Women talk much more than men, either about "nothing" (i.e. trivia) or feelings. Partly this is a way to establish an emotional connection. Partly it's because women are better at verbal communication than men, so they do it more naturally. Partly it's just because women gain more pleasure on a psychological level from the act of conversation. (That isn't sexist, there has been a lot of research into it. Gay men also tend to enjoy conversation more, and be better at it - which is why many women enjoy the platonic friendship of gay men.)
So, if as a male, you tend not to be so emotively verbose - perhaps you see conversation as a way of conveying information, not establishing emotional connection - then it's a natural female reaction to try to get you to open up through conversation.
Having said that, I also recall relationships where I've often said "what are you thinking" - and in those cases it was where I felt unsure about the relationship because I didn't think we were connecting. I'm sure that kind of response could come from anyone (either gender, any orientation) as a way to try to make sure that there's a connection there.
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