Why do so many guys seem to dislike the idea of girls approaching them?

Because unless the guy is in the kitchen, the girl's out of place.

With girls you know what the guy wants (more or less), but I find that most guys have that "Why would she talk to me" reaction, so they think something's up. They don't think she's a slut or anything like that, they just don't understand why a girl would be talking to them, of all people.

Plus you have to remember most guys are clueless. They'll miss the signs of flirting unless it's flat out laughing and giggling and being silly; a girl comes up to me and says "Hey, what's up?" and I think "What the **** does she want?" not "This girl is a slut."

If society was more accepting to girls going up to the guy then I think this would be less of an issue, but as it stands it's my job to let a girl know I'm interested, so if she does it then something is not right and I have to be wary.

"Girl: Hey how you doing, what's your name cutie?

"Guy: "blank stare"......

"Girl: You shy or something?"

"Guy: Nah..not really"

"Girl: Well you seem kind of mean but I like it. Let me give you my number. = )

"Guy: What? have you been giving out your number all day or something?"

"Girl: umm...No? I don't usually give out my numbver or if some boy pesters me, I'll give him the wrong number just to get him out of my face maybe but thats all..."

"Guy: Are you giving me a fake number now?"

"Girl: Maybe...= )

"Guy: "walks off/ignores/excuses himself"TecmoGirl

That scenario doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like the idea of girls approaching him. He might doubt your sincerety in calling him cute (depending on the circumstances)or even if he believesyou he just might be so surprised he doesn't know how to react. You don't give much information about the context of this. What was his tone of voice like, where was this...was it at a school or something, and how did people at the school think of him?

I actually prefer the girl to approach me. Doesn't happen often though.

Hmm maybe I should rethink my preferences.

It has never happened to me, but I would certainly not mind.

Well, for me, I would really like it if girls came up to me because I'm a very shy person when it comes to talking to girls I like. I'm scared to get rejected:(

Theres guys who dislike being approached? I would much prefer a girl to approach me. I can understand if its someone you're not interested in but its still not a bad thing.xTheExploited

A girl one and a half years ago asked for my number and I simply gave it to her. We have been best friends ever since.

Two words: Social Convention. It tends to take away most of the enjoyment out of life.

[QUOTE="TecmoGirl"]

Yes, i'm referring to the reversal--it seems that there are lots of men out there who seem to react awkwardly to women playing the role of pick-up artist. Sometimes the look on their face is absolutely priceless(especially from cat calling lol); It can even be felt it in the way they respond at times. If you don't know what i'm talking about then this take this for example--

"Girl: Hey how you doing, what's your name cutie?

"Guy: "blank stare"......

"Girl: You shy or something?"

"Guy: Nah..not really"

"Girl: Well you seem kind of mean but I like it. Let me give you my number. = )

"Guy: What? have you been giving out your number all day or something?"

"Girl: umm...No? I don't usually give out my numbver or if some boy pesters me, I'll give him the wrong number just to get him out of my face maybe but thats all..."

"Guy: Are you giving me a fake number now?"

"Girl: Maybe...= )

"Guy: "walks off/ignores/excuses himself"

That's just one of many ways it can go of course(not saying there hasn't been any success) i'm just curious about what goes through a guys mind when a attractive girl approaches him. Are ya'll just shocked and don't know how to capitalize?? Is it seen as desperate? Slutty? Are ya'll intimidated? etc. Should men be the only ones approaching? I always assumed guys would see it as very sexy for a woman to approach them.

WheresKinggiAt

Ya, it does......

I have gotten a number just sitting at a restaurant. She was an average looking girl though, normal weight.

[QUOTE="TecmoGirl"]

Yes, i'm referring to the reversal--it seems that there are lots of men out there who seem to react awkwardly to women playing the role of pick-up artist. Sometimes the look on their face is absolutely priceless(especially from cat calling lol); It can even be felt it in the way they respond at times. If you don't know what i'm talking about then this take this for example--

"Girl: Hey how you doing, what's your name cutie?

"Guy: "blank stare"......

"Girl: You shy or something?"

"Guy: Nah..not really"

"Girl: Well you seem kind of mean but I like it. Let me give you my number. = )

"Guy: What? have you been giving out your number all day or something?"

"Girl: umm...No? I don't usually give out my numbver or if some boy pesters me, I'll give him the wrong number just to get him out of my face maybe but thats all..."

"Guy: Are you giving me a fake number now?"

"Girl: Maybe...= )

"Guy: "walks off/ignores/excuses himself"

That's just one of many ways it can go of course(not saying there hasn't been any success) i'm just curious about what goes through a guys mind when a attractive girl approaches him. Are ya'll just shocked and don't know how to capitalize?? Is it seen as desperate? Slutty? Are ya'll intimidated? etc. Should men be the only ones approaching? I always assumed guys would see it as very sexy for a woman to approach them.

WheresKinggiAt

I have yet to have a conversation like that. I wish a pretty girl would ask me out though

[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]

[QUOTE="TecmoGirl"]

Yes, i'm referring to the reversal--it seems that there are lots of men out there who seem to react awkwardly to women playing the role of pick-up artist. Sometimes the look on their face is absolutely priceless(especially from cat calling lol); It can even be felt it in the way they respond at times. If you don't know what i'm talking about then this take this for example--

"Girl: Hey how you doing, what's your name cutie?

"Guy: "blank stare"......

"Girl: You shy or something?"

"Guy: Nah..not really"

"Girl: Well you seem kind of mean but I like it. Let me give you my number. = )

"Guy: What? have you been giving out your number all day or something?"

"Girl: umm...No? I don't usually give out my numbver or if some boy pesters me, I'll give him the wrong number just to get him out of my face maybe but thats all..."

"Guy: Are you giving me a fake number now?"

"Girl: Maybe...= )

"Guy: "walks off/ignores/excuses himself"

That's just one of many ways it can go of course(not saying there hasn't been any success) i'm just curious about what goes through a guys mind when a attractive girl approaches him. Are ya'll just shocked and don't know how to capitalize?? Is it seen as desperate? Slutty? Are ya'll intimidated? etc. Should men be the only ones approaching? I always assumed guys would see it as very sexy for a woman to approach them.

matthayter700

I have gotten a number just sitting at a restaurant. She was an average looking girl though, normal weight.

Mafiree

Honestly I don't have a problem with it at all. Less work for you. In the U.S it has happened to me very very rarely, like maybe once or twice. When I was stationed in Germany, it was more frequent that a woman would approach you. They are less shy, and it doesn't make them slutty or anything-- German woman we're just more open to the idea of sex, and meeting new people.

Personally I love it when I wasn't married and went out and had a girl come up to me, not only does it boost your confidence, but you don't have to have the idea of being rejected or nervousness when you approach woman.

Its unexpected...we prefer to choose our prey not the other way around weezyfb

Pretty much.

A girl one and a half years ago asked for my number and I simply gave it to her. We have been best friends ever since.

daqua_99

friendzOWNED

I love it when girls approach me

Has never happened to me.. th3warr1or

Same. I'd welcome it though, since it'd save a whole bunch of effort.:P

I have no issue with it. In fact, it's becoming more common.

I'd much prefer a girl to pick me up to be honest :P, maybe I'm just lazy (or y'know, bad with women),

[QUOTE="Mafiree"]

I have gotten a number just sitting at a restaurant. She was an average looking girl though, normal weight.

WheresKinggiAt

To them it makes them feel less manly, I on the other hand don't mind girls coming up to me8), in fact, the only girlfriends I had asked me out and I accepted it of course, oh yeah baby.:oops:

I'd love that to happen, saves the hassle.Mochyc

I don't know, but that's probably because I'm too much of a wimp to ask anybody out myself. :lol:

[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]

[QUOTE="Mafiree"]

I have gotten a number just sitting at a restaurant. She was an average looking girl though, normal weight.

Mafiree

The point is not the girl approaching the guy. This is not that uncommon and is actually a good thing because it shows the girl isn't shy. It's just that the example conversation would never play out the way it did unless there were extenuating circumstances.

Actually I like it when the girl approaches me.Nifty_Shark

[QUOTE="Mafiree"][QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]Euphemism for unattractive. We just have different definitions or standards.

WheresKinggiAt

The point is not the girl approaching the guy. This is not that uncommon and is actually a good thing because it shows the girl isn't shy. It's just that the example conversation would never play out the way it did unless there were extenuating circumstances.

If that happened, that'd save a whole lot of trouble.

No, it is a way to say she was normal looking and average weight. I have no problem calling a girl fat or ugly.Mafiree

Even if you take what you said completely literally it means the girl was a 5/10. 5 = not hot.

[QUOTE="Mafiree"] No, it is a way to say she was normal looking and average weight. I have no problem calling a girl fat or ugly.WheresKinggiAt

Even if you take what you said completely literally it means the girl was a 5/10. 5 = not hot.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with a lady approaching a man.

What usually goes through a man's mind is surprise, because men are simply used to having to work to meet a lady.

Not having to "jump through hoops" just leaves them with a "Now what do I do?" type of feeling.:P

[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]

[QUOTE="Mafiree"] No, it is a way to say she was normal looking and average weight. I have no problem calling a girl fat or ugly.Mafiree

Even if you take what you said completely literally it means the girl was a 5/10. 5 = not hot.

Average looking =/= cute. Cute = cute. Now you are just changing your wording to try and benefit your argument. Either your definition of cute is entirely too large (which confirms my statement earlier about us having different definitions of attractive) or you are just manipulating your words while backpedaling. If you don't have a picture of this girl it's pointless to continue.

[QUOTE="Mafiree"][QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]You say she is "average weight" unless you have some weird definition of average this means she is overweight. A girl's stomach is supposed to be flat - anything else is overweight. Again "normal looking" is not defining attractive. If you slept with a girl and told your buddies she was normal looking they would probably laugh and (correctly) assume that she was not attractive.

Even if you take what you said completely literally it means the girl was a 5/10. 5 = not hot.

WheresKinggiAt

Average looking =/= cute. Cute = cute. Now you are just changing your wording to try and benefit your argument. Either your definition of cute is entirely too large (which confirms my statement earlier about us having different definitions of attractive) or you are just manipulating your words while backpedaling. If you don't have a picture of this girl it's pointless to continue.

Are ya'll just shocked and don't know how to capitalize?TecmoGirl

Oh and do realize you're asking a place full of misogynistic nerds.

[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]

[QUOTE="Mafiree"] My definition of "normal" weight for a girl is under 130 pounds........ Average looking would best be describer as "cute". A nice way of saying they are not your type but, they do have something going for them. Since beauty is entirely in the eye of the beholder.Mafiree

Average looking =/= cute. Cute = cute. Now you are just changing your wording to try and benefit your argument. Either your definition of cute is entirely too large (which confirms my statement earlier about us having different definitions of attractive) or you are just manipulating your words while backpedaling. If you don't have a picture of this girl it's pointless to continue.

I don't care, though I've never had it happen to me, or heard of it happening to any friends I've had. I don't think most guy would care that much, if at all.