Um, according to my parents (particularly my mom) I, right now, need to know exactly what I'll be doing when I grow up or else I'll "fail" in life (I'm a junior in high school). Not only that but they say I need to be a doctor in order to make it in the real world. This is their excuse to pushing me into med school and forcefully laying everything out for me, and if I don't comply with that they won't support me in any way financially--not with education or anything.
All of these beliefs are truly ridiculous but there's seriously no point in trying to convince them otherwise because they either 1) won't listen, 2) make things up completely to support their claim, 3) assume they know things and/or 4) assume I'm always wrong.
For some reason my mom has this warped belief that if I don't live up to the "best of the best" in my class I'll be some sort of "loser" and "living from paycheck-to-paycheck." And believe me, I'm far from it--I have a 3.3 GPA and scored a 26 on my ACT.
But it's not like I don't try really hard in school. I have ADHD and I believe that's the reason why I study twice (at the very least) as hard as anyone else I know who take the same classes as me. So far I've done 5 AP classes and 5 honors and it has always been too much to handle. You're right in saying that it's not my decision to challenge or pressure myself this much, but you can guess whose it is.
The thing is my parents don't believe me in saying that I work hard. Unfortunately enough they only point out the times I DON'T study (basically when I don't need to or have anything important coming up) and claim that I never do. It's hard enough to have this thrown upon me when all I seem to do is study and work hard, with seemingly nothing else to live for.
It all comes down to me having to go to medical school, my main issue with all this and the real hole that I'm in. It's enough pressure to be expected to perform beyond my own ability, but to go into a field that I'm truly uninterested in...it's just grueling.
I wouldn't expect any of you to relate to this predicament, but ANY kind of idea or guidance would be of great assistance to me.
Tigerman950
Tell your parents that you need to talk to them and have an actual "sit down, formal discussion" and tell them how you feel..For me "high education" has never been the "thing"..my older brother is a paramedic on his way to becoming a firefighter and I'm enlisting in the Army in about 6 months...Neither of us wanted "desk jobs" or be stuck working a 9 to 5 job....Point being that you need to tell your parents how you feel and don't let them tell you what to do.. 
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