For tonight, this is all I have to say:
http://afghanistan.blogs.cnn.com/2010/03/18/shaming-her-in-laws-costs-19-year-old-her-nose-ears/
I had tears in my eyes as I read the story.
Excerpt from the koran:
4:34 Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.
Translation:
Men are in charge of women, because Allah made men to be better than women. Women must obey men, and if they refuse they must be punished. Refuse to have sex with them and beat them into submission (Islam).
I implore you people of America. dont be so tolerant that you start to tolerate cruelty. No matter what religion, this is not OK. doom3lv
.They [wives] are your garments and you [husbands] are their garments....
[al-Baqarah 2.187]
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.
[al-Rum 30:21]
It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her (in love)..
[al-A'raf 7.189]
(He is) the Creator of the heavens and the earth: He has made for you pairs from among yourselves..
[al Shura 42:11]
There are other quotes for from the Surah's but let me give you some parts from the Hadith's.
"The best among you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to his family"
"The most perfect believers are the best in conduct and the best of you are those who are best to their wives"
"Many women have come to the family of Muhammad complaining about their husbands... Those husbands are not the best of you"3 "By assisting your wives in their household duties, you will receive the reward of sadaqah (charity)"
'A believer must not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he should be pleased with another"
"When a woman breast feeds, for every gulp of milk she will receive a reward as if she had granted life to being, and when she weans her child, the angels pat her on the hack saying, 'Congratulations! All your past sins have been forgiven, now start all over again"
"O women! Remember that the pious among you will enter Jannah (Heaven) before the pious men"
"During pregnancy until the time of childbirth, and until the end of the suckling period, a woman earns reward similar to that of the person who is guarding the borders of Islam"
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Yes it is true there are quotes like the one you said. but you seem to mistake that. there are Imam's like Yusuf Ali and other scholars. the site i found your verse. reads it like this.
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means..."
[al-Nisa' 4.34] (This is only part of the verse i know that, go to the bottom link if you want some more explanations)
and i'll just take a insert from local Muslim website quoting
"Abdullah ibn Abbas , a companion of the Prophet ah, mentioned, with reference to the ayah quoted above, that as men have been granted such a noble position by Allah, they should exercise greater patience. If there is some deficiency on a wife's part, then the husband's position demands that he should accommodate her weaknesses, maintain a patient attitude, and establish consistency in the fulfillment of his rights. In short, marriage is intended to bring mutual benefits to both partners.
A renowned Asian scholar, Hazrat Hakim Akhtar saheb states: "the rights of women have been mentioned before those of men in this verse because man, due to his inherent power and strength, easily obtains his rights from the woman. Thus Allah placed more emphasis upon the rights of women who cannot forcibly obtain their rights".The second point that may be noted from this ayah is that the man should take the initiative in fulfilling his responsibilities, because the Qur'an has mentioned women's rights first. The "degree above" cannot, and must not, be taken to imply male superiority of worth. What it does imply is a greater liability and responsibility, which means that men will be subjected to greater questioning in the Hereafter regarding the treatment of their wives and families. This is hardly what could be described as an enviable position, and some may even consider it "inferior"! The degree in question is nothing more than a means of assuring the maintenance of women, as and when it is necessary. "
http://www.islamiska.org/e/chap3.htm
or you could look at this site "The Feminist Sexual Ethics Project : Special Focus : Islam"
I mean if we wanna play the gender inequality card. i could flash you a New Testament verse 1 Corinthians 14:34 (comes to mind). I mean it was not too long ago that parents would abandon their daughters for having a child out of wedlock here in the United States (meanwhile at the same time there were no girl schools in Saudi..). Now your gonna rake us over the coals because - and i'm gonna be honost here - the Arab world, and the third world by extension hasn't cought to USA/Europe 2010?
Like i said it's a lot less to do with the Quran and a lot more to do with patriachal paternalistic society of the Arab world (and by extension the Asia I.E. The East) on why the treatment of women is the way it is in the Arab world. and you can't really use a simple black brush either across the entire region, Saudi Arabia is as conservative as it gets in the Arab World. Kuwait's parliment recently elected 4 women to it, the first Saudi woman won their first olympic medal (at the Youth Olympics) recently. Things are changing, but you can't expect the Arab world to suddenly go lock step with the West. Change happens in ebbs and flows, and it's a struggle (Jihad.. har har) to get people to change their ways.
Hope this enlightened you a bit. but i'll leave with this (this is perhaps my favorite passage in the Quran)
"Because Allah will never change the grace which He hath bestowed on a people until they change what is in their (own) souls: and verily Allah is He Who heareth and knoweth (all things)." Quran 8:53
or as i understand it in plain english.
"God does not change what is in a people unless they themselves decide to change. God is Hearer, Omniscient."
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