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[QUOTE="leviathan91"] Again, there are differences between men and women and there are certain expectations and norms that come with being a man or a woman. leviathan91
When I say justified, I mean: do you consider it morally correct or commendable to label a woman a 'slut' for having sex? I am not asking if there are, in fact, double standards. I know there are. I am not asking if there should be laws to protect or do away with standards.As for the ease with which people can have sex, let me grant your assumption. Let's say I agree that women can have sex more easily than men can. Would this make it worse for a woman to have sex than for a man? Why? Does this same rule apply to different members of the same sex? If it's really easy for a charming guy who works out a bunch to have sex, and really hard for an obese dude with little to no social graces, should we look down on the charming guy for having more sex than the other guy? Why? Why would these rules not apply for things outside of sex?
If a man did it with everything that moved, from a fugly teacher to some mentally retarded chick, I'd consider him a manwhore simply because he has no standard or integrity. If it makes you feel any better, no, I don't think it's right to label a woman a "slut" for having sex but that usually depends on the type of woman we're dealing with. Not all men and women are the same. All have different stories, we all have different expectations and standards of what we want, and we all have mistakes. Again, that depends on the person regardless of gender.
As for the ease of having sex, it was to answer the TC's topic. Men put more effort in achieving what they want where as women don't but, again, that's not always the case. Sometimes women work their asses off (no that's now what I mean, really) to make a guy like her. I know, because I've seen it firsthand. As for that charming guy, most men would certainly envy him where as some don't. Again, that depends.
But there's cultural context to consider. For one, 'manwhore' is generally considered joking, or a good thing. A manwhore is also a pimp. A player. A baller. Someone in this thread used the word 'Casanova.' Guys WANT to be that guy. It's a badge of honor. Not so with a 'slut.' That is a pejorative. A slur. No one (outside of a small group of feminists doggedly trying to reclaim that word) wants to be called or considered a slut. A slut is inferior. A slut is debased. With that term comes judgment and stigmatization, and though dudes on the internet love to laugh and tell girls to suck it up and get over it, it's not that easy. Being ostracized never is. We would never tell a black kid who was being bullied for eating chicken to suck it up, or get over it. Why do we care so little about women who choose to exercise sexuality and are punished for it? You say that you don't think it's right to label a woman a 'slut,' but then you include caveats. It apparently 'depends on the type of woman we are dealing with.' Can explain that? Can you tell me when it becomes okay to ostracize a woman and call her a slut? Why does this vary from person to person? And going back to my question before, why would the ease with which a person has sex influence whether or not a person should be condemned and labeled for having sex? People seem to think this argument is self evident, but it really isn't.
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