[QUOTE="OldTopics"]Ya its really just that my mom thinks im a loser and shes always saying why dont you do something with your friends? I dont mind that much but aparently she doesbloodling
Tell her that you play with them online, that's what the cool kids do now.
haha believe it or not if im playing xbox and i say 'oh ya im playing with so and so..." shes like "fine" but when Im like 'ya no ones online" shes like "well why dont you call someone then?"
Ya its really just that my mom thinks im a loser and shes always saying why dont you do something with your friends? I dont mind that much but aparently she does
[QUOTE="jalexbrown"]Okay, he changed it...so I guess now it's time to offer some real advice. (Sorry to take the wind out of the sail, people.) Anyways, I don't see anything wrong with being a loner. Well, it really depends actually: are you a loner by choice, or are you a loner because you need to learn social skills? The former is okay; the latter not so much. I'm a loner - I have exactly two good friends, each living over 75 miles away from me - and I see nothing wrong with it, because the fact that I'm mostly alone hasn't influence the success of my life in a negative way. So if the case is that you COULD make friends, but being a loner is a choice, keep on truckin' pal. If you're a loner because you lack or need to refine your social skills, then I'd recommend that you actually make the effort; having friends isn't essential to success in life, but having social skills are essential. If it really is that you just need to develop your social skills, what I suggest you do is just walk up and talk to people; pick one, any one, they're all as good. The idea of just walking up and talking to strangers might sound like it would be awkward, but once people try doing it their anxiety usually fades. And watch the other person's reactions when you do it; at first you might notice people are uncomfortable when you just walk up and start chatting, but eventually you'll notice that people are more and more comfortable when you do so. That's one aspect of social skills: the ability to have conversations with people you don't know. I have decent social skills, its really just that I cant think of anything to talk about with people
So I'm a sophmore guy and I have a decent number of people I can sit with at lunch and work on projects with, but no one to hang out outside of school. I ave a few good friends in the grade below me and they say if I talked more everyone would love me. I'm apparently pretty funny around them but I really just can't think of anything to talk about with people. When I can think of something I talk to them about it but it will never escalate to a good friendship. I don't care too much about this but my mom always tells me to go outside or something( I don understand this because I workout often and I'm in good shape- not fat or anything) or call some friends. I think I would enjoy having more friends but I really just can't think of much to talk about. And please don't say to join clubs or something because I already do 1 sport for school and I'm not doing any others. I also don't talk to girls because again, I truly can't think of anything to talk about. Any tips? Thanks
If there's one thing you must learn in life, it's that no matter how stupid you think you look, 95% of people probably wouldn't even notice. The things we see wrong with ourselves are probably never noticed by other people at all. And if they are, they probably don't care.cjek
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