Return of the depressing thread: Share your life problems!

Pretty much every aspect of my life is problematic.

I feel like I ate too much.

I think I'm lez and have no clue how to tell my bf or anyone else for that matter.

I think I'm lez and have no clue how to tell my bf or anyone else for that matter.

soulwithin465

2. he'll lke it trust me.

i have to lose 11lbs in 2 days for a wrestling tournament

Honestly I do not know how my life could get much worse. I have spent my entire youth jumping around from place to place. I have never stayed in the same community for more that 6ish months. I just started going to a new school about a week ago. There are there are these bullies at school who have been trying to pick fights with me all week. One day they decided to wait for me after school. They attacked me at the basketball court, a whole swarm of them, and I got it one little fight and my mom got scared and said you're movin to you auty and uncle's in bel-air

I don't know how it could get much worse.

I am very, very fat and very, very ugly. I also can't quit smoking, and may have to drop out of school because of money problems. Beyond that, life is okay.

heysharpshooter

dude, quit smoking.

I just did, been over it 8 days now, and it makes a world of difference. Its like a dominoe effect; you get more energy, you can work more, things taste better, you can do more cardio

it will help with the other things in youre life. Oh and havng an extra 50 bucks or so per month (dependings on how much and what you smoke) is nice too

Well, after high school all my friends went away to college and I stayed home to go to community college, leaving me with no friends around. Since then (Year and a half) I have broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years, not made a single friend at CC, failed to save my neighbor's from their burning house and saw 3 of them die, have been doing terrible in school despite me making Dean's List all last year, and somebody randomly broke all the windows in my car to steal the watch my ex gave me for our 1 year.

Oh well

I haven't played sport seriously for over a year now which is the first time in around 9 years. Pretty much ever since I moved school the sport curriculum is quite different from my old school so Im not really good at anything my new school has to offer. Doesn't sound like a big deal, infact its probably quite small compared to other things in life, but it just makes me feel useless seeing as sport was one of my main passions and now its bascially been taken away from me now. My grades while not bad also aren't particularly great (usually straight B's) so it also gives me the feeling that Im not really good at anything.

The fact that I am also 1 of only 2 australians in my grade of roughly 130 people also makes me feel quite homesick at times.

I failed my driving test today. I moved to uni, only to find out the town I live in now is a bigger cesspit than the town i used to live in, and that's saying something.

My life is pretty good though can't really complain too much.

[QUOTE="Mercenary848"]

Also I stubbed my toe :cry:

Ouch. 3 out of 10.

Ok, I'll keep it blunt, so I don't have a panic attack. I was raped by 4 guys when I was 13. I'm 19 now, and I told my parents about it in July. I've been in therapy, and was just diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and have to go on meds and stay in therapy until I can overcome it. I have panic attacks about four times a week, and I haven't slept a full night without nightmares in 6 years.

On top of it, I just passed a kidney stone, and have hundreds more producing in my kidneys. Then the doctors found a non cancerous mass on my ovary that I have to have removed in two weeks. So I'll be bedridden for Christmas.

I guess that's all I want to complain about.

Honestly I do not know how my life could get much worse. I have spent my entire youth jumping around from place to place. I have never stayed in the same community for more that 6ish months. I just started going to a new school about a week ago. There are there are these bullies at school who have been trying to pick fights with me all week. One day they decided to wait for me after school. They attacked me at the basketball court, a whole swarm of them, and I got it one little fight and my mom got scared and said you're movin to you auty and uncle's in bel-air

I don't know how it could get much worse.

I've got financial issues, relationship issues, health issues, and a mixed bag of other crap to deal with. Plus, I live in a wretched hive of scum and villainy. :(

[QUOTE="Esmenet"]

[QUOTE="12345678ew"] if you don't like anime and your not all depressed, you should be able to have most of the guys at your school..... your a way to have videogames and a girlfriend. and almost all guys play videogames.Mercenary848

Not having a boyfriend can be a blessing and a curse. At least you still have the choice and can still respect yourself. You are probably an amazing person, but don't have the confidence to let others see it in you. Believe me, it is a working progress. You are a gem (being a girl gamer myself, I can say that) and once you realize that, you will be on your way. Self image is the first step. And don't worry about not having a boyfriend. You don't need one. Your grades aren't good, work on that first. It's all about the little steps. As far as friends, you only need one or two to start, the rest will follow. You need to focus on school, then on friends, then on boyfriends. You already have a hobby, so continue with it. Play video games, and don't be afraid to talk about them. Or, try to find another hobby to help you make friends. Good luck, and just remember you aren't worthless and that any guy would love to have you.

It is nice how your level nickname is mediator and you are giving some of the best advice in the thread

I noticed that too. How ironic. And thanks. I try my best. It makes me feel good to help out other people. And these days, I need to feel good about myself.

Well, after high school all my friends went away to college and I stayed home to go to community college, leaving me with no friends around. Since then (Year and a half) I have broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years, not made a single friend at CC, failed to save my neighbor's from their burning house and saw 3 of them die, have been doing terrible in school despite me making Dean's List all last year, and somebody randomly broke all the windows in my car to steal the watch my ex gave me for our 1 year.

Oh well

BPoole96

I'm sorry doesn't cut it, and I don't believe in god so I can't pray for you, but I will say that time will make things better. I feel ya on the community college. I had to go to one because my mom got laid off, and I have no friends around either. I'll try not to bore you with the typical girlfriend crap, but just don't do anything stupid (i don't know how upset you are about the break up) that could wind up making you feel worse. There are plenty of girls out there, and right now,it looks like you need to think more about you than about getting a girlfriend. Watching someone die is a trauma. You should keep an eye out to make sure you don't wind up with symptoms of PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) and you should try to find someone to talk to about it. I'm assuming you're a guy, and guys don't like to be emotional, so you may think you're doing ok, but you could be compartmentalizing your emotions. And I don't think you're doing well in school because your mind is too focused on other things. Maybe try to make a schedule up for yourself, like spending at least an hour on school a day, and a couple hours with your family, or trying to make friends, or even just doing something you love. As for the car, I hope you have a job.

Either way, I hope you start to feel better soon. Sorry if none of that helped.

I think I'm lez and have no clue how to tell my bf or anyone else for that matter.

soulwithin465

Do not take this the wrong way. How old are you? Age can be a huge thing with orientation crises. If you're young, chances are it is a phase, and you should look at yourself seriously and figure out if it's worth breaking up with your bf for. Either way, if it is something serious, you need to run with it. Try going on a break with your bf, and start talking to girls, see what happens. If you are older, then you may need to think through it more thoroughly. If you think you're a lesbian, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but you will need to tell your bf, because he deserves to know. Who knows, maybe the idea of an open relationship would be appealing to him. Good luck.

Wow you guys have some serious stuff going on, I hope you all are able to work them out.

• I am on a wrestling team and the stress is kind of getting to me, not to mention a lot of hardships the team is going through
• I weigh 159 pounds and have to lose 7 by Wensday
• School is exausting me
• Need a job
• I have been feeling kind of world weary and am getting kind of annoyed waiting for my chance to branch out into the world(Gradguation day)
• Anxiety and I can fall into minor depression spells(I know things will get better)
• I over think things and that causes me to dwell on stuff or not let things go

Anyway some of my challenges.

Mercenary848

A few things. If you already know them, discontinue my advice. For stress: Sleep, sleep and more sleep. The best way to reduce stress is sleeping. Secondly, don't let school get to you. If you're in highschool, you're in luck. It doesn't matter as much as you think it does. Don't over stress yourself on things that aren't life and death matters. Looking for a job sucks, but don't be lazy about it. Really go out and try. And don't get discouraged when you don't get hired, the fact that you're trying is enough. As for branching into the world, your time will come, don't freak about it now, wait for graduation. It helps if you have a solid plan though. Thinking about what you're going to do with your life may make you feel excited rather than anxious.

On to anxiety. Sleep helps a lot with anxiety, as well as eating regularly, and doing relaxig activities. Stress causes anxiety and vice versa. If it's serious and interfering with your life, see a therapist and maybe get on some low dose MAOs, (anti depressants). They will help a lot in the long run.

You should write in a journal. It's the best way to help overthinkers stop thinking. When you put your thoughts on paper, it can help get them out of your consciousness and into your subconscious. Good luck to you!!

I hate my university course, and as such have no idea what to do with my life, and have no real motivation to actually work out what I want to do. I'm single, lonely, and have self-confidence issues when it comes to women, so that won't change soon either. I'm beginning to wonder why anyone likes me, since I'm such a dick most of the time. Worst of all, I can't think of anything that makes any of this bearable.

I'm lucky I have a laid-back mental attitude to my life or it really would be unbearable.

OK, I'll throw in my problems:

I'm too anti-social, for some reason I'm really scared of heavily social situations. Also, I'm trying to get sober, and that's been causing some mental issues as well. Right now I'm at an impasse in my life, and these are the two things that are causing the most stress. And what better way to get them off my chest than the anonymity of the internet?

There's a girl that I like who I'm pretty sure doesn't like me and I don't know what to do to make things move forward.

OK, I'll throw in my problems:

I'm too anti-social, for some reason I'm really scared of heavily social situations. Also, I'm trying to get sober, and that's been causing some mental issues as well. Right now I'm at an impasse in my life, and these are the two things that are causing the most stress. And what better way to get them off my chest than the anonymity of the internet?

Shiggums

That really sucks dude. I'm also using the internet to relieve my stress.

[QUOTE="jubino"]

Me and my girl hooked up about three weeks ago and it's been shaky from the start. She dumped her bf and wanted to start dating like 4 days later. Bad idea. Now I'm stuck at home and she's going to go play music in our band back home with her ex. We were officially bf/gf for 7 days before he came to see both of us and ruined that. We're still dating, but I feel like that could change at any given moment.

GazaAli

Okay OT, instead of posting a new topic I figure id just post this question here which slightly related to the topic, advice would be nice.

So, my best friend for 4 years met a girl a couple months ago in new hampshire. They 'fell in love' (my cynic in me coming out) and now hes gonna move up there and they are getting married. this is the girls first boyfriend and both of them have alot of maturing to do. The guy(my best bud) has been facing acusations of gold-digging (she is incredibly rich, good for him) and being a dumb guy and going around trying to get in bed with other women. She is, how do i say this...smitten? She literally devotes every sentance to him, lies at his feet, ya'know? It is clear what could happen: hes probably gonna go all the way up there, screw up his education and then...oh wait, it turns out we are both to immature and not ready for the relationship and then he is gonna wanna come back and he is simply not gonna have a place to live. And you know, im fine with all that, cause im the type of guy, that just walks around, hears gossip and says, "hey, Its really not my place" But the problem is all my friends and his friends and now even his family are coming up to me, saying "your his best friend talk him out of it"

This is what I need advice on, people. Its not a big deal, im sure I can handle it myself but any personal experiences or ideas would be helpfull.

I am the starting varsity QB on my HS football team, yet I am the biggest loser in my school. I have absolutely lost my personality; I never joke around, and barely talk to anybody. I have no friends whatsoever; I eat alone everyday during lunch in a room, studying for AP Calculus class that I am struggling to pass.

Also, there's this girl. I have liked her for EVER. I mean she's the most beautiful girl in the school, and she's popular and funny, s well as optimistic and overall a fun person to be around. I could never even dream about getting with her, but I recently find out that she really likes me. I still can't believe it. I've talked to her, but I've been really inconsistent. One day we'll hit it off, one day we won't even talk. I'm just worried that I'm about to blow up my chance with the girl of my dreams ('ve only had one gf before. She was really pretty too, but unsurprisingly, I was lame and never made any moves, so she got bored and dumped me). I can't have the same thing happen with this girl I like right now. Worst of all, even if I do get with her, she's moving to a different state in about 9 months for college, so our relationship would likely be over in 9 months tops.

Anyways, I'm going to spend the rest of this night mustering up the courage to ask her out tomorrow, which I already know won't happen...

The brakes on my Jeep went out and I'm lonely as hell.

Bloodaxe726

I'm 30. I currently live with my aunt and uncle. I just totalled my car on the way to work, in the first winter storm of the season. Physically I'm fine... But everything else in my life just seems like a mess right now.

but I mind that people nailing me to the cross because they do not understand that.Diablo112688

they all lied when they said said it would be fine.Diablo112688

I am 20 years old and I have never had a girlfriend in my life or anything close to the sort. I am a short, not particularly good-looking, atheist with the most boring major ever known to man(Accounting) living in the Bible Belt of the South. I've also spent thousands of dollars on apparel and tickets for the Mets only to see them sink deeper and deeper into mediocrity over the past three years. And finals are creeping up for my classes and I haven't studied very much yet.

I am 20 years old and I have never had a girlfriend in my life or anything close to the sort. I am a short, not particularly good-looking, atheist with the most boring major ever known to man(Accounting) living in the Bible Belt of the South. I've also spent thousands of dollars on apparel and tickets for the Mets only to see them sink deeper and deeper into mediocrity over the past three years. And finals are creeping up for my classes and I haven't studied very much yet.

metswonin69

Okay OT, instead of posting a new topic I figure id just post this question here which slightly related to the topic, advice would be nice.

So, my best friend for 4 years met a girl a couple months ago in new hampshire. They 'fell in love' (my cynic in me coming out) and now hes gonna move up there and they are getting married. this is the girls first boyfriend and both of them have alot of maturing to do. The guy(my best bud) has been facing acusations of gold-digging (she is incredibly rich, good for him) and being a dumb guy and going around trying to get in bed with other women. She is, how do i say this...smitten? She literally devotes every sentance to him, lies at his feet, ya'know? It is clear what could happen: hes probably gonna go all the way up there, screw up his education and then...oh wait, it turns out we are both to immature and not ready for the relationship and then he is gonna wanna come back and he is simply not gonna have a place to live. And you know, im fine with all that, cause im the type of guy, that just walks around, hears gossip and says, "hey, Its really not my place" But the problem is all my friends and his friends and now even his family are coming up to me, saying "your his best friend talk him out of it"

This is what I need advice on, people. Its not a big deal, im sure I can handle it myself but any personal experiences or ideas would be helpfull.

TheNomad1375

getting stuck in the middle of your friends problems is never fun. I will tell you from personal experience that you are probably right about what is going to happen to your friend. However, you're right, it's not your place to go at him if everyone else is already. Let my clarify, as a friend you should tell your friend that you think he's making a mistake, but at this point in his relationship with this girl, he's not going to listen to you. What you should do instead is say something like "hey man, good luck with all of this. I have your back no matter what happens, and I hope she turns out to be the girl you've always wanted. If you need anything, let me know". Guy it up however you'd like, but that's what I'd say roughly. As for everyone else getting on your back about it, you need to tell them to back off. Tell them it doesn't matter if you're his best friend: he's an adult and no amount of your talking to him is going to change his decision at this point. I hope that helps. Good luck to both of you. Ugh.

OK, I'll throw in my problems:

I'm too anti-social, for some reason I'm really scared of heavily social situations. Also, I'm trying to get sober, and that's been causing some mental issues as well. Right now I'm at an impasse in my life, and these are the two things that are causing the most stress. And what better way to get them off my chest than the anonymity of the internet?

Shiggums

There are better ways to help get things off your chest. Being scared of social situations isa common thing. It can sometimes be overcome by easing yourself into situations that you could potentially be comfortable with, and working from there. Anti-social is something that goes hand in hand with being afriad of social sitiations. I don't know what you are trying to sober up from, but if it's alcohol, this could really help you. If you make an effort to change one aspect of your life that you aren't necessarily afraid of, it will be easier to change other aspects. Plus, this will give you more confidence in yourself. Do you have any friends you can talk to that could help you out? You could hang with them and one or two people you don't know, and slowly you will become more at ease with yourself and others.

As for the mental issues caused by sobriety, its a one day at a time thing. Even if it wasn't an addiction, something familiar can be hard to get rid of. Best of luck. Remember that every day counts, and try to keep your mind busy so you don't focus on how much you want what you are giving up.

[QUOTE="GazaAli"][QUOTE="jubino"]

Me and my girl hooked up about three weeks ago and it's been shaky from the start. She dumped her bf and wanted to start dating like 4 days later. Bad idea. Now I'm stuck at home and she's going to go play music in our band back home with her ex. We were officially bf/gf for 7 days before he came to see both of us and ruined that. We're still dating, but I feel like that could change at any given moment.

GulliversTravel

I am the starting varsity QB on my HS football team, yet I am the biggest loser in my school. I have absolutely lost my personality; I never joke around, and barely talk to anybody. I have no friends whatsoever; I eat alone everyday during lunch in a room, studying for AP Calculus class that I am struggling to pass.

Also, there's this girl. I have liked her for EVER. I mean she's the most beautiful girl in the school, and she's popular and funny, s well as optimistic and overall a fun person to be around. I could never even dream about getting with her, but I recently find out that she really likes me. I still can't believe it. I've talked to her, but I've been really inconsistent. One day we'll hit it off, one day we won't even talk. I'm just worried that I'm about to blow up my chance with the girl of my dreams ('ve only had one gf before. She was really pretty too, but unsurprisingly, I was lame and never made any moves, so she got bored and dumped me). I can't have the same thing happen with this girl I like right now. Worst of all, even if I do get with her, she's moving to a different state in about 9 months for college, so our relationship would likely be over in 9 months tops.

Anyways, I'm going to spend the rest of this night mustering up the courage to ask her out tomorrow, which I already know won't happen...

thequietguy

You're not going to like the news flash I have to give you, but you need to hear it. High school doesn't matter. At all. Seriously, you will go back to your reunion one day and see that some of the most popular kids in school are totaly d***** bags, and haven't done anything with their lives. You can't let popularity and the sects of HS dictate what you do with your time.

However, it seems you have some other underlying issues. I'm no psychologist, but I do know a lot about this kind of thing. (It comes from being messed up. :P) You say that you have lost your personality, and that you have no interest in things like joking around. Let me ask you this: do you enjoy being alone, reading and thinking? Even if you do, it's still a sign of minor depression. Loss of interest, or personality changes can be a sign that your brain is not running the same way it used to, and this can be affected by your environment, aka high school drama. Try to make an effort to talk to someone, lets say this girl you like. Do not worry at all about blowing your chance, or about never having a girlfriend. That doesn't matter. Being happy is what matters. And if you really like hanging out with her and aren't just going after her because she's pretty and popular, than this could really help you. Focus on things you have in common, and building a steady relationship first. Don't just ask her out and then work from there. Let her know you have an interest in her, and that you'd like to get to know her before you start dating. She should be flattered that you are taking the time out to make her more than just a girl on your arm at school. Also, high school relationships don't last 80% of the time. Don't get me wrong, there are those high school sweethearts that stay together, but high school relationships are supposed to be about testing and experimenting and having fun. It's your time to make mistakes and figure out what type of person you'd like to spend the rest of your life with. Don't think about how long it will last, just run with it, and have fun. And if it really is a great realtionship, distance won't matter. If you think it is, and turns out distance changes things, then just consider it a lesson learned.

But think hard about your tendency to push people away, and the image you have of yourself. You just need a confidence booster, and she could help you.

I'm nineteen years old & I've never kissed a girl

& I have no friends ..

somebody play a god damn violin.

I'm nineteen years old & I've never kissed a girl

& I have no friends ..

somebody play a god damn violin.

soren008

Erm other then that i cant find a cool girl that would go out with me (typical :D) i have 8 tests from now till xmas...
Other then that im okay... Im going to a big concert tommorow, i got a 2 out of 5 in german (last year i barely passed, now i have a 3/5 and a 2/5 :D), school is going nice, i dont have any addictions or anything :D

[QUOTE="soren008"]

I'm nineteen years old & I've never kissed a girl

& I have no friends ..

somebody play a god damn violin.

GazaAli

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It feels like I am preparing to enter a world that will not exist. That sums up me 100%