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#1 The_Versatile
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A life solely centered on the now is a sad existence. entropyecho
Actually, it's extremely satisfying! :o
The present is an ever-fleeting moment. entropyecho
Ever-fleeting? That word contradicts itself. If we are ALWAYS in the present (and we are), then it is never fleeting. It just is what is. It's all we know, it's all we have, it's all that's guaranteed.
I am not saying to deny enjoyment in the present, but you need to have some blueprint for the future. Sure, the future is unpredictable and a lot can happen, but it's better to have a general idea about your life and your goals, to prevent you from vacilating back and forth with every passing day, week, month and year, until the time comes when you stop and ask yourself - what am I doing here? what have I accomplished? where am I going? You lose your sense of self and there is nothing fun about that.entropyecho
A general idea, I can grant you that. No problem there. But isn't that just what we'd call "dreaming" anyway? It's when people begin to fill that "general" idea with all sorts of exact stipulations and (what they think are necessary) characteristics that things get too heavy to handle, and ends up backfiring on them, causing much more problems than just not trying at all would have caused. Planning so specifically for the future and having such a detailed plan that you try to stick to so rigourously is impossile. Real life always gets in the way, and when it does, you get pissed that your plans have been foiled. When all you really need to do is let go, and roll with the ripples of life. :) (Such a new-age hippie, I know)
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#2 The_Versatile
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[QUOTE="The_Versatile"][QUOTE="Mikey132"]Following a women around the world that will break your heart and leave you a broken man=Bleh compaired to other things :)entropyecho

It would be, if she breaks his heart... but who's to say that will happen? You guys are jumping to conclusions. Many a beautiful relationship has been etched in time upon a genuine dedication to each other. An undeniable mutual ascent, built upon support, compassion, and living spontaneously.

This is entirely consistent with her moving halfway across the globe without him. The secret to a healthy relationship is being with someone who knows your roots, values and shares them too. It's about looking in the same direction in life and being on the same page (but necessarily having the exact same viewpoint) on a lot of issues like family, money, work, sex, children, etc. Relationships based or fed on spontaneity die quickly. Why you ask? Because people lack the patience and will to see things through the tough times - it's all about adventure and excitement to most; the desire to experience something new. There can be no solid foundation in a relationship based on spontaneity, just like there can be no meaningful, fulfilling relationship based on sex.

Dude... :( The foundation is built upon the experiences you share together, learning about yourself and each other simultaneously, while living spontaneously. You can't control anything.
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#3 The_Versatile
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[QUOTE="Morning_Revival"]Why? Because I followed my heart because I only live once?entropyecho

A philosophy of Carpe Diem will not necessarily give you a happy life. You need to think practically and carefully about your future. Don't rely solely on your heart - you have a brain too.

Thinking about the future will jar your mind. You can't predict what will happen, and you can't prepare for what you can't see coming. Is the future even guaranteed? All that matters is now... for now.
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#4 The_Versatile
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[QUOTE="BlueBirdTS"]

[QUOTE="Morning_Revival"][QUOTE="BlueBirdTS"]

I bet you'll be eating your words in a few years if you do drop.

Why? Because I followed my heart because I only live once?

No, because you gave up financial security potentially for a girl that, no offense, but you probably won't have a relationship with for more than a few years. There are lots of opportunities to meet girls you love. You've only got one shot at college. Just my two cents, take 'em or leave 'em for what they're worth.

You're comparing his experience to yours. That's utter nonsense... with all due respect. If one of them decides they don't love the other anymore, it'll happen. He doesn't have to just say goodbye to her forever, simply because someone's trying to convince him to obtain a selfish career instead. The career will happen anyway. It's not like he can only do one thing at a time. Why should he quit on a girl he loves, for no good reason?
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Following a women around the world that will break your heart and leave you a broken man=Bleh compaired to other things :)Mikey132
It would be, if she breaks his heart... but who's to say that will happen? You guys are jumping to conclusions. Many a beautiful relationship has been etched in time upon a genuine dedication to each other. An undeniable mutual ascent, built upon support, compassion, and living spontaneously.
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#6 The_Versatile
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[QUOTE="BlueBirdTS"]

[QUOTE="Morning_Revival"]

And for all of you saying that college is more important, I disagree. I dont even want to go to college, its being forced on me so I could care less if I drop it.

I bet you'll be eating your words in a few years if you do drop.

Don't be so sure. ;)
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#7 The_Versatile
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[QUOTE="6_volts"][QUOTE="Mikey132"]

You should wish here luck and move on if she stays. I'm 28, I've loved girls. You have no need to follow a girl around the world at your age my friend. Hearts break, yet heal in time.

She is going there for "herself". You need to think about "yourself" You are much too young to let love break your heart.

That's true, love comes and goes but his education is important.

Ehhh... real education comes from life experience... Life is short and you only get one. I don't think people should make their money-making endeavours the number one thing in life. It's important sure, but not so important that it should comsume someone. When you die, do you want to say, "Well at least I made a lot of money!", or would you rather say, "well, I sure lived a full life, had many thrilling satisfying experiences, explored all that intrigued me, faced all my fears and conquered them, shared my life with others and allowed them to share theirs with me, and passed on all that I learned to my seeds...". Money = Bleh... in comparison to other things.
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#8 The_Versatile
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If you really love her, then go for it man, do whatever it takes to be with her. I've learned through my mistakes that there's nothing more important than love

-Sniper99-
Aww that's so sweet. :lol: No seriously though, I agree with you. Although, he still shouldn't worry about it until it happens, if it even happens. Maybe she'll say "Australia sucks balls", and then come right back home. Who knows... Then all that worrying was for nothing, and he stressed out and accelerated his aging process for nothing. You don't want to go bald in your 20s, do you?!?!
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#9 The_Versatile
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Yep. I think this is the perfect time to retire. Goodnight all!MotherSuperior
Peace. :)

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#10 The_Versatile
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Why don't you just wait until she makes a final decision before you start sweatin' buckets over it. Enjoy your time together until then. Play it as it happens. If you waste all your energy on worries, you'll have nothing left when it comes time to make an important decision.