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#1 bertainpp7
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If that makes any sense lol. Just a song that completely relaxes your body and mind. Here's mine:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFkmQMJXMaA

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#2 bertainpp7
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[QUOTE="nocoolnamejim"]Standard interpretation of the situation you describe: If you ask a girl out, there are, for the most part, four different responses you can get. 1. Yes - Self explanatory. You're good to go. Have fun on your date. 2. "I'm busy, but I'd like to do it some other time. " - She genuinely does already have plans but really is interested and isn't just blowing you off nicely. If she follows up to suggest another time you're in particularly good shape. 3. "I'm busy, maybe some other time." - She's turning you down and trying to be nice about it. Time to move on. 4. No - Self explanatory. You're done. Time to move on. Just because she isn't interested in you doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like the attention. Since she hasn't suggested another time or indicated an interest beyond the tepid "maybe another time" thing, I'd say you're out of luck on this one.

Yeah I realize that. I just want to be friends with her now though. It's possible she sees me in a different light though, maybe a positive one. This whole thing though, it feels like it wasn't supposed to happen, it literally defied what my brain was conditioned to do 100%. Now I think my brain is trying to work out and incorporate this new concept into my personality. I know that sounds a bit weird but hopefully it's understandable. It gives me an odd sense of confidence however.. that feeling that nothing matters anyways.
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#3 bertainpp7
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Hey, have you ever tried asking her?Agent-Zero
I'm not sure what I would say. Something like "hey, about the movies.. i realize that was kind of weird and.. i don't know.. i'm just have no experience in that sort of thing..'?
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[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]You're speaking like you just flipped a switch that changed humanity forever. Girls go through stages. They change how they look and it's just part of growing into themselves. Sometimes, girls just like makeup. I don't wear it to impress guys, I wear it because I like it. It likely hasn't got a single thing to do with you. If you still want to be friends with her and can do so without having little mental breakdowns every time you're near her, and can accept that she's not really interested in dating you, show her that. Act like a friend, speak to her as a friend. If you're pressure-free and she still doesn't warm up a bit, leave it. It's obvious then that it's not just a case of trying to let the waters settle.

I don't know. Something changed in my head. It's such a shock to me, I'll never be the same. I guess this is a change for the better maybe. I just hate that fact that she sees me as someone different. It's like before, we realized we were both different and not for each other but we respected that and spoke as friends. I've broken that.. I realize I'm making a big deal about this, but it's just how I feel which I can't really seem to control.
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#5 bertainpp7
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[QUOTE="bertainpp7"][QUOTE="Oleg_Huzwog"]

She saw the sort of guy she was drawing, realized she needs to step her game up, and decided to try putting in a little more effort with hair and makeup to see if that works.

Oleg_Huzwog

ouch.... the thought of that actually hurts me..ouch... anyway she looked better without the makeup..............

The pain of rejection will eventually pass. What doesn't pass, and sticks with you for years, is a reputation. You're at the classic post-rejection crossroad right now. One path leads to you being slapped with the creeper label (rightfully or not). The other path allows you to keep your dignity.

I'm actually kind of getting over her. I hope wanting to still do homework with her makes me a creep though.
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She saw the sort of guy she was drawing, realized she needs to step her game up, and decided to try putting in a little more effort with hair and makeup to see if that works.

Oleg_Huzwog
ouch.... the thought of that actually hurts me..ouch... anyway she looked better without the makeup..............
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#7 bertainpp7
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Damn. This is really hard to process. This is just to much for me I don't know. Is it okay to just do homework with her or do you think she doesn't want to be with me at all?

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#8 bertainpp7
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I feel like I've read this before. Anyways she doesn't want to go out with you. She said essentially said no. If she really did want to go out with you then instead of saying "some other time" she would have purposefully made a specific date, like "oh not this friday, how about next". Sorry TC.xTheExploited
OK that's fine. I just don't want things to be awkward between us, I feel like I should tell her that I recognize it was weird asking her and we could just be friends.
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#9 bertainpp7
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So basically we were just school friends. We didn't really have good conversations, but we talked and did our work together like classmates. We see eachother like two times outside of the classroom and we do our work togehter.

Then on Friday I asked her out to the movies at which point she said "I'm busy, maybe some other time."

The whole situation feels very surreal because I can't believe I actually said that. Anyways, I didn't bring it up again since then.

So I've seen her working in the library two times and I sat beside her and did some work. On Monday she seemed to be in a far place in the library so I don't know if she wanted me sitting there. It was kind of awkward but we just had more boring conversation. She acted differently though, she didn't make eye contact with me but otherwise acted fine. But today I noticed when I sat beside her that her hair looked better than it usually does and she was wearing maskera for the first time I've seen her. She avoided eye contact with me while we talked but she did glace at my really quickly for a split second.

I still can't believe I altered my reality so much, I honestly can't believe I asked her out.. It's so hard to believe this reality.

Anyways what do you guys think of the way she's acting or dressing? I'm going early to see if she will sit beside me. I'm not sure if she would just be to friends.. I reallly don't know. She could just not want anything to do with me but is being nice. Help? I'm fine with just being friends with her, but I'm just dying to know what she thinks of this. Bringing it up is risky. I feel different about this at different hours so it's really hard to think.

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#10 bertainpp7
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[QUOTE="travisstaggs"][QUOTE="bertainpp7"][QUOTE="travisstaggs"] If this is serious then at least you went for it.

It is serious. I made a few mistakes, and I knew somewhere in my mind it wouldn't work out. I needed to connect with her more before asking her.. but I wasn't sure exactly how to do it. My perspective about my social life became so warped by emotion I just stuck with the more positive thoughts. This is such a big deal to me because I kept on telling myself I couldn't blow this.... But thanks anyways.

Still, at least you had the balls to ask. A lot of guys would just chicken out or something. I'm sure someone else will come around sooner or later.

Thanks. I'm sure I'll eventually get over this.