should i be mad at him?

It's amazing how everyone on OT takes a thread like this so seriously but when it's a guy needs help with a girl thread they completey trash him.:lol:

Amazing what an avater can do.

muffincakes87

[QUOTE="muffincakes87"]

It's amazing how everyone on OT takes a thread like this so seriously but when it's a guy needs help with a girl thread they completey trash him.:lol:

Amazing what an avater can do.

javelin121

They get slammed because supposidly we are not supposed to show any sign of sensitivity.

But when it comes to girl help we must earn some brownie points. Am I right?:roll:

I'm not trying to start anything, I'm just stating the obvious.

[QUOTE="javelin121"]

[QUOTE="muffincakes87"]

It's amazing how everyone on OT takes a thread like this so seriously but when it's a guy needs help with a girl thread they completey trash him.:lol:

Amazing what an avater can do.

muffincakes87

They get slammed because supposidly we are not supposed to show any sign of sensitivity.

But when it comes to girl help we must earn some brownie points. Am I right?:roll:

I'm not trying to start anything, I'm just stating the obvious.

Your right. Same thing for girls, they're supposed to be sensitive and want help from people so no one really sees something wrong with it. There is nothing wrong with asking for help; What I said earlier was just a precautionary statement.

[QUOTE="muffincakes87"]

[QUOTE="javelin121"]

They get slammed because supposidly we are not supposed to show any sign of sensitivity.

javelin121

But when it comes to girl help we must earn some brownie points. Am I right?:roll:

I'm not trying to start anything, I'm just stating the obvious.

Your right. Same thing for girls, they're supposed to be sensitive and want help from people so no one really sees something wrong with it. Although there is nothing wrong with asking for help. What I said earlier was just a precautionary statement.

I know some people just want to help her out because it is an intresting story and it is OT.

But we all know if her avater was just blank and stayed blank while posting this topic, this thing wouldn't be 8 pages long.

Do not understand you women.AAllxxjjnn

[QUOTE="javelin121"]

[QUOTE="muffincakes87"]

But when it comes to girl help we must earn some brownie points. Am I right?:roll:

I'm not trying to start anything, I'm just stating the obvious.

muffincakes87

Your right. Same thing for girls, they're supposed to be sensitive and want help from people so no one really sees something wrong with it. Although there is nothing wrong with asking for help. What I said earlier was just a precautionary statement.

I know some people just want to help her out because it is an intresting story and it is OT.

But we all know if her avater was just blank and stayed blank while posting this topic, this thing wouldn't be 8 pages long.

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"]Do not understand you women.tofu-lion91

[QUOTE="muffincakes87"]

[QUOTE="javelin121"]

Your right. Same thing for girls, they're supposed to be sensitive and want help from people so no one really sees something wrong with it. Although there is nothing wrong with asking for help. What I said earlier was just a precautionary statement.

javelin121

I know some people just want to help her out because it is an intresting story and it is OT.

But we all know if her avater was just blank and stayed blank while posting this topic, this thing wouldn't be 8 pages long.

Yeah there nothing wrong with posting in this thread at all.

I just think it's funny how this thread like this works.

Dammit. And I really liked him, too..

I saw him first time today since I heard about the party. He looked so happy to see me..ugh. And my friends are always saying how he talks about me constantly when I'm not around. Why would he do this..

tepni

[QUOTE="javelin121"][QUOTE="muffincakes87"]

I know some people just want to help her out because it is an intresting story and it is OT.

But we all know if her avater was just blank and stayed blank while posting this topic, this thing wouldn't be 8 pages long.

muffincakes87

Yeah there nothing wrong with posting in this thread at all.

I just think it's funny how this thread like this works.

Well thanks for helping, no matter what the reason.

Your Welcome.

[QUOTE="Morning_Revival"][QUOTE="tepni"]

Well, I'm only 15. I'm not going to have sex with him.

tepni

Okay, I have a message I'm about to send him. I want some approval first?

"i know its gonna sound like drama right when i say..
dont tell her im saying any of this to you. i really dont want drama, i just have to bring this up. and if you do, she really won't be my friend anymore. and i wont be able to talk to you either. anyway..she told me something because she knew i needed to know.. and idk why you wouldnt tell me. i mean whether its really bad or not, it helps me gain trust with you if youre able to tell me these things. and you have to promise me you wont tell her i told you this stuff, i dont want to lose her as a best friend. but what she told me, i cant forget about just like that. no matter what, dont bring it up. please. i have to get this off my chest..

she called me, and told me about how you guys were really drunk. and you were trying to have sex with her. i dont know if shes exaggerating or not, but why would she start off by saying 'i dont even know if im a virgin anymore'

i just want to hear it from you
and dont use 'i was drunk' as an excuse.."

That is pretty good. Your a very pretty girl and im sure someone would love to date you other than the guy that you liked or used to like. Like others have said there is many fish in the sea. 15 is a pretty young age to date though aswell, not many 15,16,17 year olds really understand love and its wonders. But anyways if i were you i would just go on and just continue to talk to him and hang out and do what you all did before. Try finding another boyfriend so this guy dosent get completly attached and go physco.

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Morning_Revival"]Good, keep that mentality. Im sick of seeing 14 and 15 year olds at my school that are pregnant.Roxas12934

Okay, I have a message I'm about to send him. I want some approval first?

"i know its gonna sound like drama right when i say..
dont tell her im saying any of this to you. i really dont want drama, i just have to bring this up. and if you do, she really won't be my friend anymore. and i wont be able to talk to you either. anyway..she told me something because she knew i needed to know.. and idk why you wouldnt tell me. i mean whether its really bad or not, it helps me gain trust with you if youre able to tell me these things. and you have to promise me you wont tell her i told you this stuff, i dont want to lose her as a best friend. but what she told me, i cant forget about just like that. no matter what, dont bring it up. please. i have to get this off my chest..

she called me, and told me about how you guys were really drunk. and you were trying to have sex with her. i dont know if shes exaggerating or not, but why would she start off by saying 'i dont even know if im a virgin anymore'

i just want to hear it from you
and dont use 'i was drunk' as an excuse.."

That is pretty good. Your a very pretty girl and im sure someone would love to date you other than the guy that you liked or used to like. Like others have said there is many fish in the sea. 15 is a pretty young age to date though aswell, not many 15,16,17 year olds really understand love and its wonders. But anyways if i were you i would just go on and just continue to talk to him and hang out and do what you all did before. Try finding another boyfriend so this guy dosent get completly attached and go physco.

I sent it..

I don't even want a relationship right now : s

and in reply he said..

"stephanie
im so sorry
i know that 'i was drunk' is a f***ing stupid excuse, but i really did drink a lot, and i really don't even remember a lot of the night. because of this, im not even going to drink anymore. ever. i like you so much. all weekend i could only talk to them about you. and to be honest, it sounds terrible, but i dont even have feelings for her. thats why i wish none of that sh*t even happened. she is exaggerating a little.. and she makes it sound like it was me that started it, but really.. she did things too. i dont know how you'll forget about this, or forgive me, and maybe you wont, but i really didnt want that to happen. asdkffjaskdjf. i hate myself for it. i wasn't trying to have sex with her.. i told her no when it came to that point, and pushed away. and then when i'd push away, she'd come back towards me.

and really, none of that was what i wanted to happen.

i dont know what to say.
im f***ing stupid, and i didn't mean to hurt you.
me and her talked about how it really meant nothing, and that we don't want to drink together, ever again. im just really sorry, and i know that you probably don't have any trust for me at all anymore.i'm also not saying it was just her..
and blaming it all on her
because it was 50/50

i just don't want you to think that's what i wanted

i have more control over myself than that
and the guilt is reallly just killing me. i really wanna be able to call you mine, and be able to say that i'm yours cause i really don't want anyone else. the fact that happened with her is so god damn awkward because she's one of my best friends. and i do NOT want to do stuff like that with her.
but im going to work
still reply though :/

i really was going to tell you
i was just waiting for the right time i guess, i was just scared. and i really wish you didnt find out about it like this. and i wanna call you once im off work so we can talk.."

convincing, no?

He went partying last night, right? Do you know if drank at all? AAllxxjjnn

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"]He went partying last night, right? Do you know if drank at all? tepni

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"]He went partying last night, right? Do you know if drank at all? AAllxxjjnn

Alright. Will do.

1. It kinda sounds like your friend likes this kid so you should see about that...

2. the "i was drunk" sounds real fake and dumb but sometimes it is true...

3. be mad if ya want but thats not gonna help solve anything...gotta make sure he knows how ya feel

and 4. you def should try drinking sometime lol....

4. you def should try drinking sometime lol....

Tombomb003

[QUOTE="Tombomb003"]

4. you def should try drinking sometime lol....

tepni

well im just sayin....it's fun, AND you get to see if his excuse is legit or not...

[QUOTE="tepni"][QUOTE="Tombomb003"]

4. you def should try drinking sometime lol....

Tombomb003

well im just sayin....it's fun, AND you get to see if his excuse is legit or not...

the only time ill ever drink is when im with just my girl friends.

well i say that now..

[QUOTE="Tombomb003"]

[QUOTE="tepni"]hahah..nice onetepni

well im just sayin....it's fun, AND you get to see if his excuse is legit or not...

the only time ill ever drink is when im with just my girl friends.

well i say that now..

ya just gotta try it one time. see what its about, THEN decide if ya wanna again or not....and i think you will

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]If you guys were an officially an item... then yeah be mad at him. But you're not ... all the calls and the "I love you"'s when you guys weren't dating were all there to get into your pants. I really don't get why people give up so much for people they are not together with. He got a relationship out of you without being in a relationship. If your friend is being really honest about all this... I ask how many girls does he really hook up with after he is done whispering sweet nothings to you. Sajedene

No I know he isn't the kind of guy who says certain things just to have sex with me. We used to be on and off dating, and he's liked ooonly me since last year til now.

Lol, wow saje, way to tell it like it is!

Sorry to tell ya babe, but if you aren't "officially" a couple then you don't have much of a reason to be mad. If he wanted to be exclusive then you would know it. He more than likely wants to keep a casual or "open" relationship, meaning he wants to date you while still going after everything that catches his eye.

Oh, and just a little piece of advice for you, I hope that when you say you don't party or drink that doesn't mean you don't do other fun things. You're in high school, it should 4 of the best 8 years of your life (others being college). Believe me I'm 23, and I miss all the fun I had in high school with all my friends that I hardly see anymore. Take advantage of the time you have, which is what I've been trying to tell my 15 year old brother because he is super shy.

What a good looking question. Honestly I would be slightly aggrivated if my girlfriend did that but then again whenever she or I get drunk, we don't go off trying to sleep with other people.

yes, this question is quite handsome.

talkin on the phone doesnt mean a damn thinglivemhafool

I think most of the population is too immature to date till at least 21.

[QUOTE="Tombomb003"]

[QUOTE="tepni"]hahah..nice onetepni

well im just sayin....it's fun, AND you get to see if his excuse is legit or not...

the only time ill ever drink is when im with just my girl friends.

well i say that now..

Trust me, that'll change at about your Junior or Senior year.

Give em a break, getting really trashed its easy to mess up like that. I've been there. I'm sure he feels guitly as hell so he doesent wanna say anything. Take it from someon who's had a little experience in the area...

I would forgive him. For one, there is no point in holding a grudge. And alcohol does this...I would know. If you want to get serious with this guy (as in a real mutual relationship) just talk to him about it..

[QUOTE="livemhafool"]talkin on the phone doesnt mean a damn thingtepni

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="livemhafool"]talkin on the phone doesnt mean a damn thinglivemhafool

Unless you read what he's been saying to me or listen to our phone calls or see us when we're hanging out, you'd think just the opposite. The other day he even said "I don't even see why we're not going out". so.

Whoa! My sister is getting pretty popular here! :o

Ew, your friends are interesting tep, that's for sure. :)

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Tombomb003"]

well im just sayin....it's fun, AND you get to see if his excuse is legit or not...

ImaPirate0202

the only time ill ever drink is when im with just my girl friends.

well i say that now..

Trust me, that'll change at about your Junior or Senior year.

[QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

[QUOTE="tepni"]

the only time ill ever drink is when im with just my girl friends.

well i say that now..

Rikusaki

Trust me, that'll change at about your Junior or Senior year.

Yay pj :)

[QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

[QUOTE="tepni"]

the only time ill ever drink is when im with just my girl friends.

well i say that now..

Rikusaki

Trust me, that'll change at about your Junior or Senior year.

[QUOTE="Rikusaki"][QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

Trust me, that'll change at about your Junior or Senior year.

tepni

Yay pj :)

[QUOTE="Rikusaki"][QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

Trust me, that'll change at about your Junior or Senior year.

AAllxxjjnn

[QUOTE="AAllxxjjnn"][QUOTE="Rikusaki"] I'm a senior and I promised myself to never drink, smoke, do drugs or even get myself started on energy drinks. ;)Rikusaki

[QUOTE="tepni"]

[QUOTE="Rikusaki"] I'm a senior and I promised myself to never drink, smoke, do drugs or even get myself started on energy drinks. ;)Rikusaki

Yay pj :)

talkin on the phone doesnt mean a damn thinglivemhafool