All alone, or in twos,
The ones who really love you,
Walk up and down outside the wall.
Some hand in hand,
Some gathering together in bands,
The bleeding hearts and artists,
Make their stand.
And when they've given you their all,
Some stagger and fall.After all it's not easy,
Banging your heart against some mad bugger's wall.Â
One of the primary things that I would like to accomplish with my blog is to not only have a speaking voice in the gaming community, but to better myself as a person by not being another brick in the wall. I want to attempt to set myself apart from the crowds of people that will willingly give their opinion on something, reguardless of whether or not they are ignorant of the subject matter at hand. I know that, in long, heated debates, I have a history of saying things I shouldn't out of frustration because someone else refuses to look at things from my perspective and accept that they might be wrong or, at times, the other way arround. I admit. I am not always right, and I aim to fix this.
 Lets talk about flaming. One of the biggest problems with debates over the internet is that it will quite often result in flinging insults that, if it were in real life, would wind up in violence. Why is this? I have a theory. I believe it is a direct result of the fact that no one knows anyone else. I do not know him, so why should it matter if I hurt his feelings? Besides that, he is hundreds of miles away. What is he going to do about my insulting him? The entire thing seems to based off of the age old saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." The problem with this theory is that it is, simply put, not true. Words do hurt. You never know how someone will react to being flamed. You can call them pathetic for being hurt by words on a screen all you want, but who is truely the bigger man? The one flinging childish insults or the on taking the insults without returning them?
 Another big contributor to flaming is the way that people state their opinions. If you state it like a jackass and say "This sucks because this blows, this blows and this blows," someone who disagrees with you will have an immediate reaction of something like "Hey. Screw you pal." Opinions can be stated without the use of the words "suck" or :"blow" or anything similar. It makes your opinion that much more respectable if you do this.
 It seems like the only message boards I can go to where there is no flaming are the small ones. Everyone knows and respects everyone else on the small boards, so no one flames anyone. Why can't big boards be like this? I know that it is hard to get to know every single person on a large board, but that doesn't mean that people you know deserve more respect than those that you don't. Think about it. You don't know James Hetfield, do you? Most of you would treat him respectfully if you ever did meet him. Why is it different with...well...anyone that isn't famous, really?Â
The solution to this problem is a simple one. Next time you are in a heated debate, stop to think before you type. Think of a better response than a flame and a better vocabulary than the one involving 'curse words.' If someone else flames you, be the better man. Ignore it if you must. If the big man comes at the small man with all his force, it is the wise small man that steps aside. Remember this. It will serve you well. Step aside. Let the other person learn from thier mistakes when it comes back and bites them on the ass.
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