should i be mad at him?

I don't drink, or go to parties, but my best friend does. She was at a party with a guy who I'm not exactly going out with, but it's obv we like each other. I mean we're up til 5 every night on the phone, we say I love you to each other, yeah you get theee point. Anyway, they got drunk, and she told me he was trying to have sex with her. Undressing her, kissing her. She had to basically pry him off her. When I heard this I was shocked, didn't sound like a thing he'd do. But I guess you don't have control when you're drunk? Anyway, he never told me, she told me all this. He's not acting any different. They're still good friends. I'm mad at him, I can't even imagine that. I love him so much I just don't want to picture his hands on another girll...ehrr...

Anyway, should I be mad? Should I not talk to him for a while? I don't know what to do, I don't know how people are when they're drunk. I mean, if she hadn't done anything and he did have sex with her..thank god it didn't get that far.

I'm coming to you guys because my best friend told me not to tell anyone or bring it up with people I know, ESPECIALLY him.

Alright.

So..should I just forget this happened? Let it go?

I know he's going to party like every weekend and she said she wouldn't get drunk around him anymore but I DOUBT that.

This may not sound like a big deal to all of you, but it's making me pissed.

If you guys were an officially an item... then yeah be mad at him. But you're not ... all the calls and the "I love you"'s when you guys weren't dating were all there to get into your pants. I really don't get why people give up so much for people they are not together with. He got a relationship out of you without being in a relationship. If your friend is being really honest about all this... I ask how many girls does he really hook up with after he is done whispering sweet nothings to you. Sajedene

No I know he isn't the kind of guy who says certain things just to have sex with me. We used to be on and off dating, and he's liked ooonly me since last year til now.

Be mad at him. The "I was drunk" excuse is BS and if you let him get away with it once he'll do it again.

So he smashed the homies huh. If you're not a couple, don't sweat it. There's a plenty out there even here on GameSpot. Who ever that rebound will be is a lucky person.

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]If you guys were an officially an item... then yeah be mad at him. But you're not ... all the calls and the "I love you"'s when you guys weren't dating were all there to get into your pants. I really don't get why people give up so much for people they are not together with. He got a relationship out of you without being in a relationship. If your friend is being really honest about all this... I ask how many girls does he really hook up with after he is done whispering sweet nothings to you. tepni

No I know he isn't the kind of guy who says certain things just to have sex with me. We used to be on and off dating, and he's liked ooonly me since last year til now.

Dammit. And I really liked him, too..

I saw him first time today since I heard about the party. He looked so happy to see me..ugh. And my friends are always saying how he talks about me constantly when I'm not around. Why would he do this..

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]If you guys were an officially an item... then yeah be mad at him. But you're not ... all the calls and the "I love you"'s when you guys weren't dating were all there to get into your pants. I really don't get why people give up so much for people they are not together with. He got a relationship out of you without being in a relationship. If your friend is being really honest about all this... I ask how many girls does he really hook up with after he is done whispering sweet nothings to you. tepni

No I know he isn't the kind of guy who says certain things just to have sex with me. We used to be on and off dating, and he's liked ooonly me since last year til now.

Give Gamespot his address.

Well teach him a lesson for ya.:twisted:

You should go out to the parties and drink with him, make it happen.

Lets see...there is a drunk where you dont make good decisions but still know what you are doing and then there is a drunk where your to wasted to even do anything. So lets see...he knew what he was doing, and it doesn't sound like this is a healthy relationship anyways. Plus why arn't you hanging out with him at these parties anyways? Its obviously not "guy night" if there are other girls there.

I don't drink, or go to parties, but my best friend does. She was at a party with a guy who I'm not exactly going out with, but it's obv we like each other. I mean we're up til 5 every night on the phone, we say I love you to each other, yeah you get theee point. Anyway, they got drunk, and she told me he was trying to have sex with her. Undressing her, kissing her. She had to basically pry him off her. When I heard this I was shocked, didn't sound like a thing he'd do. But I guess you don't have control when you're drunk? Anyway, he never told me, she told me all this. He's not acting any different. They're still good friends. I'm mad at him, I can't even imagine that. I love him so much I just don't want to picture his hands on another girll...ehrr...

Anyway, should I be mad? Should I not talk to him for a while? I don't know what to do, I don't know how people are when they're drunk. I mean, if she hadn't done anything and he did have sex with her..thank god it didn't get that far.

I'm coming to you guys because my best friend told me not to tell anyone or bring it up with people I know, ESPECIALLY him.

Alright.

So..should I just forget this happened? Let it go?

I know he's going to party like every weekend and she said she wouldn't get drunk around him anymore but I DOUBT that.

This may not sound like a big deal to all of you, but it's making me pissed.

tepni

I'm sorry this happened and that you're dealing with this junk. I don't drink or 'party' myself, just so you know, but I know some of the drama that comes with that stuff. First off, it's a shame that he wouldn't make you his girlfriend officially or show more committment to you considering how close you seemed to be. I think that a guy who loves you and wants to be with you will make it perfectly clear if he wants you all to himself. He hasn't done that with you, so how serious is he? Secondly, if he regularly drinks and gets drunk at parties, he's setting him self up for stupid drunken behavior and that drama that comes with it. Drunkeness isn't an excuse or free pass of any kind. It says a lot about a person when they're willing to put themselves in that situation repeatedly. He went for another girl (your best friend) and you two aren't even dating [yet]. Can't wait to see how he'd treat you if you were in an official relationship! No offense, but you probably wouldn't be welcome to accompany him to parties... I wonder why... Third, it is a BAD sign that your best friend is still friends with him. This means she has no problem that he hit on her or with him in general. BAD sign. And of course she doesn't want you to talk about it with anyone. Look how she's handling it.

Okay that was long. Point is- let him go and keep your eye on her. Her loyalty is questionable at this point and he's already causing you drama and hurting you and you're not even dating! I wouldn't let him get that far considering he's a blithering idiot when he gets drunk, which he's clearly keen on getting.

I wish I was old enough to enjoy these experiences...

I need some french cries...:cry:

I wish I was old enough to enjoy these experiences...

I need some french cries...:cry:

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming.

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

tepni

I wish I was old enough to enjoy these experiences...

I need some french cries...:cry:

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming.

tepni

[QUOTE="tepni"]

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming.

Avistann

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

tepni

[QUOTE="tepni"]

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

Tiefster

[QUOTE="tepni"]

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

Tiefster

Haha..yeah. Mainly he doesn't tell me because he wants me to think of him as a good guy, who doesn't drink, because he knows I don't go with that scene so..yeah. Still. I'm done with him. This'll be hard, ignoring him and not being able to tell him why..

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

Maybe he's just not into you. You can always do better.

Haha..yeah. Mainly he doesn't tell me because he wants me to think of him as a good guy, who doesn't drink, because he knows I don't go with that scene so..yeah. Still. I'm done with him. This'll be hard, ignoring him and not being able to tell him why..

tepni

[QUOTE="Tiefster"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

Haha..yeah. Mainly he doesn't tell me because he wants me to think of him as a good guy, who doesn't drink, because he knows I don't go with that scene so..yeah. Still. I'm done with him. This'll be hard, ignoring him and not being able to tell him why..

wait...if you knew the guy you liked was going to the party...why didnt you just go with him? i mean, it makes sense.... anywho, i'd bring it up soon, because it's going to build it up and blow up in your face..KGB32

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Tiefster"]I notice a lot of my girl friends need to hear the truth from another guy because very often guys put up a front to act like prince charming. I'd say that him not telling you when he drinks or gets drunk is also a sign of shady activity. I mean when I get hammered I call people I am dating, want to date, have dated etc to let them know how awesome and drunk I am and to drunkenly tell them how I feel.Coffee_Blade

Haha..yeah. Mainly he doesn't tell me because he wants me to think of him as a good guy, who doesn't drink, because he knows I don't go with that scene so..yeah. Still. I'm done with him. This'll be hard, ignoring him and not being able to tell him why..

Doing so I'd lose my best friend. Bad bad bad. I can't. He doesn't keep anything secret either. I think he's attracted to drama but he's always complaining about it..

[QUOTE="KGB32"]wait...if you knew the guy you liked was going to the party...why didnt you just go with him? i mean, it makes sense.... anywho, i'd bring it up soon, because it's going to build it up and blow up in your face..tepni

[QUOTE="Coffee_Blade"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Haha..yeah. Mainly he doesn't tell me because he wants me to think of him as a good guy, who doesn't drink, because he knows I don't go with that scene so..yeah. Still. I'm done with him. This'll be hard, ignoring him and not being able to tell him why..

Doing so I'd lose my best friend. Bad bad bad. I can't. He doesn't keep anything secret either. I think he's attracted to drama but he's always complaining about it..

[QUOTE="Coffee_Blade"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Haha..yeah. Mainly he doesn't tell me because he wants me to think of him as a good guy, who doesn't drink, because he knows I don't go with that scene so..yeah. Still. I'm done with him. This'll be hard, ignoring him and not being able to tell him why..

tepni

Doing so I'd lose my best friend. Bad bad bad. I can't. He doesn't keep anything secret either. I think he's attracted to drama but he's always complaining about it..

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="KGB32"]wait...if you knew the guy you liked was going to the party...why didnt you just go with him? i mean, it makes sense.... anywho, i'd bring it up soon, because it's going to build it up and blow up in your face..Tiefster

If he goes to many parties, his behavior is bound to repeat multiple times. I think you should move on past him before you get hurt again.Avistann

Sorry, but he sounds like a total douche. Based on his actions when he was drunk.

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Coffee_Blade"] You should tell him why. be like, "You got drunk and tried to screw my best friend. You're obviously not the guy i thought you were."Sajedene

Doing so I'd lose my best friend. Bad bad bad. I can't. He doesn't keep anything secret either. I think he's attracted to drama but he's always complaining about it..

She doesn't want to make a big deal out of it. idk, she has trust issues with me. Everything she told me NOT to tell him, I'd go and tell him anyway. So basically if I brought it up she'd be so pissed and would NOT be my friend anymore. and I can't lose her. she's still friends with him, because, word for word, "he didn't know what he was doing, he was drunk."

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Doing so I'd lose my best friend. Bad bad bad. I can't. He doesn't keep anything secret either. I think he's attracted to drama but he's always complaining about it..

tepni

She doesn't want to make a big deal out of it. idk, she has trust issues with me. Everything she told me NOT to tell him, I'd go and tell him anyway. So basically if I brought it up she'd be so pissed and would NOT be my friend anymore. and I can't lose her. she's still friends with him, because, word for word, "he didn't know what he was doing, he was drunk."

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Doing so I'd lose my best friend. Bad bad bad. I can't. He doesn't keep anything secret either. I think he's attracted to drama but he's always complaining about it..

tepni

She doesn't want to make a big deal out of it. idk, she has trust issues with me. Everything she told me NOT to tell him, I'd go and tell him anyway. So basically if I brought it up she'd be so pissed and would NOT be my friend anymore. and I can't lose her. she's still friends with him, because, word for word, "he didn't know what he was doing, he was drunk."

When you are drunk your true emotions uncover.

In his mind, he wanted to have sexual intercourse with your friend since the day he met her.

The only person who you need to talk to is the guy who did it. If/when he apologizes, analyze what he says and how he's acting when talking to you. That will let you know how sincere he is. If he doesn't recognize that what he did was wrong then he isn't worth any girl's time.

She doesn't want to make a big deal out of it. idk, she has trust issues with me. Everything she told me NOT to tell him, I'd go and tell him anyway. So basically if I brought it up she'd be so pissed and would NOT be my friend anymore. and I can't lose her. she's still friends with him, because, word for word, "he didn't know what he was doing, he was drunk."

tepni

Kick him in the testicles and see what happens.

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Sajedene"] What I want to know is why your best friend wont let you confront him about this? Why are they still friends if he tried... so to say... RAPE her? AAllxxjjnn

She doesn't want to make a big deal out of it. idk, she has trust issues with me. Everything she told me NOT to tell him, I'd go and tell him anyway. So basically if I brought it up she'd be so pissed and would NOT be my friend anymore. and I can't lose her. she's still friends with him, because, word for word, "he didn't know what he was doing, he was drunk."

i cant talk to her about it now, cuz shes WITH him right now with other people..about to go to a party. wow, you know what? fck my life. the people i love are..constantly hurting me and not even realizing it because they have alchohol to blame. screw them all.