My 65 inch TV is gone

My son just shattered my 65 inch TV screen and they don't make replacements for it. It was a $2400 TV. If this happened to any of you what would your punishment be to him? He shattered it because he got grounded from playing video games for the rest of the day about 5pm on for the day. My wife and I went out and when we came back he had shattered it by throwing a heavy object at it as hard as he could. My sister in law was watching him and playing a game and he wanted to and she said that he couldn't for the rest of the night. Any way I just wanted to share and see your responses.

Thanks for sharing. If you're on a forum asking how should you discipline him, maybe you don't need to have kids.

Gee thanks! I wasn't asking how to discipline him.

I've already decided on it. I just was curious what other people would do. It's 30 days no games for him and for my nephew that lives with me for the way they've both been acting.

Gee thanks! I wasn't asking how to discipline him.

clr84651

I think you asked what his punishment should be, so I am guessing that is the same thing ...

1 - He should be outside being active with other kids, not playing games inside your house

2 - Your sister in law shouldn't be playing video games while watching your kid

3 - If your kid is that spoiled to not be able to handle a simple grounding for 4 or 5 hours, you have problems

Hahahah thats awesome!!!:D

Wow.

My 12 year old son got his PS3 taken away for one bad grade until the grade changed. Too much gaming. Not enough homework.

Needless to say, next report card showed all of his grades up. Only then was the console returned.

No games for an entire month as punishment? HA! What does that prove?

Should be no games until further notice. Maybe forever.

*magic 8 ball sez - "I see felonies in the future"

If some one was sitting there playing a game I wanted to play saying "Nope you dont get to play this, only I get too" Id be pissed too. Maybe the babysitter should have turned off the game and done something with him for a while.

IDK what to say about this.

My son has been banned from his PS3 before for bad grades and behavior...but he has never destroyed any of my belongings.

That, my friend, would be grounds for a major ass beating.

For you to say that you are banning him from the PS3 for a month for his terrible behavior? That is a joke.

I would have banished him for LIFE from gaming, not a month. You seem like either a major pushover or someone who just does not want to deal with the increase whining that your son will now be doing.

I remember (since I am old, well-- relative to most of you guys) that parents would take the belt out on their kids for crap like this.

Thanks for sharing. If you're on a forum asking how should you discipline him, maybe you don't need to have kids.

Kage1

couldnt have said it better

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Gee thanks! I wasn't asking how to discipline him.

CBottom7

I think you asked what his punishment should be, so I am guessing that is the same thing ...

1 - He should be outside being active with other kids, not playing games inside your house

2 - Your sister in law shouldn't be playing video games while watching your kid

3 - If your kid is that spoiled to not be able to handle a simple grounding for 4 or 5 hours, you have problems

2 & 3 are spot on. He does get to play with other kids, he has a bad temper when he doesn't get what he wants. He often acts out against other kids as well. He's shattered an Ipod touch when he had it and his mom asked for it back he went up to the corner of our wood TV stand and smashed the glass screen into it. He has broken 2 Nintendo DS's by throwing them when people have needed them back. I've asked my wife and her sister not to give him these kinds of things because he'll break them because of his unwillingness to listen or give them back when it's time. The other problem is that Moses my wife's siter's son that lives with us is a bad example and she doesn't take an active role in disciplining him when he is out of line and my son then thinks that since he gets away with bad behavior then why shouldn't I get away with it too? So now I have to step in and do what I can to stop both of their bad behavior. The tough part is where do I step in and where do I go to Moses mother? Moses has broken many things as well and his mother doesn't punish him for it. Moses has broken our cupboard door, put several holes in walls, broken a ceiling fan and 2 couches. They both just seem to not have the respect towards others or for things in general as they should have. My wife and I are very good examples and very good people and it's like it's a big game to them no matter how much they get in trouble or talked to they continue the bad behavior.

IDK what to say about this.

My son has been banned from his PS3 before for bad grades and behavior...but he has never destroyed any of my belongings.

That, my friend, would be grounds for a major ass beating.

For you to say that you are banning him from the PS3 for a month for his terrible behavior? That is a joke.

I would have banished him for LIFE from gaming, not a month. You seem like either a major pushover or someone who just does not want to deal with the increase whining that your son will now be doing.

I remember (since I am old, well-- relative to most of you guys) that parents would take the belt out on their kids for crap like this.

danjammer69

I kicked his ass as well. I just didn't think it appropriate to mention. The other problem is my wife is too soft on him and her sister is too soft on both of them and I'm left to enforce things.

Thanks for you guy's input. I think you're both in line with what I'm thinking as well. I do believe that both of them are too spoiled with things and they aren't respectful towards the people providing them the good things in life.

How old is he to be doing this much damage? And you're allowing him still to be near technology? After the ipod or the first, never mind the second DS is where you should've drawn the line. Maybe you should get him tested psychology if he is showing this much anger, aggression, and destruction at such a young age.

Either that or he is just the most spoiled pathetic brat in the world and needs a huge eye opener and kick in the ass

Gee thanks! I wasn't asking how to discipline him.

clr84651

wow. If my son did this I'd abort him.

How old is he to be doing this much damage? And you're allowing him still to be near technology? After the ipod or the first, never mind the second DS is where you should've drawn the line. Maybe you should get him tested psychology if he is showing this much anger, aggression, and destruction at such a young age.

Either that or he is just the most spoiled pathetic brat in the world and needs a huge eye opener and kick in the ass

phantom_blade66

It's both I believe. Also Moses displays much of the same traits and he's 12. I have kicked my son's butt after each time he has broken things and it doesn't seem to work long term.

wow. If my son did this I'd abort him.

PreparationH123

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How old is he to be doing this much damage? And you're allowing him still to be near technology? After the ipod or the first, never mind the second DS is where you should've drawn the line. Maybe you should get him tested psychology if he is showing this much anger, aggression, and destruction at such a young age.

Either that or he is just the most spoiled pathetic brat in the world and needs a huge eye opener and kick in the ass

clr84651

It's both I believe. Also Moses displays much of the same traits and he's 12. I have kicked my son's butt after each time he has broken things and it doesn't seem to work long term.

As much as we keep saying "kick in the ass" and everything, physical punishment is not gonna work in the long run. I know its just pure anger being let out towards him for doing something wrong, trust me I would be just as tempted to. But if he's getting the idea to respond to violence with violence, well thats just a vicious cycle. I seriously say look into a specialist or counseling to see if anything is wrong. But besides that I agree with the other post on togive him more chores, take away less perks in life. He needs to be thankful for the life he's got, make him realize that.

he has serious anger management issues, or he does not understand the value of all of the stuff he breaks. please tell me that he had to pay for his second ds if he intentionally broke the first one, he would be in debt to me for a long time...

I'd make him pay for it. The problem in this day and age is kids (lots of "adults" too) don't understand the value of a dollar. I'd say after working for 1-2 years to save up $2400 he'd think twice about damaging something again.

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Gee thanks! I wasn't asking how to discipline him.

shaunchgo

Whether or not we allow him to have these things or not he still finds ways to act out with his temper. It's a temper and stubborn issue and getting him to think differently so he can better handle things better is the problem for both him and Moses. They both get out of control and break things, it's just that Moses breaks things in a different fashion.

How would you go about punishing him? Easy, no TV for a month.

I'd make him pay for it. The problem in this day and age is kids (lots of "adults" too) don't understand the value of a dollar. I'd say after working for 1-2 years to save up $2400 he'd think twice about damaging something again.

i_am_the_slime

I would if I could. He has no way of making money as he's too young.

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I'd make him pay for it. The problem in this day and age is kids (lots of "adults" too) don't understand the value of a dollar. I'd say after working for 1-2 years to save up $2400 he'd think twice about damaging something again.

clr84651

I would if I could. He has no way of making money as he's too young.

Sounds like a lot of chores are in his future ;)

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I'd make him pay for it. The problem in this day and age is kids (lots of "adults" too) don't understand the value of a dollar. I'd say after working for 1-2 years to save up $2400 he'd think twice about damaging something again.

i_am_the_slime

I would if I could. He has no way of making money as he's too young.

Sounds like a lot of chores are in his future ;)

edit: better yet go smash one of his objects... lol i kid, though it would feel great.

he has serious anger management issues, or he does not understand the value of all of the stuff he breaks. please tell me that he had to pay for his second ds if he intentionally broke the first one, he would be in debt to me for a long time...

dalscowboys22

The first DS we bought him. The second one my sister in law that lives with us let him use hers and he broke it. And he has serious anger management issues.No matter how much we work with him it continues and he doesn't understand the value of all the stuff he breaks either. You'd think that how upset we all get each time and how he gets his butt kicked hard each time that it would sink in and he'd quit, but no!

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I would if I could. He has no way of making money as he's too young.

dalscowboys22

Sounds like a lot of chores are in his future ;)

I totally agree with this! Now I have to stop my wife and my sister in law that lives with us from giving him these things and that's difficult. I am going to give my best effort to do this.

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Sounds like a lot of chores are in his future ;)

I totally agree with this! Now I have to stop my wife and my sister in law that lives with us from giving him these things and that's difficult. I am going to give my best effort to do this.

Sometimes you just gotta go old school and beat that kind of behaviour out of your kids. :P

I would have made him work it off, doing chores and getting a paper route or what not. And until it is paid off no video games at all.

being in my 30's and also working in child care for several years, i might have a sloution for this. many have already stated great ideas. especially the one about chores and pointing out the value of things. aside from a good old-fashioned beatdown, take away ALL toys and priveleges. not just video games. nothing i mean NOTHING in his room. not even allowed to read. leave him with his thoughts to discover what a mega a-hole he is being. let him know regularly that you are upset with this behavior not just when its too late. if there is more lashing out and physically bad behavior, take what is dear to him, and break it right in his face. i know this seems childish and over the line, but it is sometimes the only way to get your point across to a child is by showing them exactly what theyre doing and how it is direspectful.

if none of this works, anddamian still has issues with breaking things...duct tape boxing gloves on him so he cant grab things to break or use a game controller. and at least hell be prepared for the forthcoming confrontation. truly sorry about your tv and your dilemma.

I'd get him a nice 12" black and white TV and that would be his gaming rig until he got old enough to move out. He wouldn't have much fun with it though because he'd likely never regain the use of his fingers.

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How old is he to be doing this much damage? And you're allowing him still to be near technology? After the ipod or the first, never mind the second DS is where you should've drawn the line. Maybe you should get him tested psychology if he is showing this much anger, aggression, and destruction at such a young age.

Either that or he is just the most spoiled pathetic brat in the world and needs a huge eye opener and kick in the ass

phantom_blade66

It's both I believe. Also Moses displays much of the same traits and he's 12. I have kicked my son's butt after each time he has broken things and it doesn't seem to work long term.

As much as we keep saying "kick in the ass" and everything, physical punishment is not gonna work in the long run. I know its just pure anger being let out towards him for doing something wrong, trust me I would be just as tempted to. But if he's getting the idea to respond to violence with violence, well thats just a vicious cycle. I seriously say look into a specialist or counseling to see if anything is wrong. But besides that I agree with the other post on togive him more chores, take away less perks in life. He needs to be thankful for the life he's got, make him realize that.

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He's very-very-very stubborn so much as to the degree I have only seen in my father and no one else in my life. In fact the punishment given to him affects him very little, no matter how severe. I'd say over 99.99% of all kids given the punishments I have given him would've stopped the behavior immediately and never done it again.

My son just shattered my 65 inch TV screen and they don't make replacements for it. It was a $2400 TV. If this happened to any of you what would your punishment be to him? He shattered it because he got grounded from playing video games for the rest of the day about 5pm on for the day. My wife and I went out and when we came back he had shattered it by throwing a heavy object at it as hard as he could. My sister in law was watching him and playing a game and he wanted to and she said that he couldn't for the rest of the night. Any way I just wanted to share and see your responses.

clr84651

I've already decided on it. I just was curious what other people would do. It's 30 days no games for him and for my nephew that lives with me for the way they've both been acting.

clr84651

How old is he? (sorry if I missed it in previous posts)

Sounds like soon, you will be dealing with the cops as he goes out into the world and does his thing.

Who has payed for all his broken toys is the past? If it were me, no more!

Sorry to hear about the TV.

he's TWELVE and did that? if it was my kid, he'd be spending any and all free time for the next year either doing homework or any chores/physical work I can come up with for him. and when he's legally allowed to work, I make him get a job and pay for a sizable portion of it. it may sound like i'm being a hard-ass, but it'll teach the kid respectstarwarsjunky

I'd make him pay for ALL of it.

You keep giving your son these pieces of electronics knowing that when he's mad he destroys them purposely? If he were my child he wouldn't be getting any more electronics that's for sure. 2 DS's, an Ipod and your tv. That kid needs to have his *** beat that's for sure.

[QUOTE="starwarsjunky"]he's TWELVE and did that? if it was my kid, he'd be spending any and all free time for the next year either doing homework or any chores/physical work I can come up with for him. and when he's legally allowed to work, I make him get a job and pay for a sizable portion of it. it may sound like i'm being a hard-ass, but it'll teach the kid respectRusteater

I'd make him pay for ALL of it.

For the price of the TV, the punishment needs to extend more than 30 days. Gaming would be done for indenfinitely in my house. Chores added, toys taken away, other privileges limited or taken away as well.

Although, based on the information you have provided, he probably needs some professional help. I hope that he gets it, and your house is still standing before you do. It will also probably help your sanity...At thisrate it sounds like your son is just being setup for rough times ahead.

I've already decided on it. I just was curious what other people would do. It's 30 days no games for him and for my nephew that lives with me for the way they've both been acting.

clr84651

Have him appear before a judge on the charge of destruction of private property...if that doesn't scare him into proper behavior, then you do have a problem on your hands.:P

He broke your $2400 TV? Well, here's what I would do if that happend to me: When mine leaves for college or the military, I'm going to buy him a car. If my son broke my value-x TV I would take the amount of the TV out of how much I would spend on his first car. For the short term, he would not be allowed to use the TV for any purpose outside of school and he would be piled up with chores for myself AND neighbors for an entire summer. If he doesn't feel like doing it for an entire summer, that's cool. No gaming for him till he moves out for college or the military.

This would be best suited for Ot, but anyways. If he throws little fits like that over just getting grounded and breaks extremely expensive TVs then he needs to be severely disciplined, like grounded for at least a month of two from everything, and you should make him pay for all or some of it, or work off the debt by doing multiple hard and strenuous chores around the house until the grounding is over. Breaking pieces of technology that are worth $2400 isn't an effective way to manage anger and he needs to be severely punished.