should i be mad at him?

[QUOTE="WhiteSnake5000"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming.

Sajedene

I'm not saying everyone who parties is bad, dont get me wrong.

Alright. I'm goinnng out. Dad is finally asleep. Wish me luck. I'll update asap.

I wish more people who don't party realize that not everyone who parties or drinks are bad people. Just like how not everyone who doesn't party or drink doesn't = loser with no friends. Sajedene

You're not going out with him, so I don't think you should be mad at him. Perhaps just upset with him?

All this drama, and now you're sneaking out of the house to hang out with the 2 of them? You're young... I guess you need to learn some lessons the hard way. Eventually you'll get to an age where you will stop the drama that comes your way instead of participating in it.

Sounds like he presents an image you want to see. Not the sort of person I'd be interested in dating if I were a gal.

pianist

A female pianist? Foxhound would be reaaaaal happy. :P

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]If you guys were an officially an item... then yeah be mad at him. But you're not ... all the calls and the "I love you"'s when you guys weren't dating were all there to get into your pants. I really don't get why people give up so much for people they are not together with. He got a relationship out of you without being in a relationship. If your friend is being really honest about all this... I ask how many girls does he really hook up with after he is done whispering sweet nothings to you. tepni

No I know he isn't the kind of guy who says certain things just to have sex with me. We used to be on and off dating, and he's liked ooonly me since last year til now.

Alright, me and her talked and she said he never brought it up with anyone or with her because he really regrets it.. she said he loves me a lot and wish he hadn't done that. And tonight was really fun, SOBER fun. I'm really happy right now. And I guess that's what matters, I can deal with crap later. There's always going to be some sort of drama tagging along, but for now I like the way things are. Seeing him is enough to keep me satisfied.

I wish more people who don't party realize that not everyone who parties or drinks are bad people. Just like how not everyone who doesn't party or drink doesn't = loser with no friends. Sajedene

Drop him like a bad habit. Being drunk doesn't excuse you from your actions. I have done plenty of things that I regret while drunk, BUT I still knew I was doing them at the time. Oh, and if you guys are not together, then it shouldn't be too hard to not bother with him anymore.

You don't have much reason to be mad at him because you're not a couple but you have the right to be upset. I say try to forget about the guy, he can easily do that again and it'll make you feel worse. He doesn't sound like he'd make a good BF.

It's none of your business.....she stayed friends with him and it's actually between the two of them.

Yeah, steer clear. If he's going to do it once, he can do it any number of times.

Don't be so forgiving when he puts on the nicey-nicey facade. I've seen too many girls do that so many times; it's crazy how many times you see a really nice girl going around with a complete moron of a guy who screws her over at every opportune moment. Yet she STILL sticks with him because she's too forgiving and somehow manages to find asinine reasons as to why his behaviour could possibly be excusable. "How on Earth does a girl like THAT end up with a guy like THAT?". That question graces me with its saddening presence far too many times.

Drunk or not, he has to take responsibility for his actions. If you cannot trust him now, I seriously doubt you could ever trust him in the future. Dump his lame, juvenile, drunk-loving ass and get someone who TRULY values your company and affection, and not that of your best friend.

I'll be blunt, all the back and forth on the phone between you 2 was just smoke and mirrors to get in your pants. When it didnt progress past the "we arent really going out but obviously like each other" phase he gave up and tried to get it from somewhere else.

Sucks but its true. Forget it and move on.

I don't drink, or go to parties, but my best friend does. She was at a party with a guy who I'm not exactly going out with, but it's obv we like each other. I mean we're up til 5 every night on the phone, we say I love you to each other, yeah you get theee point. Anyway, they got drunk, and she told me he was trying to have sex with her. Undressing her, kissing her. She had to basically pry him off her. When I heard this I was shocked, didn't sound like a thing he'd do. But I guess you don't have control when you're drunk? Anyway, he never told me, she told me all this. He's not acting any different. They're still good friends. I'm mad at him, I can't even imagine that. I love him so much I just don't want to picture his hands on another girll...ehrr...

Anyway, should I be mad? Should I not talk to him for a while? I don't know what to do, I don't know how people are when they're drunk. I mean, if she hadn't done anything and he did have sex with her..thank god it didn't get that far.

I'm coming to you guys because my best friend told me not to tell anyone or bring it up with people I know, ESPECIALLY him.

Alright.

So..should I just forget this happened? Let it go?

I know he's going to party like every weekend and she said she wouldn't get drunk around him anymore but I DOUBT that.

This may not sound like a big deal to all of you, but it's making me pissed.

tepni

Im trying not to sound like i pig when i say this but honestly if you arent supplying him with what he needs physically ( being an official couple or not) you cant reasonably be upset when he gets it somewhere else.

I guess im biased though, i had a girlfriend a few years ago who sort of shutdown sexually after a while. She didnt seem at all interested in making sure i was satisfied but went ballistic when i got it from somewhere else.

I dont even know how old you are though so suggesting that its your fault for not being sexually active with him might be misinformation.

Right, let me get this straight. This boy you like, tried to get it on with your friend. You dont like that because you like him. And now your finding out all sorts of dirt on him.

Judging by the replys. This guys sounds like an douche. I've been plastered before and I still have control and not come on to girls even though I like them. The whole "I was drunk sorry" excuse is complete BS. You can do so much better.

If he was drunk it wasn't his fault. I'm sure your friend was trying to hook up with him just as much as he was with her.

Im trying not to sound like i pig when i say this but honestly if you arent supplying him with what he needs physically ( being an official couple or not) you cant reasonably be upset when he gets it somewhere else.

I guess im biased though, i had a girlfriend a few years ago who sort of shutdown sexually after a while. She didnt seem at all interested in making sure i was satisfied but went ballistic when i got it from somewhere else.

I dont even know how old you are though so suggesting that its your fault for not being sexually active with him might be misinformation.

Alter_Echo

Well, I'm only 15. I'm not going to have sex with him.

[QUOTE="Alter_Echo"]

Im trying not to sound like i pig when i say this but honestly if you arent supplying him with what he needs physically ( being an official couple or not) you cant reasonably be upset when he gets it somewhere else.

I guess im biased though, i had a girlfriend a few years ago who sort of shutdown sexually after a while. She didnt seem at all interested in making sure i was satisfied but went ballistic when i got it from somewhere else.

I dont even know how old you are though so suggesting that its your fault for not being sexually active with him might be misinformation.

Well, I'm only 15. I'm not going to have sex with him.

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Alter_Echo"]

Im trying not to sound like i pig when i say this but honestly if you arent supplying him with what he needs physically ( being an official couple or not) you cant reasonably be upset when he gets it somewhere else.

I guess im biased though, i had a girlfriend a few years ago who sort of shutdown sexually after a while. She didnt seem at all interested in making sure i was satisfied but went ballistic when i got it from somewhere else.

I dont even know how old you are though so suggesting that its your fault for not being sexually active with him might be misinformation.

Morning_Revival

Well, I'm only 15. I'm not going to have sex with him.

Okay, I have a message I'm about to send him. I want some approval first?

"i know its gonna sound like drama right when i say..
dont tell her im saying any of this to you. i really dont want drama, i just have to bring this up. and if you do, she really won't be my friend anymore. and i wont be able to talk to you either. anyway..she told me something because she knew i needed to know.. and idk why you wouldnt tell me. i mean whether its really bad or not, it helps me gain trust with you if youre able to tell me these things. and you have to promise me you wont tell her i told you this stuff, i dont want to lose her as a best friend. but what she told me, i cant forget about just like that. no matter what, dont bring it up. please. i have to get this off my chest..

she called me, and told me about how you guys were really drunk. and you were trying to have sex with her. i dont know if shes exaggerating or not, but why would she start off by saying 'i dont even know if im a virgin anymore'

i just want to hear it from you
and dont use 'i was drunk' as an excuse.."

I would be mad because he could have lied to you and he is cheating on you so yeah I would be mad.

Why do you care about feelings? It will not give you hapiness anyway...

By the way, you can't demand anything from someone. There will always be a reason why someone will do your way or what you want, you only need to take into consideration that this doesn't mean he will be forced to do thing the way you want.

So stop screwing around peoples who obviously use you as an object and just spit on everything that doesn't make any sense. That way you are going to be able to preserve the most important thing in any human being life, self-respect.

Wow, this is suprising. :roll:

A 15 year old trying to get some ass.

Just forget the boy and move on.

Wow, this is suprising. :roll:

A 15 year old trying to get some ass.

Just forget the boy and move on.

Optical_Order

Well, he's 17 actually : p

tell him to go take a long walk down a short pier;)awesomeray

^ ^ ^

I need some feedback on that message I needa send :S

This all doesn't matter. Just got off the phone with my best friend. She told me about how emotionally attached he is to me, like crossing the line attached, he's kind of insane. I noticed it before but she told me all the things he worries about. Whenever I leave he's stressing about what happened when we hung out. Or last night when I was like "let's go pick up Andrew!", he was all quiet and later when I left he was talking about me and how he was all worried me and Andrew would start liking each other. And how at the party my best friend wanted to take a picture with him but he didn't want to because he thought I'd see it and assume they were going out. Last night when I left he also said, "I have a feeling she doesn't like me. Our whole relationship is just stress," which pisses me off because I didn't make it this way. Being emotionally attached this much is a huge turn off. He over analyzes things I say on aol isntant messenger too, like say if I were to write a one word reply later he'd go to his friends and say that I was acting weird or mad at him. ANYWAY, overall I think i fell in love with his personality rather than how he acts around me and others. He is kind of selfish. The whole night he was acting like he wasn't having a good time because he had a feeling I didn't like him. Everyone else was enjoying themselves. So tonight, I'll call him and let him know since he can't take hints, I DO NOT LIKE him. And that message is definitely not being sent any longer, because I don't even care anymore. He's obsessed with me and it's..not healthy. It'll be doing him a favor because apparently I just stress him out. I took him off my top (on myspace..) the night before we hung out and he freaked out over that. But of course not to me, he never confronts me, he goes to someone else to worry and complain.

/done

Wow look how quickly you don't like him anymore, beginning of the thread you were saying you'd take him back in a heartbeat....AAllxxjjnn

This all doesn't matter. Just got off the phone with my best friend. She told me about how emotionally attached he is to me, like crossing the line attached, he's kind of insane. I noticed it before but she told me all the things he worries about. Whenever I leave he's stressing about what happened when we hung out. Or last night when I was like "let's go pick up Andrew!", he was all quiet and later when I left he was talking about me and how he was all worried me and Andrew would start liking each other. And how at the party my best friend wanted to take a picture with him but he didn't want to because he thought I'd see it and assume they were going out. Last night when I left he also said, "I have a feeling she doesn't like me. Our whole relationship is just stress," which pisses me off because I didn't make it this way. Being emotionally attached this much is a huge turn off. He over analyzes things I say on aol isntant messenger too, like say if I were to write a one word reply later he'd go to his friends and say that I was acting weird or mad at him. ANYWAY, overall I think i fell in love with his personality rather than how he acts around me and others. He is kind of selfish. The whole night he was acting like he wasn't having a good time because he had a feeling I didn't like him. Everyone else was enjoying themselves. So tonight, I'll call him and let him know since he can't take hints, I DO NOT LIKE him. And that message is definitely not being sent any longer, because I don't even care anymore. He's obsessed with me and it's..not healthy. It'll be doing him a favor because apparently I just stress him out. I took him off my top (on myspace..) the night before we hung out and he freaked out over that. But of course not to me, he never confronts me, he goes to someone else to worry and complain.

/done

I'm not here to give advice to you about life but grant that when you come here for personal advice give it a second thought. People on here can be sincere or sound sincere and have the underlined goal of destruction. Just saying.

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"]Wow look how quickly you don't like him anymore, beginning of the thread you were saying you'd take him back in a heartbeat....tepni

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"]Wow look how quickly you don't like him anymore, beginning of the thread you were saying you'd take him back in a heartbeat....AAllxxjjnn

[QUOTE="tepni"]

Thank you. Wow. And I don't go to these parties, because I'm not going to drink! So why go! It's a bunch of girls acting like sluts basically, laughing really hard blurting out weird things, driving around to random people's houses...not my scene. He also doesn't let me know he drinks. I had to find it out from other people. He doesn't want me thinking of him as that kind of guy..pff. Ugh. But honestly, he really DOESNT seem like that kind of guy! To do this, its abusrd. Do a lot of girls say that? But really..didn't see this coming with him.

Tiefster

have dated etc to let them know how awesome and drunk I am and to drunkenly tell them how I feel.

yo (puts his hand up) im doing that now not the telling them how drunk i am but flirting etc, in fact ive gotta go....

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"]Wow look how quickly you don't like him anymore, beginning of the thread you were saying you'd take him back in a heartbeat....tepni

[QUOTE="tepni"]

This all doesn't matter. Just got off the phone with my best friend. She told me about how emotionally attached he is to me, like crossing the line attached, he's kind of insane. I noticed it before but she told me all the things he worries about. Whenever I leave he's stressing about what happened when we hung out. Or last night when I was like "let's go pick up Andrew!", he was all quiet and later when I left he was talking about me and how he was all worried me and Andrew would start liking each other. And how at the party my best friend wanted to take a picture with him but he didn't want to because he thought I'd see it and assume they were going out. Last night when I left he also said, "I have a feeling she doesn't like me. Our whole relationship is just stress," which pisses me off because I didn't make it this way. Being emotionally attached this much is a huge turn off. He over analyzes things I say on aol isntant messenger too, like say if I were to write a one word reply later he'd go to his friends and say that I was acting weird or mad at him. ANYWAY, overall I think i fell in love with his personality rather than how he acts around me and others. He is kind of selfish. The whole night he was acting like he wasn't having a good time because he had a feeling I didn't like him. Everyone else was enjoying themselves. So tonight, I'll call him and let him know since he can't take hints, I DO NOT LIKE him. And that message is definitely not being sent any longer, because I don't even care anymore. He's obsessed with me and it's..not healthy. It'll be doing him a favor because apparently I just stress him out. I took him off my top (on myspace..) the night before we hung out and he freaked out over that. But of course not to me, he never confronts me, he goes to someone else to worry and complain.

/done

Hockey_Slayer

Thanks..well..I don't even understand myself.

It's amazing how everyone on OT takes a thread like this so seriously but when it's a guy needs help with a girl thread they completey trash him.:lol:

Amazing what an avater can do.

It's amazing how everyone on OT takes a thread like this so seriously but when it's a guy needs help with a girl thread they completey trash him.:lol:

Amazing what an avater can do.

muffincakes87

They get slammed because supposidly we are not supposed to show any sign of sensitivity.