you are, or this topic wouldn't even be here.

I don't know that "becoming straight" is something that really works all that well. I know there are people who have managed to do it, but it's hard to say if that's something that will last, or if they're truly happy. I personally believe sexuality lies on a spectrum, and there are some people that are somewhere in the middle and can therefore manage with guys or girls, but you don't sound like one of those people.

I'm not convinced that I was born this way though. Perhaps it was social and psychological influences that shaped me this way.NYCgamer47

Seriously? Despite the fact these feelings are recurring despite your best efforts? The whole "nature vs. nurture" debate is an entirely seperate ball of wax, though. At 22 years old, you can make your own decision in that regard, but make sure you do some research on that issue before you draw any firm conclusions.

I'd say get some therapy. But the kind that helps you accept yourself for who you truly are, and stop lamenting things that you likely will never have, at least not in the way you want.

Given that you live in the States, getting married to a guy isn't really an option. You should meet a nice Canadian guy, then marry him, move, then adopt some kids! Here in Canada, gay marriage is legal of course, and so is adoption.

All the best in whatever it is you decide. But don't waste your life on hoping and wishing.

We are all heterosexual naturally, so the only way that changes is if you want it to change (i.e., choosing to have a homosexual experience). Fear not, you're straight until you change that.murlow12

And pay no attention to this person. Their experience is not your experience, and it's very easy to talk about something you really know nothing about or have no connection with in your own life.

Okay, this is a really weird topic, but here's my issue. I'm gay and have been this way all my life. I'm 22 now. However, I really wish I was straight, cuz life could be easier and I could get married and have kids, etc. Does anyone know how I can become attracted to girls and not guys? I've tried looking at straight porn, but I end up focusing on the guy or subconciously thinking about the guys. Looking at the hottest girls does nothing for me, but hot guys get me excited.

Help me become straight, because I dont want to be gay I mean, I've accepted it and I can be happy this way, but I feel that I'm missing out on a normal lifestyle. Any suggestions?

NYCgamer47

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