Interesting topic, and thank you for sharing your experience.
When I was still undergrad a psychology professor of mine invited me to a cross-dresser group meeting. After regaining my composure (my professor didn't tell me before hand who I was going to meet. Just imagine yourself walking into a roomful of men dressing in women's clothing with wearing make-up, completely unprepare...), my professor proceeded to did a little presentation on something I can't recall exactly. I remember some of the folks there were completely comfortable with themselves and have no trouble opening up to others (myself), and some were obviously haven't quite come to term with it yet. There were a few women there as well, but they were not that vocal and I thought they were a bit out of place in such meeting. Overall the evening went fairly well I think, maybe it was all in my head but I can't help but feel I was getting a bit too much attention from some of the guys there...
Later on my professor told me these folks had to deal with quite a lot in their lives. Basically cross-dressing is just a common ground these folks share. Some only had a fondness for dressing in women's cloth but some actually wanted to go through with the sex-change procedure. To make it more complicated, some of the folks who wanted to change their genders wanted to be in or already was in a relationship with women. First off, how would they classified their relationship? Heterosexual or homosexual? If they are in a relationship already, how would their wife or girlfriend take it? When they got married they probably did not anticipate their husband/bf wanted to have a sex-change. It would be easier to just leave the relationship, but if they decided to support the choice of their husband/bf, does that by default make them lesbians? Besides having to determine their own sexual orientation and gender, they also have to deal with the people they care about in their lives. These folks came a long way indeed.
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