My girlfriend betrayed me...

I've been going out with this girl for 6 months, and we've known each other 3 years before that, and 1 year before us going out we became really good friends. She was like the best girl, hard to find, she never smoked, never done drugs, never drinks, real straight edge.

Over the summer we kinda took a break, we barely saw each other so we just decided to get back together. We talked every once in a little while and I was kinda being dumb, always trying to make sure she wasn't doing anything dumb or doing anything I wouldn't like. She always told me never did anyone went to like 2 parties but she didn't do anything.

After we got back to school I looked through her pictures in her phone and 2 worried me, one was a picture of 2 girls on of them was her and one guy, that I knew was her friend and she was barely in it, only like edge of her face, and another girl and the guys arm was around her, and It looked like it was around her too, she told me it wasn't. I still don't know much about that picture... The other was what looked like 2 girls and one of them my gf again, what looked like the things from the keg where you drink out of but it wasn't. She told me it was nothing I believed her.

She always told me she never did anything never smoked, I believed her and she told me today she smoked Hookah. What's worse is she lied to me and she did it while we were on out break which she told me she never did anything and wouldn't. She lied to me, she said she only did it once. She still did it.

I don't know what to do. I don't know what to think, I don't know if I should break up with her, stay together, just think bout it for a while, I don't know! She's never done anything like this before, I know she has friends who do drugs but she told me she never did, I believe it but now she smoked, which apperantly isn't a drug which is her argument.

Don't say i'm overreacting because she's my first girlfriend and my best friend, things have changed since before summer, and now after it's wierd, what do you think I should do? Should I break it off, this is the worst thing she's done to me, and she's done a lot of things.

She also drank and got drunk on another night, she lied to me about that and it's even worse because who knows what she did when she was drunk, she might not even know...

Dude... For her sake. Break up with her.

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

It's hard when best friends become more, cause trust then becomes more important than anything. It must be hard for you, but I think what you need is a good heart to heart conversation with her, however long it takes, and if it turns out that you are satisfied with everything that she says, then continue the relationship. If you find that you still don't believe her after your talk, then I think there's nothing to save in this relationship since she can't change the way you feel.

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

gotdangit

I know it's not a drug but it's still bad, andI wouldn't care if she did it before we've been dating but she did it while we were taking a break which doesn't even mean we're broken up and she lied to me.

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

gotdangit

Relax--it's not even that serious.

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

swizz-the-gamer

Some people don't understand whats going on but thank you to the people who do.

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

jimmyjammer69

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

gotdangit

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

mindstorm

Hookahs have tobacco in them... just to let you know.mindstorm

[QUOTE="swizz-the-gamer"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

gotdangit

Some people don't understand whats going on but thank you to the people who do.

[QUOTE="mindstorm"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

[QUOTE="jimmyjammer69"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

swizz-the-gamer

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

[QUOTE="swizz-the-gamer"] What is the matter with you? Your her boyfriend not her dad, so what if a guy had his arm around her? So what if she smoked? It's none of your business. swizz-the-gamer

Some people don't understand whats going on but thank you to the people who do.

First, what she smoked is not a big deal. Does she smoke it on a regular basis? If not, why are you concerned? Second, so what if a guy has his arm around her in a picture. She is still allowed to have male friends, who might put their arm around her. I have many female friends who hug me on many occasions while they have boyfriends. Third, you were on a break. What she did while you were on a break is her business. If you wanted to keep it serious, you should have maybe not taken the break?

[QUOTE="swizz-the-gamer"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]Sorry I don't know about you but I like my girlfriend to be in my arms not another guys. Obviously you've never had a girlfriend or you just never cared about them.

Some people don't understand whats going on but thank you to the people who do.

gotdangit

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

dracula_16

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

[QUOTE="jimmyjammer69"][QUOTE="swizz-the-gamer"] Thats one way to look at it... Another would be he's being ridiculous and over dramatic and is probably quite young. swizz-the-gamer

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

gotdangit

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

The difference is that she didn't cheat on you dude, she had a picture taken with a guy who had his arm around her...not all that uncommon.

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

gotdangit

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

Juice_13

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

The difference is that she didn't cheat on you dude, she had a picture taken with a guy who had his arm around her...not all that uncommon.

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

gotdangit

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

gotdangit

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

[QUOTE="Juice_13"]

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]I'm not telling her not to do drugs, or whatever but I do know that if she does then I'm going to break up with her. So either it's the drugs or me.

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

gotdangit

The difference is that she didn't cheat on you dude, she had a picture taken with a guy who had his arm around her...not all that uncommon.

Well, trust is essential to a relationship. If you don't trust her because of stuff she did WHILE YOU WERE ON A BREAK, then end it. Obviously you have already made up your mind about what you are going to do...

i will answer depending on the title, i hate lenthgy read.

if she betrayed you wz anothet man or a woman (it may happen), break wz her, on the other hand if he promised something but she couldn't keep her promise, keep her.........and in both cases it's not the end of the world, GFs are everywhere.

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

gotdangit

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

That is one big contradiction.

The statement about cheating is not relevant whatsoever, because she didn't cheat on you. There's no way that an arm around her for a picture is adultery. All I see is you trying to justify your paranoid thoughts by trying to shift the blame on her. Plus, the actions she did are so minor, so you have no leg to stand on.

It's hard to find a girl like her, and I guess i'm shallow, but if I knew she did it while I went into the relationship I'd be more leniant. And I said it was kinda a break she promised we wouldn't do anything we wouldn't like of each other, does that make sense? She said she wouldn't do anything I didn't like and vise versa.

Also if you take a break with a girl and she sleeps with another guy would you want to get back with her? Because I wouldn't, that's not what a break if for to me. Just time apart, not time to go do whatever you want.

Do you guys have an active sexual life?

If not, it may be she is actually looking for one. :O

On a serious note, prepare yourself, you are now entering a troubling phase of your life where everyone around you changes fast. This real straight edge girl may finish highschoolquite different from what you know (and expect) SO get ready for losing people. Isnt life great?

ALso, you say perfect gilr and straight edge, that's an oxymoron, like jumbo shrimp

[QUOTE="jimmyjammer69"][QUOTE="swizz-the-gamer"] I think he wants some submissive imaginary girl. I'm sorry but I can't recommend that he breaks up with a perfectly nice sounding girl just because she smoked... I think he needs to deal with the fact he's clearly incredibly controlling and insecure or every relationship he ever has is going to go the same way. swizz-the-gamer

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]

You are overreacting to the extreme. As far as I can see, she's under no obligation to be your puppet. You had no business sticking your nose into her private pictures, but even if we ignore that, you are trying too hard to control her. Maybe it's time you found someone who likes having no say in what she does.

dracula_16

And if you are going out with and girl and she cheats on you, and you say don't do that or even before she does is that controlling, because I think everyone controls then, it's a given.

That is one big contradiction.

The statement about cheating is not relevant whatsoever, because she didn't cheat on you. There's no way that an arm around her for a picture is adultery. All I see is you trying to justify your paranoid thoughts by trying to shift the blame on her. Plus, the actions she did are so minor, so you have no leg to stand on.

You're freaking out over her puffing on a Hookah? Are you kidding me?

It's hard to find a girl like her, and I guess i'm shallow, but if I knew she did it while I went into the relationship I'd be more leniant. And I said it was kinda a break she promised we wouldn't do anything we wouldn't like of each other, does that make sense? She said she wouldn't do anything I didn't like and vise versa.

Also if you take a break with a girl and she sleeps with another guy would you want to get back with her? Because I wouldn't, that's not what a break if for to me. Just time apart, not time to go do whatever you want.

gotdangit

You're freaking out over her puffing on a Hookah? Are you kidding me?

Velocitas8

It's good OT material. So it's serious

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

I can't respect her anymore after that, she asked me whati'm going to do, she knows how I feel, she knows all these things she has stayed with me and i've stayed with her, I don't know whats going to happen now.

swizz-the-gamer

Look at his youtube vids he is young. But still at that age you should srsly be having fun not being an uptight *@!?$ about everything.

I know I get paranoid and I'm also the jealous type, she knows that, she of all people knows that better then anyone else. Does that help in this situation? It's not somethingI can control.

gotdangit

So then she is required to accept your imperfections but you cannot accept anything wrong that she does? I'm sensing a double standard. Btw, if you want the relationship to last, then you need to learn how to control it.