It's true that girls mature earlier than boys...physically.
Emotional maturity is a different thing all together. When I was in high school, the behavior of many girls that openly expressed their condescending belief that they were more mature than their male peers, taught me that maturity is not determined by gender. Some of these 16 year olds were dating college level and older guys that ruined their lives, ingaged in drinking and driving and other reckless activities. After college when I entered the workforce, it became clear from interacting with coworkers of both genders and dating partners, that not even age can bring maturity to some people. Even as adults these people would not perform at a perfessional level and look confused when they got repremanded or would exhibit selfish, maladaptive behavior on a date and wonder why I never called them back. .
Many women judge a man's maturity level based on his sex drive. This is why many women think older men are more mature. Not because they are but because their testosterone level is half of what it was when they were in their early twenties. The problem with testosterone is that it is the hormone that controls sex drive and aggressive behavior in both men and women. Males, especially teenage males, have more testosterone than anyone to promote the developement of muscles and strong bones. Women suffering from osteoporosis sometime receive testosterone hormone therapy. When some of these women develope an increased sex drive as a side effect of the therapy, does this mean that maturity in them has regressed? That's how insane it is to judge someone's maturity level based on their sex drive.
For the most part male and females of any age are the same, but becasue of different experience they have different perspective of the same thing. It's kinda like having a "grass is greener on the other side" complex. I may see headlights and you may see tail lights but it doesn't change the fact thay we are both looking at a car. I will admit that there are far more mature women than their are immature women. In college I had female class mates that inspired me to become a better person. One woman I know was working 2 jobs while going to school fulltime while maintaining a 4.0 average in medical school. This made me step back and say "holy friggin crap! She's focused!". Thaking care of the things that need to be taken care of, being a productive member of society and not engaging in behavior that have destructive consequences like gambling, drug or alcahol addiction, infidelity or criminal activity is what I consider being mature. When someone questions maturity in others, what is their definition? I've dated women that considered me immature because I play video games. Does that apply to everyone that plays games, even the women on this site? You have to remember that when someone starts throwing around the word immature, it's difficult to take seriously because it's largly subjective to that persons own definition.
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