[QUOTE="Buffalo_Soulja"]

How does valuing confidence make someone shallow? That's such a defeatist attitude. Do you really expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself?

Look dude the reason that jerks are sucessful with meeting is women because they are actually putting themselves out there. Meanwhile guys with decent values like yourself sit at home and wait for women to come to you. You need confidence to be able sell to women your honesty, compassion etc.

biggest_loser

Yeah but what is a positive way to put yourself out there? Like if you go up and talk to a girl they normally just answer your questions and then don't say anything else even when you ask them something about themselves. 

Clubs?! Ha! Forget it mister!!

I hate clubs and bars as well. Just not my scene.

Meeting through friends and at parties I think is the best way. If you don't have enough friends then expand your social circle by picking up new hobbies, which in itself could give you more confidence.

[QUOTE="pianist"]

Look, a person will either be interested in you for who you are or not interested. Don't try to be something you're not - because unless you want to be something you're not for the rest of your life, there's no point starting a relationship with an incompatible partner. Want to find love? Then look for opportunities to spend time with people who share your interests and passions and communicate with them. Things are just so much easier when you start on common ground. And you'll appear much more appealing to another person if he or she likes what you like and agrees with your philosophies.

Don't fret over this. There are more important things in life than hooking up. And ironically, hooking up tends to become an easier proposition when you stop caring so much about it. People (girls in particular) are quite good at sensing desperation, and that's a big turn-off to most people. Try too hard to force a spark, and you'll probably just scare the object of your affection.

Rekunta

That's good advice, but it's coming from someone who has confidence. I don't try to be something I'm not, I am who I am. I am very insecure and have absolutely NO self confidence whatsoever. Sure, people accept it, but hell if they want to be around me or maintain a relationship, especially women. I've felt like this as far back as I can remember, just a vulnerability, everything strikes to the heart. I can't even really talk to girls that I know well that I'd consider friends. Nothing else matters but confidence. You can be the greatest, sweetest, most honest, forgiving loving person in the entire world, but if no confidence is there, people (especially girls) won't give you a second glance. On the flip side, you can be a complete @$$ with confidence and get places.

The most crucial element is missing in me, I've tried many things, and I'm pissed off that people are so shallow as to hold one thing in such high regard as to relegate all else that is positive irrelevant. I'm 31, have yet to even have a girlfriend yet (a few physical flings here and there), I've never been in love, am lonely, and I'm not getting any younger. Meeting someone to share life with is very important, at least to me. Being lonely really sucks.

How does valuing confidence make someone shallow? That's such a defeatist attitude. Do you really expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself?

Look dude the reason that jerks are sucessful with meeting women is because they are actually putting themselves out there. Meanwhile guys with decent values like yourself sit at home and wait for women to come to you. You need confidence to be able sell to women your honesty, compassion etc.

I couldn't care less.flclempire

Thank you for being the only person on the internet who actually spells that expression correctly.

A coworker introduced this game to me recently. ****in' A. It was out in 2003 but there is a sequel that came out this year. It has elements of RPG, RTS and FPS. There are two factions, Humans and Beasts. The objective of the game is to destroy the enemy stronghold. Each team may have a Commander who plays the game from an RTS perspective by controlling certain AI units to build stuff, find resources etc. Other players take direct control of a military unit who has the ability to level up, respawn after death and buy weapons/items at the cost of gold. There is melee combat but there may also be guns accomodated by a third person or first person perspective respectively. The gameplay is quite involved. If you have played Giants: Citizen Kabuto you might get and idea of the art direction as in the combination of fantasy and sci-fi elements. Well you might like this if you played that anyway. The game is just nuts. I've only just started playing so if there is anything anyone wants to add (whether they have something good or bad to say) then go ahead.

Oh I forgot the most important thing: it is free now.

Screenies from Commander view.

Screenies from ground unit view.

I believe that it is a common issue with Medieval II. What I'd suggest is try to move some stuff from your C: to the other drive and then install the game.Cdscottie

Clever but my C: drive is just bare essential OS stuff. I don't think I can transfer enough to make sufficient room.

are you talking about Medieval II: Total War?

if so, prior to the installation, there's actually a *Choose Destination Location* page. you can change the defult C to anywhere you want.

teardropmina

Sorry, yes I mean Total War but it is the Gold Edition or some such which has its own agenda. I don't get that prompt.

Looks like I maybe to do some cleaning and pissing around with my partitions. Thanks anyway chaps.