Isn't that really irrelevant? His behavior has changed since them, there isn't any way she could have known he would turn like this. I'm scared for her well being at this point, I don't want this to end up like any of the sick stories I hear on the news. She's going in to talk to her general manager to set up a meeting time for them to discuss the issue today, so hopefully this will be resolved and this manager will be taken care of. She'll likely quit after that because neither of us know if this guy is stable, and he has had access to her personal information being manager and all, which is something I worry about as well. But his behavior needs to be reported, spending your time while working constantly badgering an employee some 24 years your junior about not kissing her bf, living with him, shouldn't be with him, going to get sick from him, etc all while in front of other employees is harassment. Then to cross the line and make accusations that you've witnessed the employees boyfriend cheating on her in an attempt to break them up isn't the way a manager this old should be conducting himself, as well as texting the employee and asking to go on dinner dates.I'm just saying that, should this go to trial, or more likely arbitration, NOTHING is irrelevant (at least as far as the defense lawyers are concerned). Do you really think that a defense lawyer wouldn't ask why she followed him to this new restaurant? I'm not saying that he didn't change his attitude towards her, but the question would be raised.[QUOTE="KeitekeTokage"][QUOTE="YellowOneKinobi"]
Not exactly sure how much of a legal case she has. (YOU, from what I understand, have no case because it has nothing to do with you).
I'll just note that in order for a suit to have any teeth, she has to formally complain that she is being harassed by the manager. If upper management doesn't mitigate the situation and lets it continue, THEN you have a case. They can't help her if they don't know it's a problem.
I'm not sure how much it will help her 'case' that she left her job to follow this manager to a new company. It doesn't really paint him as a 'bad guy' from her perspective.
YellowOneKinobi
It's good that she's going to speak to someone over the managers head, because it's important to have this documented. If she hasn't already, I'd advise her to keep a little notebook (at home) with times, dates and locations of when "improper" things are said to her.
As a side note, do I think the manager sounds like a wack-a-do? Of course. But then again I don't know anything besides what you have written here. As far as him saying this or that about living with you, etc, for all I know that could just be part of a personal discussion they had. There are some people that I have worked with for years and after a while, not all conversations in the break room are strictly business. I personally limit the amount of 'personal stuff' that I talk about regarding my own life, but I know plenty of people that are basically an 'open book' and talk about girlfriends, boyfriends, lazy husbands, etc. It's not impossible that his opinions about you are completely warranted (or at least part of a conversation in which he was aksed for his opinion of you). But once again I'll say all I know about this is a few lines written on an internet forum.
You actually sound like a middle management guy flexing your miniscule muscle, worried about the implications for yourself and trying to cover your ass.
Im not saying any of this is true, i just know if that was my scenario... thats the message i would type.
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