My girl "friend" may be pregnant

Have you spoken to the parents?

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] it's not just that, but he hates her and her guts and doesn't want anything to do with her but making her miserable and stuff cuz she still can't get over himDigitalExile

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She's definitely pregnant. Do not have an abortion, or at least encourage her to not have one!

If you love her, you'd be with her with a baby or without one.

if her ex hates her so much, I'd sure as hell not want to be caring for his child. Best have a abortion now then your not stuck caring for it.

If you are implying that her and her ex have gotten back together in the past month, well she hasn't. He hates her and has a new gf himself and is always sending her texts to bring her down or to make her suicidal. She told me she never wanted to see him again and stuff so it's w/e. But no, they haven't gotten back together.MaddenBowler10

What's wrong with kids nowadays, don't they teach the basics of sexual intercourse anymore at school? Might be a coincidence but a similar case happened to the son of a friend of my mother. Guy is 18 years old and just learned he would be a dad from another 18 years old who actually got aborted not once but twice already. I call congratulation on these folks for ruining their future by being idiots.

In any case, in your position i would put the relationship on hold until this figure itself out. Stay as a friend, support her but don't openly start a love relationship with her until you know who the father is, at least you will know if she blatantly lied to you or what not. You cannot have a relationship with someone without trust, love or not, you might be the one being hurt in the end if you find out she lied and is just using you.

She probably need more moral support right now than a relationship anyway and it's most definitely not your responsibility to take care of the kid. It's the father and mother one and you should stay out of the picture until they get it straight.

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] If you are implying that her and her ex have gotten back together in the past month, well she hasn't. He hates her and has a new gf himself and is always sending her texts to bring her down or to make her suicidal. She told me she never wanted to see him again and stuff so it's w/e. But no, they haven't gotten back together.DigitalExile

What's wrong with kids nowadays, don't they teach the basics of sexual intercourse anymore at school? Might be a coincidence but a similar case happened to the son of a friend of my mother. Guy is 18 years old and just learned he would be a dad from another 18 years old who actually got aborted not once but twice already. I call congratulation on these folks for ruining their future by being idiots.

In any case, in your position i would put the relationship on hold until this figure itself out. Stay as a friend, support her but don't openly start a love relationship with her until you know who the father is, at least you will know if she blatantly lied to you or what not. You cannot have a relationship with someone without trust, love or not, you might be the one being hurt in the end if you find out she lied and is just using you.

She probably need more moral support right now than a relationship anyway and it's most definitely not your responsibility to take care of the kid. It's the father and mother one and you should stay out of the picture until they get it straight.

do not abort that teh babie! be a good dad and love teh baby!

[QUOTE="battlefront23"]

She's definitely pregnant. Do not have an abortion, or at least encourage her to not have one!

If you love her, you'd be with her with a baby or without one.

_en1gma_

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="DigitalExile"]That's not what I meant. What I meant was you don't want to be romantically linked to someone who still has feelings for an ex, particularly an ex whose baby she might be having. You also don't want her to latch onto you and use you. I'm not saying that she will, but it's psossible she might. It also appears she doesn't want to be in a relationship, and this could quite possibly be the reason why. If I were you, tell her you care about her but back out of the romantic relationship. Let her know the two of you are good friends and you'll be there for her when she needs you; keeping it romantic will just put unneeded pressure on both of you.

_en1gma_

I understand that, but it's my way of cooling things down as much as i can between us. It's her problem, I just don't want that problem to ruin anything we have. Even though it probably will screw things up, it's not impossible to keep things intact as long as there is trust and support from each other.

MaddenBowler10

get out as fast as possible. don't be the sucker that takes care of someone elses baby. you can do way better than that

get out as fast as possible. don't be the sucker that takes care of someone elses baby. you can do way better than that

CraftTeutonic

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

[QUOTE="_en1gma_"] Except it WILL be a burden on the relationship and both of your lives. How do you not understand that?neo_starwind

[QUOTE="CraftTeutonic"]

get out as fast as possible. don't be the sucker that takes care of someone elses baby. you can do way better than that

battlefront23

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] I understand that, but it's my way of cooling things down as much as i can between us. It's her problem, I just don't want that problem to ruin anything we have. Even though it probably will screw things up, it's not impossible to keep things intact as long as there is trust and support from each other.

battlefront23

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

[QUOTE="_en1gma_"] Except it WILL be a burden on the relationship and both of your lives. How do you not understand that?_en1gma_

get out as fast as possible. don't be the sucker that takes care of someone elses baby. you can do way better than that

I didnt read throughout the thread but RUN for the hills. Do NOT father another baby. Only do so if the father wants no part.

I can't believe this doofus is in college. You seriously are dumb bro.

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] I understand that, but it's my way of cooling things down as much as i can between us. It's her problem, I just don't want that problem to ruin anything we have. Even though it probably will screw things up, it's not impossible to keep things intact as long as there is trust and support from each other.

Run. Run NOW!

I'm sure all this fear is consequence enough. It isn't human's fault that they get sexual desires naturally...why do men produce obnoxious amounts of sperm everyday in the first place so they always want to release it? If she can accept that she needs to be more careful after this incident, why shouldn't she abort the baby so she can bring a life into this world when her and a stable partner can effectively raise it into this world? If I were aborted, I wouldn't have a consciousness to ponder on that quote...it is just completely irrelevant. I'm not going to get into the argument of whether or not it is a life yet...but my stance is that it is NOT a life yet. No...but being young means you have less capability to raise a child in the right environment. Young people should get there lives straight first...college, successful career, house, etc..._en1gma_

get out as fast as possible. don't be the sucker that takes care of someone elses baby. you can do way better than that

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"][QUOTE="battlefront23"] Babies =/= ruin relationships. In fact, if they did ruin the relationship, it probably wasn't a good relationship to begin with. Please DON'T encourage her to have an abortion!

_en1gma_

I want to give it a chance, I like this girl a lot and she means a lot to me and has been basically my life for a while now..no point in ditching her cuz her ex got her pregnant

[QUOTE="mattbbpl"][QUOTE="battlefront23"] Selfishness. That's all it is.battlefront23

ok i heavent read the entire thing but from what i know.. run for the hills bro. dont stick around, youve only been with her for 3 months how the hell can you say you love her? youre 19 and shes 18. when youre an old man who got nowhere in life cuz u had to dip out of college to raise some other guys kid oyull look back and say. damn i was one hell of an idiot. just cut it off or push her down a flight of stairs if you really think youll never find someone else. ( that was an abortion joke BTW i dont want to get modded for that)

Is having the desire to do something justification for its consequences? Sperm exists for reproductive purposes.

Adoption is ALWAYS a better option. Everyone has a right to life.

There are no "Get out of jail free cards" in life; you must accept the consequences of your actions.

harashawn

run. run as fast as u possibly can.

theres other chicks u can date... if uve been dating her for 2 months, its time o leave when u hear this ...

a) gamespot forum ... nota good place to get thesekinds of answers.

b)run.

[QUOTE="_en1gma_"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] She already said she will not have an abortion and I support her decision, I'm just telling her some things so things will be fine for us and that nothing has to change because of this possibility of a baby.MaddenBowler10

I want to give it a chance, I like this girl a lot and she means a lot to me and has been basically my life for a while now..no point in ditching her cuz her ex got her pregnant

[QUOTE="_en1gma_"][QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"] She already said she will not have an abortion and I support her decision, I'm just telling her some things so things will be fine for us and that nothing has to change because of this possibility of a baby.MaddenBowler10

I want to give it a chance, I like this girl a lot and she means a lot to me and has been basically my life for a while now..no point in ditching her cuz her ex got her pregnant

wow you guys he is confused quit calling him stupid and idiot and such, i think you need to talk about all of this with her basically anything you said on this forum you should be talking about it wiht her. And i think its great that you wanna try to help her and be their for her but they are right you have to look to your future too and how it will affect you. think about when you were younger where did you see yourself as a 19 year old try to do things that make you happy though because life is too short so enjoy the little things. as for leaving her i dont think you can you are already in this situation so sorry but deal with it in the way you want to dont ask anyone else, its your life.

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]

[QUOTE="_en1gma_"] Goodness, man...you need to accept the fact that everything will change once a baby comes into her life. This kind of thought is what caused the pregnancy in the first place.Tjeremiah1988

I want to give it a chance, I like this girl a lot and she means a lot to me and has been basically my life for a while now..no point in ditching her cuz her ex got her pregnant

ABORTION now.. GOnimatoad2000